Does have a nice day really mean anything?

Yeahhhh looks like mylot is fixed lol Well I hope she does stay out of your Way

No it is not working again, this is getting silly now

hi gabs you know I cannot imagine you or Gissi saying something like that after telling someone something bad? she was a real piece of work and I am sure that was meant in the most sarcastic way possible. She acts like she is ashamed of herself now when she runs into me, as she will scurry out of my way a nd head out the door if she sees me. I met her accidently awhile back when I was at our hospital for some tests and she almost knocked down someone in her hurry to get away from where I was standing a murse saw this and said, I take it that lady doesnt like you, and I had to agree, she did not.

aerous indeed when we truly mean that it is a wonderful thing to hear and we feel good.yes when one is sincere like you would be it is a big deal,you are right. it is just when people say that in a monotone with about as much warmth' as a dill pickle that I just do not believe them.

I do agree with you, my friend. You know I always put that words in all my conversation here. Because I don't know people within the sphere of arguing something this is also how I respect people in whatever color or nationalities...Have a nice day!

hi mstickle me too ,if I ever say that its because I really mean it, and for people to just paste that on like an extra tax is so insincere, I know that they do not give a fig about me or my day.

Thanks Hatley for your caring words. No things aren't better so we're backing back out again and this time of a good while or at least until they ASK us for help. It seems nothing we do is appreciated in any way. Even hubby made some suggestions on mom's worry about how they can pay me back, but I say US because he's helped a great deal too but they won't hear anything of it. You see, my parents have 8 acres and three of it is on the other side of the road right of way. Hubby told my parents that my oldest brother was set up in the business and my middle brother was given the band so why not give me the 3 acres across the road and my parents told him that both of my brothers paid for theirs. Well, the oldest paid his off finally and the middle brother is FINALLY paying on his. But for mom to say that they paid for theirs is such an insult as an insult can be!! WE'VE given them at least $7,000. this year alone whether it be monetary or groceries or things that they needed including the carpet cleaning and all the labor WE'VE given them with hubby insulating dad's shop and putting up the walls and shelves and all the cleaning, bill paying and errands we've done, wouldn't you say WE had paid for OURS monetary and labor both? Gee, I'd think so! It's just the way she said it, "They paid for theirs" as if we didn't do a damned thing! It boggles me to no end. Now that's not to say that I do or don't want the property because I really don't care either way. I really don't. It's not mine to begin with so why should I want it now but it's the principle of the whole thing and how she said what she did. I don't know Hatley, maybe I'm reading into things too much but gosh, words can hurt like a slap in the face and this is one of those times. I slept upstairs on the sectional couch last night and cried myself to sleep. I'll never measure up to my brothers. I've always been the black sheep of this family and although I've done a 180 degree turn around many years ago, it doesn't matter and nor will it ever.

hi catsanddogs are you ever right? We cannot know what our 'days are going to bring, and if we have problems it is not really a very nice day at all. so it does not make much sense. I do hope you are having better days now, I know you have had a lot on your own plate.

A modern translation of the book of James in the Bible says something to the effect that you do not say "Have a Nice Day" to someone, unless you are prepared to make it nice for them. Do not say to the homeless man "go your way and be full."

hi donna lawson and I did have a great evening. I do try' to be sincere if I say have a great day but usually I will say bless you and let it go at that.

hi edxcast yes people were trained to be polite and that was'the term they were told to use.but so many do not realize to just parrot an expression makes it meaningless. some say to me'hope your day goes better than mine, and now I feel the warmth and the sincerity as she is ta lking from her heart.

taface hi oh yes our how are yous and we never really expect anyone to say anything other than fine. so if like my mischievous hubby tells them in vivid technicolor about all these made up ailments, they run like scared geese. He did that because he was so fed up with that overused and not meant phrase how are you. As if a random stranger gives a flying damn about your well being.

hi jesssp excuse while I laugh,I could just see your dad at walmart and the girl wishing him have a nice'day.'what a ' great come back. I would love to have seen the expresson on the girl's face. he he he he

yes I did realize that when the teller said it as he is told to say that, it just seemed not quite the thing to say and if you are not flush with money it does seem a very bad thing.also that manager was saying that to be sarcastic as for some reason she had had it in for my son from the time we moved in there.And that little manuever of heres ultimately led to our big disaster this past 11 months. I did hear she had been fired from her job for some reason and was I happy for her. he he he he

yes thats true too, and maybe if I smiled she would have felt a bit better too. should have done that I guess.

