Reason why men dump their women

By fler
@feodda (579)
Philippines
October 3, 2009 9:40pm CST
What are the reasons why men dump girlfriend/wife? It is very common thing in the breakups. * Men got bored. * One of us was too serious with the relationship * Burnout * Men tempted to cheat * All my friends broke up with their girlfriends * Divergent Lives * Feeling Selfish * Men "Misread" their feelings * My friends and Family didn't like her * Men took her for granted * She was too negative. In my own experience, my ex-boyfriend was cheated on my back. For a long period of time, He was having an affair with another girl. He really change in many ways. To the point, I was very worried about him then into the extend that I went through depression. Men are very selfish in a way that wanted to be happy and not looking that they have hurt the one they loved. And take us for granted. It is so sad to feel that way, but this is all true. This is the reality of the relationship.
1 person likes this
15 responses
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
4 Oct 09
I'd say there are heartless women and men out there definitely. Some guys are heartbreakers and they would go all the way to manipulate and hurt, and there are also women like that too. It depends on the person entirely..in terms of personality of that person personally.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
5 Oct 09
Used to be a player; now not anymore. I lost count... But now dating zilch. I'm a kind person nowadays, really2x...
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
7 Oct 09
Thanks, vandana... And to both vandana and wit, ssssssssh..we'll keep this under wraps aite. ..whoever reads, reads..
@vandana7 (100603)
• India
5 Oct 09
Hi zed, I have to give it to u. There are heartless women out there. :) They look only at money and more money. :) Insecurities. And misterwit, please understand zed has reformed - he wont be looking around even if others are eyeing him. LOL.
1 person likes this
@BlueGoblin (1829)
• United States
4 Oct 09
Men and women dump each other because they no longer feel connected with that person. They could have found a stronger connection with another person. Some men might not be able to connect with any women. He might enjoy multiple flings with multiple women. Some are just looking for something better and don't feel like settling.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Kinda true. Afraid of commitment, and don't want to settle yet.
@Archie0 (5652)
4 Oct 09
Simple, because the man thinks the girl is ugly, or he found something else. Or the girl isn't giving up the big chicken dinner. But mainly because the girl is ugly. And it's the truth men don't look at women and thier values for attration, they look at thier physical beauty. And we give BS reason because we can't think of anything else. Look men look care about values like women do, we just don't
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Girl, your very wrong in your opinion. We're talking about dumping girls not why not courting her. If that is the reason of the guy. How disgusting of him, at the first place he will not court the girl or go on with the relationship if he find the girl ugly. I know guys really look first with physical beauty next the inner beauty while the girls looks for inner beauty next with physical beauty.
• India
4 Oct 09
dear feodda .I do not know the actual cause that for which this question raised in your mind ??i am not going to give you the answer as i am a male but i am going to give you the response as because i have never dumped any body.Trthough i agree that i have not fallen in love yet but a human i have never thought about dumping any body in dream also..whu r thinking that men dump women.good men never do that???atleast we indians never do that??
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Because this happen to me. My ex dumped me because of another women.
• United States
4 Oct 09
feodda, if your ex umped you for another woman then why would you want to be with him anyway? he clearly isn't a keeper. I say you're better off in this way in the end.
@picjim (3002)
• India
4 Oct 09
I can only say it varies from person to person.I've seen girls dump men and men going from affair to affair.It all depends on the person and i feel one can't make a broad generalization.Ultimately it all boils down to the personality of the person.
• India
4 Oct 09
yes dear friend.u r 100% right.really not only men dump women,women also dump men.it compeletely depends upon mentality that how much a person ih honest??
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
hi, this was one of the featured items at yahoo. i have read this discussion there too.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Yes, it is. I just get the reasons from them. But the experience is my own experience. There discussion content is different from mine, because I based this in my life.
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
There are more reasons that there are men who just dump their women afterwards but in your site reasons, I must say that most guy do that. But on behalf of the other guy, there are women who also take for granted the sincerity of men because they are too good to be true that guy love them so much no matter what. I believe that women need to limit their feelings towards men for not being dump. Don't give too much, just leave something for yourself.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
Thanks a lot. I know I have to love myself before loving another guy again. I wanted to be whole after the hurricane that I went through. And loving another someone special again, I should be more careful and love him and love myself too.
@manong05 (5027)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
They can be the same reasons why women dump their men too. Whatever the reason maybe, one thing is obvious, they fell out of love or there was no genuine love to start with. Otherwise love will see them through all the difficulties encountered. "Dump" is a very sad and unfortunate word. As if it implies people as not persons who deserves respect and can be dumped like objects. Sad as it is, this this is a graphic word that describes what really is happening. Have fun!
