Do you still love your boyfriend?
@Greenerpasture (81)
Philippines
October 4, 2009 12:22pm CST
hello! Ladies in mylot A situation is your boyfriend was a soldier and send to Iraq for a war and there was an incident happen that they were ambushed by their enemy, and suffers burns from his face and it turns to a scar (keloid) and he survive the situation but injured no more legs to stand up eyes to see you. Do you still love him like before?
3 responses
@Greenerpasture (81)
• Philippines
5 Oct 09
How lucky this guy hope all ladies are the same like you, That's how love speaks to your heart, I have post this discussion as a survey to all the ladies how they love their boyfreinds in the middle of circumctances, your a real lover because what ever it takes, worse comes to worse love is still in your heart. I am very thankful that you follow the will of your heart and of not being practical, the most important is you recognized the sacrifices of our soldiers in the middle of war, they are willing to sacrifice their live's for our freedom which this one of the greatest profession be recognize this profession is a Noble profession.
@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
5 Oct 09
Hello
You are right, we need to love/appreciate them, say thanks when we see them on the street, its really hard to know how they sacrifice their lives for us, just the thought of someone getting hurt only to have a loved one turn their backs on him/her is heart breaking, I have nothing but respect for our troops and I wish them all the best and truly hope they all come back to us safe and mentally/physically able to live a normal life, one they deserve with someone that loves them unconditionally.
Thank you, great discussion.
@Archie0 (5652)
•
6 Oct 09
I'm in that position right now. My ex and me have been broken up for a year now and were practically best friends. At first ( like the first month after the break up ) we couldn't really talk without arguing or fighting. But once we got passed that, things were and are great now. I actually like him more as a good friend then a boyfriend. We talk like 4 out of 7 days in week, weather its on the phone or texting. We hangout with groups of people every once and awhile and its not awkward or anything. He was my first love too. And doesn't mean that were good friends, doesn't mean we stopped loving each other, because we still do. =]
@riani2009 (581)
• Indonesia
7 Oct 09
I think it will take time to decide what to do with this situation. If I were in this position, I would ask for him to give a time to decide and to think. Feeling and emotion play important role to give judgement but rationality also a key to make a wise decision. But, surely if I want to leave him, I should do it wisely by not hurting this guy who has loved me. And, if I decide to love him then I should be brave to take all risks and responsibilities. This is not game since it relates to one's future destiny. It will be wise if the man who really loves this woman to let her to decide what is the best for her because if he insits her to love him then it is selfish. Love is mistery since the more we give the more we earn. It is a test not only for the man but also for the woman to discover how deep their love.
@Greenerpasture (81)
• Philippines
7 Oct 09
Yes you've the right to think what would be the best to do because if you made an immidiate reaction it will be going to hurt him, take time and gradually tell the truth about your feelings to him but avoid not to hurt him, How should you do this? well it's now up to you there are some ways that to make action and that it would not be a burden for him, encourage him to a religous activity or any ways that he can refresh his mind and can relax and wait for the right time that he can accept the truth that you're not meant for each other. thanks anyway for your comment you've got a point.
@riani2009 (581)
• Indonesia
8 Oct 09
I think everything needs time. Time will heal the wounds. Don't worry I believe the proverb every cloud has silver lining...
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
6 Oct 09
hello greenerpasture, if I have a boy friend that suffer that much, I would feel very, I would feel that i am tortured together with him, really hard to get throught.
But i am a selfish girl, no matter how much I love him, I would leave him, since I can't stand to be together with someone whose appearance would scare my parents, relatives and friends, and don't want to be together for a whole life with someone who can not appreciate my beauty, and who can not even take care of himself, because he haven't legs...
I think I would never met a guy like that.
And after I read your discussion, I begin to pray for my boyfriend, wish him safe and sound in his whole life.
@Greenerpasture (81)
• Philippines
6 Oct 09
Well that's your Opinion we cant change that you speak frank and firm. it's better to tell the thruth rather than to lie because this will hurt much to your Boyfreind.
@mybeatrice (203)
• China
7 Oct 09
yes, if I lie that I still love him, it hurts both him and myself, and both of our happy marriage with end. But I believe, those guys will find someone who accept them, since every person has his/her Ms./Mr. Right.