Well, maybe she was having terrible days and felt stupid saying have a nice day, but had to do it because of the job. You just never know about these things.

hi artic wolf you are right we have forgotten what a lot of these expressions were really for and now its just a glib term to throw at patrons whom they really could care for less. and How are you used to get myhubby until he got to do this, "Oh you really want to know,I 'have an awful headache and my toe is killing me, gout you know, and my back. uh where are you going?" by this time the person backed away and practically ran down the street.Tnen he and I would really laugh. he he he

hi mespas well as so often this was triggered bysomeone discussing American English and I was thinking of the' expressions we use until they seem almost meaningless. I often wonder if that grumpy looking sales clerk really does give a damn about my day. but maybe I am selling people short. How are you is another one I often wonder' about. he he

hi dodiapriani hi again yes if people really mean they would like you to have a pleasant day, fine but a lot of times they'do not even care, as you are just another customer in a long line of customers.

hi kitty yes they are taught to always say that no matter what and in a way it was kind of funny,not at that moment but a bit later. When my friends say that to me they usually sort of move it around and say something like, hope the rest of your day is a lot better or words to that effect, then I know they really do mean it. kitty I think you always look for the best in people too, and that is really neat. hugs.

oh kitty I think its a very good thing,we need more people like you. we all need to feel good.

Hello my friend Unfortunately this is true, which is not always a good thing but I love to make people feel good, by saying nice things to them Thank you my friend.

Am glad that you both saw the funny sude if it, the way you wrote it made me laugh lol...hugs Lolo

my son and I also had a laugh over her wishing you to have a good day after she had just told us to move out.

hi littleowl you know when my hubby and I thought about it we did laugh as it was so unexpected and so funny in a way. and boy did I chew out my hubby. he always would wait til he got home to write down any withdrawals he made. the result was he forgot most of them.

hi antiquelady thanks as I know you mean it.yes we'getinto the habit of saying that all the time even when it sure is not the right thing to say. Yes I am with you when someone lies to me when I know I look like I had not had any sleep. I mean do not they realize we have mirrors at home and have just looked into them? he he he lol

pOPLE ARE A TRIP.. I HAVE NOT EVER UNDERSTOOD WHY THEY THINK THEY HAVE TO SAY SOMETHING LIKE THAT. U ARE RIGHT IT'S JUST A HABIT. Hope u are having a good sat.

hi suzzy3 well it sure did not make me feel very good knowing we were overdrawn then told oh have a nice day, grr and I went home and told my husband if he did not start putting down withdrawals in our bank book I was going to bop him one. grrrr.

How embarrassing as long as you can account for whats been spent then it is not so bad.

I made hubby track down what he had taken out and put it in the bank book so we could balance it, and we were not charged for that small an overdraft so that was a good thing.

hi Kathy yes it does with the right people but used by someone like that cop,ouch that hurts. there is no excuse for someone to say that in those circumstances. Kathy my dear some 25 mile per hr zones are where there are children crossing andf people will go past at twice'that speed and almost hit the children so I would watch it please dont think I am trying to insult you as I sure am 'not.

Yes, that's true but as far as I know there are no children on that street any more. I live in a small town. That's why I feel like I know this. I think it's mostly elderly couples who live in those houses. I could be wrong, though. Kathy.

hi rosepedal I also use that in the way it should be used, to really mean I hope you do have a nice 'day. but some use it without even thinking specially if they have something unpleasant to say to you.

oh my wo uldnt that be a hoot if one said that and they would probably gulp.

I know hatley..I know it really gets on my nerves when they say that and you know that they really don't mean it. Hey maybe that will be what I will say the next time. You really don't mean that...I wonder what kind of response that would get...

hi raini munti You have a different slant and yes,it might be if said by someone who really really means it. You are a very positive person and that is so good.