I'd rather be called "white trash" than pretentious!

hi miamilady I also very much dislike people being judgmental as one does not know anything about the person you are judging and nine tenths of the time you are so very wrong it is sickening. You are not a hypocrite because you dislike people who judge others all the time. It is very wrong of us to judge others as we do not have any of the facts, and besides what makes us the judge and jury anyway? I have never quite understood what constitutes white trash. but being pretentious I can fathom as I have known people who literally walk around with their noses uplifted as though the odor of we ordinary mortals is just too too disgusting to breathe. They are the ones who dig through their ancestry trying to find a link to Lords and Ladies of the wealthy class.

you are allowed to judge people who are judgemental trashikins. hey i have been judged, well here mainly, too many times to count. i'm going to just start signing myself off as 'pompous, undereducated, nosy, obama supporting, royalist,commie bunny'. since not one of those applies to me i think it would be perfect. btw sorry for going off on a tangent about ME there...

Yeah, well I've been finding myself guilty of that particular crime myself, a lot here lately, judgmental and unnecessarily cruel people pi$$ me off and I find myself getting angry and down to their level all too easily...

I'm afraid I don't know what "white trash" means. As for being judgemental, I did a discussion on being judgemental way back when I first started and nobody really got what I was saying if I remember rightly. People say it's wrong to be judgemental and people deny they are judgemental but we make judgement calls all the time. Any time you decide that you don't like someone for some reason, and we all do that, it's a judgement call. We put everyone we meet in some sort of little box and that's a judgement call each time and it can be a positive or a negative thing. All those adjectives that describe people are a judgement so how can people say they are not judgemental and why is being judgemental deemed a negative thing. To me, it's natural.

Honestly, I really don't like being called either one, but this is really because I have been called "White Trash" by my neighbor about 3 times now this past month. And it is also they way he says it. I really don't like when others are judgmental like this. One thing is to think something privately and then another is to actually call someone something like this to their face. Have a nice day and happy myLotting!!!

I totally agree. What in the world would make you a hypocrit anyway? I can remember going to visit someone who was in prison and staying with a friend of theirs for a few days. The place was horrid and things went on that were alittle sad but I had the best time. We talked about cooking and I got some very good recipes. The woman was really very nice and doing the best she could. I also remember going to stay with a friend of mine who was very pretentious and I was nervous and really didn't have that great time. I would definitely go with the white trash.

First No one calls my friends either in my presence! those are fighting words! I'm sorry I just had to say that first. I think the a$$holes who think of you as either of these don't know you at all1 It is sad if they consider themselves " friends". No friend would call you either! I think you are not a hypocrite for feeling the way you do. I feel sorry for these idiots who Have to pay attention to a person's " station" in life instead of the connect they might have with the person. This post reminds me of two lyrics from songs I like . The first " I have friends in low places" And the other. " I rather laugh with the sinners and cry with the saints." Keep being you and just pitty the dimwits for not being open enough to really enjoy the people around them.

I wouldn't enjoy being called either, just because they're merely labels, but I do know what you mean. Basically I feel that to consider someone as judgmental we would need to be faced with a person that doesn't only judge others, but criticizes them as well, and feels above them. Other than that it is just normal, after all we have to judge things and people all the time. We do it when we make friends, or decide to choose this store instead of that one, or when we apply to a job .... in every single decision we have to judge something/someone somehow. Feeling that someone is pretentious - and that is a personal judgment of course, others might not feel the same - is , I think , part of a natural selection. We select the people we have more affinity with and to what degree, according to the values and perspectives those people have. The farthest away from ours, the easier it will be to "judge" them if for anything just for differences. But that doesn't necessarily make us judgmental, in my opinion. It simply means that we cataloged some information and evaluated it. Now, if we not only acknowledged the information, but made a point to comment, ridicule, look down at, etc ,at that people, than that would rate as being judgmental in my book. We all see things according to our perspectives which can be as different as possible from others, and we look for others that have perspectives that are closer to ours. To do so we need to "judge" the information we get. But we don't have to be malicious about it by being "judgmental" .

Hi miamilady, well we don't have any of these white trash types over here, instead we have what could be called the old fashioned peasant type, and good fun as long as not too interbred. There appears to be some rather pretentious types on here who are best avoided, I 've noticed how when thsy start to become avoided by many they usually discover god and go on a preaching spree to find some new friends.

Nobody never yet called me being a pretentious because I never pretend or disguise to be someone else. I always go for who really me towards others. I never been called a white trash and I also have a bit pretentious friend but I don't give a care, I just ignored them.

i hate people also who pretends to be somebody. it is good to be real.

I don't appreciate pretender and I never pretend to anybody or to my friends. I am what I am, I don't want to disguise. I always tell my friends not to wear a mask coz I don't appreciate it.

People who are judgmental are typically not happy with themselves. Based on your thinking in this discussion, I believe that you are not a hypocrite, comfortable with yourself and considerate of others.