Should a couple stayed together for the sake of their children?

An unhappy couple should not stay together, children or no children...Kids can sense negative energy and they alway seem to see things that parents dont want them to see. Do you really think it would be better for children to be around their parents when they are yelling and fighting or even out right ignoring each other? I don't! I think it would be so much better for the children if the couple seperated--and since they would not have to be around each other so much when they are unhappy, they can remain civil towards each other when they are around the children. And they could make sure that the children get to see both parents a lot. And as long as both mother and father can continue to have healthy relationships with others--maybe these kids will have more than 2 parents that love them and treat them well.

Hi careguarden, there are many issues to be considered here, not just the question of staying together. A couple who are not able to get along are bound to have bitter arguments and fights which is bound make the atmosphere very unhappy in the house and children have a negative impacct and get psychologically effected . I feel that it is much bettr for them to live seperately and at peace with some understanding and responsiblities shared so that the children are looked after well.. All the best

Children are always good reasons why couples stay together even when the marriage relationship has gone down the drain. People do it and I wonder if it's doing more harm than good with respect to its effect on the children. Unknowingly, we are projecting a terrible picture of hypocrisy and untruthfulness to their young minds and they may develop a wrong concept of marriage and honesty. Hopefully, as they try to be together and maintain the facade, things will get back to normal. If not, then it might be more advisable to separate ways and find ways to look after the children. Sooner or later, this is a reality of life which the children will face. Have a great day.

When the children are young, I do believe so. At least the children are innocent and they should not be made to shoulder the mistakes of their parents. At least stay together until the children is able to think for himself.

I think that now days its way too easy to get married, get divorced and have kids. My cousin got married after knowing his wife for 2 months 11 months later they got divorced lucky no kids. Another cousin is getting divorced because her husband met another women so he packed and left, living behind 2 baby girls and because of that other woman he dosnt even know his girls now. In many cases people dont try to work things over.

No, I don't think people should stay together for the children. If they are both miserable and can't stand each other their children will be living in a home full tension. They will also be living under the false pretense that their parents love each other. I believe that parents should try as hard as they can to get things right between them and work out their differences but if they believe there is no way that they will ever be happy together and if the love is gone, they should not pretend for several years that it is. My father stayed with my mother until all of us kids were gone. He had stopped loving her years before. When they got divorced I felt as if my entire life was a lie, that everything about my family and my parents was a lie. It scared me in regards to my own marriage and tore my sister apart. It does not hurt any less as an adult when your parents get divorced. Be honest to your selves, each other and to your children. It will hurt them no matter when the divorce occurs wheather while they are still there and children or adults. Don't add years of tension and unhappiness to it by staying together in a hopeless marriage. However, if there is hope and there is love the parents should work very hard at working things out.

So I think couple should stay together or at least until their children are adults. What do you think? I highly disagree!! If a couple is willing to get divorced then that means there are major issues (generally) in the relationship...Staying together for the sake of the children not only forces the kids to live in a tense home BUT also teaches them that they should stay in a bad situation which is not only cruel and irresponsible on the part of the parents but also potentionally dangerous to the child later on in life in their own relationships..

Yes,i think you are absolutely right.Some couples do forget about their children and think only themselves.I think all couples should think twice before taking the decision of divorce.

Hi careguarden, I think that children do best by two parents that really love and respect each other. That being said, I strongly feel that kids suffer when raised by two people who might be good parents separately but as couple they are not so good. They fight and argue and are miserable. The kids pick up on this even if the couple takes care to not argue in front of the kids. They sense the tension. That is a mild scenario. I'm sorry but I see far too many marriages where the kids would fare better if the parents just went their separate ways and that is without even touching on the cases of domestic violence. It's almost never good for kids to be raised by parents who don't want to be together. I raised my girls alone. Financially times were tough but we did ok and they are strong and respectful women with decent jobs. I think a couple should do all they can to make a marriage work for the sake of the kids but unfortunately sometimes it is better to part ways for the sake of the children.

Yes a couple should stay together for the sake of their children.If they separate then the children may not get education properly or the children will not be able to get life partners for their future.The separated husbands and wives will face a lot of problems from their family and neighbors.If the family is poor and they separate then they will run into financial problems for education or their basic needs.

I don't think a couple should stay together for the sake of their children. But, of course, I have been divorced for almost 26 years. Why stay married to one another when you can't stand the sight of one another and the kids know it.

I think that a couple should stay together for the sake of their children but if either one of the couple is a bad and mean person then they should separate to make sure the child doesn't have a bad influence. When couples separate it does have a great deal of effect in the minds of young children.

I think it depends on the relationship. If the couple can't conduct themselves in a civil manner or there is a threat of violence or harm, then I think it is best to divorce. If they still get along and can provide a 2 parent home for the sake of the kids, I think they should try their best to do that.

It is important to make sure that you have made every effort possible to keep your family together, but if the relationship is destructive and setting a bad example for the children involved, it might be necessary to dissolve the relationship for the sake of the children.

I think the couple should work out their differences and try and be together for their children and the sake of their marriage. But if they are not able to maintain the peace in the family by always arguing and fighting, its no good for the children either! If there is any sort of abuse involved in the marriage by any of the partners then i guess its better the children stay safe and away from the abusive parent than live with them as it would go worse.

I think getting divorced is not the problem. The problem is when the parents never see their children. If my parents would get divorced but I would still see them often, I wouldn't see the difference. As long as there is no new person that I must call "daddy" :D

I think it is a difficult question to be answered. For sure divorce will hurt children more or less. For me, my mother divorced my father when I was a little girl. I lived with my mother.She took care of me perfectly so that I never felt I was unlucky. But sometimes I was lack of sense of security.I don't know how to say the feeling. I always think of myself as different from others.And I don't want anyone knowing my divorced family because people will regard me as an exception. I mean they maybe will pity for me or think the child from devorced family has something wrong in their mentality. and I want to be the same as others.It is a pressure on me. Inside of me I never blame on my parents.I love them all because they always care me. If they think they can not bear with each other, it is right to divorce. I don't want to see them suffering from each other. So I think it is not a problem of divorce of a couple but it is a problem how the couple cares their children even though they get divorced.

If the couple is unhappy of their relationship they don't need to stay together. Their children will also suffer if they saw their parents hurting each other. The kids will soon grown up they will surely understand what would be the decision of their parents.

It truly depends on what type of situation it is. Its true, children do suffer greatly when parents have a divorce, but that doesnt mean that they will be crippled by it. I know some children that are actually greatful that their parents divorced because they claim that has long as they remembered, their parents would do nothing but fight over them instead of helping. I also know another couple next door, they stay together but the man is an utter loser. Ive mentioned this situation in other post, she tries to make the relationship work, but not him. When you know that you have truly tried to make the marriage and the relationship work but it doesnt, sometimes children would rather be from a broken home than to live in one. There are ways that parenting CAN work if they are separated, still work as a family even if they are no longer together.

It depends on the couple. If their civil then they can stay together for the children's sake. On the other hand it is best that they separate if everyday in their lives they would raise hell in front of each other with the children around. Just imagine the effect on the child if he/she grows in that kind of environment.