Do you wish you could go out more often?
By jugsjugs
@jugsjugs (12967)
October 3, 2009 5:44pm CST
I am a person who used to go out twice a week with friends of an evening,then i cut that down to once a week.A few months ago i went through a stage where as i was ill and laid up in bed and did not want to go out.Then when i was better i wanted to go out more.The problem is i have six children and one of those plays my husband up really bad so i can not.
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16 responses
@Graceekwenx (3160)
• Philippines
3 Oct 09
Me too. I need a break from minor depression and work tension. My friends would always ask me to fly out of town to have breather but i just couldnt because im broke. They would ask me to dine out with them but then again i cant coz i'm broke. sob....
@catiebaby12346 (65)
• United States
4 Oct 09
i try to go out as much as i can too but i have school and i work so its hard i dnt really get to go out with all the stuff i have to do. I wish i had more time to go out
@celticeagle (167211)
• Boise, Idaho
9 Oct 09
With six children going out very often is probably not much of an option, especially in this economy. I would probably be in a mental ward somewhere if I had that many kids. You could do other things. Get into the kids and have kids night. Game night. Mom and dad night. Stuff like that. I used to go alot and really got addicted to it. Now I could care less if I ever went out again. Try to figure out why you want to go out. Is it to get away or to drink or have fun with your friends again or what. Figure that out and then you may be able to get a better handle on options.
@Picquarian (724)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Although I do enjoy being alone, everyone needs some sort of social interaction. I suffer from social anxiety disorder, so it's often hard to motivate myself to go out, but I always feel better when I do. Socializing is part of our overall wellness.
@webnoor (4)
• India
4 Oct 09
I am person who love to spend my time with my family. I go out often but I love to go out with my wife and kids. WIthout them I dont have any fun. WIth the recession and layoffs I found my wallet little slim so I was looking more in the direction of earning money rather than spending it.
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@Wizzywig (7847)
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4 Oct 09
My 78 year old mum has a far better social life than I do! My big treat is to go late night grocery shopping on my way home from work . My children are grown up now so aren't at home anymore but my husband is... 24/7. Now and again, I just get in the car early in the morning and take off for the day - just to have a bit of space. I take a book & sit in a park or somewhere or have a walk. I think its time for another one of those days....
@Rainegurl (2156)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Hi, jugsjugs
I go out often enough. My husband and I like dining out and hanging out in coffee shops with some close friends. We do not have kids yet so we can go out as we please. What I really wish for, though, is a vacation. We are both a little stressed out with our jobs and a time away would really be nice.
Take care!
@neelianoscet (9615)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
I wish too and if I have an extra money i like to go out most of the time and travel in far places as I really feel bored in my places. I like to meet new friends, learn other cultures and see new beautiful places. The only things which could remove my boredom is doing mylotting, watching movies and receive call from my friend and they are enough to put a smiles on my face.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Hm, I think everyone, even busy moms/dads need to get out, each alone, and then again together as a couple, if they can. When my kids were young, that was a thing reserved for only special things, such as birthdays and anniversaries, though.
It did help to have other couples and their kids over. The adults can play cards and such while the children play. Or...we'd all take turns going to each other's houses.
I no longer have those responsibilities, but I did have to cut expenses...a lot!! I almost never go out now. I miss a meal out each week or a movie or shopping for fun sometimes, though.
But I had to do what was most necessary for the time being.
Karen
@rosepedal64 (4188)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Hi jugsjugs
How are you today? I hope that you are over that cold. I didn't know that you have six children. I only had two and that was a handful for me. You are a brave woman. I usually don't go out either but thats not to say that I would like to do that. I think that would be a great stress reliever. I hope that you get to go back out with your friends real soon. Keep smiling...
@much2say (55686)
• Los Angeles, California
4 Oct 09
Goodness - I didn't realize you had six children!! I only have one with another one on the way.
I am totally into family life now, so I enjoy doing things with my husband and child. We see fellow mom friends and their children during the day - so that takes care of some of my socializing - hee hee. Many of my friends are not married nor have children, so it's not like I want to do the same things they want to do anymore . . . but we do still keep in touch often and that's fine with me.
I don't go out, say on a girls night out because of the reason I stated above. But I do love some time for myself. My husband will come home from work early at times - and I'll go out to shop or whatever while he is with our daughter. Sometimes, though rarely, I will have a date night with my husband - and honestly, I enjoy that more than being with my girlfriends!
A parent education teacher once said to us moms, that remember your spouse is also
the parent . . . it's ok to let him be a parent on his own and let him deal with issues and your child will learn to deal with him too . . . especially if it's only a couple/few hours. You probably have a lot of alone time with your kids, so you deserve a break too! If he's willing, take advantage of it! Hope you get to go out more often if you can!!
@karenkarenkk (1121)
• China
4 Oct 09
Wow, Jugsjugs, I am wondering how you can manage to go out twice a week that having six children around you. I only have a son and he keeps me busying all the time after I back home from my job. I go out for shopping only when there is a need, like today, I brought him to supermarket for shopping, but he feel into sleep while I did not get things ready with my shopping list... I just avoid to go out...
@liujuanxh (170)
• China
4 Oct 09
Yes,i like to go out to play with my friends.I donot like to stay at home all the time,i like to go out to go shopping,sing and do other things.
But for you ,you already have your family and children,i think it is no good to go out often.
@jsilver09 (117)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Wow! At least once a week... That is great... Unless it was family related I have not had the chance to get out. I have only one kid. But in his few short years of life I have only been out twice for a mommy night out. Sure, I take him along to resturants, and other places, we are not just homebodies but that is a different story.
Just this week i went out to a night club. Before i had my son, I worked in night clubs for many years. Now getting out hearing the music, and seeing the people was a great night. Now, I have all the offers in the world to get out to clubs like every night of the week. Which I know I can't, I don't even have a baby-sitter, I am single mother.. So, I would hope to get out once a week if I can.
Yeah, I really wish I could it is great to relax, i don't need to drink and come home stumbling or anything.. Just have some good times dancing or talking with other people out there.
@doormouse (4599)
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4 Oct 09
i've been ill with M.E and other stuff for the past 5+ yrs,so in that time i've hardly been out,but now i'm having a good patch i can't wait to start going out again,i'm going to wait til i move in a few weeks though,coz at the moment i live in the country and it's difficult to go out,but i'm moving into town,so ' hello pubs,here i come'