• India
4 Oct 09
Even Being A Man Myself, I Can't Understand The Ways Of Some Men .. I Can Understand a Woman's Feeling Of Betrayal .. I Think The Signs Of Betrayal Doesn't Sink In A Man As Soon As The Act is Committed .. It Will Surely Hit Him Badly At Some Point Of Time In His Life .. It Is Dangerous To Even Think Of Betraying The Trust Of Someone Who Has Given Her Everything To You .. But It Also Happens Sometime That The Woman Is Also Responsible For The Breach Of Trust .. You Can Never Generalize, Though You Might Have Been Cheated Upon .. Don't Think Me As An Intruder Barging Into Your Discussion For Nuisance/Nonsense .. I Am just Making My Views Clearer ..
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Not all men are like that as others too have sensitive feelings they just do not show it. It just happen that you encounter a wrong guy and you have to thanks you self that you know his real attitude the earlier that you know his defects, the earlier the better. It means you are not really destined to be with each other and the break up happen because some good things are about to be happen and that is when you could finally meet the ideal man not really the perfect man as their is no perfect man, but only full of flaws.
@maezee (41988)
• United States
4 Oct 09
I saw this on Yahoo - but didn't actually look at it. I've never been dumped by a guy - but granted, I've only had 3 boyfriends - and every time I broke up with THEM.
@feodda (579)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
yahh... it is in Yahoo. Its just because I have experience this recently this year. Having dump with my boyfriend with another girl.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
you already have the list of the reasons why men dumped women. but for me, the reason why men leaves women is just because men are getting tired of the woman's attitude, i know men don't want to get nag by their girls.
• Canada
5 Oct 09
Yes that's true on all levels. I've been married for 18 years and my husband is a selfish jerk. Why, today in the grocery store he humilliated me and put me down because I wanted to buy decaffineated tea and there wasn't a cheaper brand of it. I was accused of wanting the most expensive thing in the store. It wasn't true, everything that we bought today was on sale or a cheaper brand. I was just mortified and really angry. There's other ways that my husband is selfish and nasty, but I won't go into them here. Oh yeah, I'm leaving him as soon as possible. So please don't write me and ask why I'm not leaving, I am.
@vandana7 (100603)
• India
4 Oct 09
Hi feodda, it is quite common for men to boast about how many girls they have been with and this is the reason most of the relationships break off. :( Depending upon which age u have the boyfriend. It also depends upont the kind of household that boy comes from. If he sees his mother struggling, and has respect for her, chances are he wont leave u. If he sees no hardships, and is overindulged by his parents, then chances are he would leave u. If he comes from a household where father is domineering, then again he wont leave u, unless u give him valid reasons to. As can be seen from this, about 1/3rd of the boys are likely to leave their girlfriends, and merely look at having a girlfriend as something of a timepass. :( Girls, on the other hand want it to be perfect like films. If they are from broken families, they desperately want everything right. It doesnt work that way. :(
@vopols (204)
• Philippines
4 Oct 09
Good day to you my friend feodda. Nowadays as the population of men is decreasing while the population of women is increasing it is indeed a reality that some men do dump their Girlfriends but what really is the reason why this is happening? Is it because men can be tempted easily by women? There are a lot or reasons why men would do dumping and some of the reasons are already written by you feodda. It's seems that your depressed with the kind of relationship you've I can feel it.Relationship depends from person to person are you really sure that what had happened between you and your boyfriend can all be blamed by him? What could be the reason why he did that to you? Based on your statement there was an an affair why did he do that to you did you ever say no to him whenever he wanted to have an affair with you? Or maybe that was just the reason why he cheated on you. If your answer is NO well I can assume that your boyfriend is not contented you know what I mean.But if your answer is yes that you did say no probably that could be the reason why he had an affair with another women because he cannot get it from you. I agree with you men are sometimes selfish not just selfish but immature. They sometimes doesn't really care about hurting other what they want is to attain physical satisfaction. Relationship is not just an affair it is a test of how responsible one is and a test on one's loyalty and faith towards his or her partner.
@Craicha (801)
4 Oct 09
and dump there women coz they are not ready yet....and lost of attraction 2 d woman...and most of all theres no spark or love he feels aready......but its always like this or vice versa to the women ..the fact there that it should be part ways if both is not meant for each..:)