how would you react to such a man?

I just want to say you are very brave. I mean i would never go met anyone i met online. I have heard so many stories and not many of them are good.

I would just move on to the next guy. If he wants to take a girl out, he should have called those places to check on things. Why make you do all the work when he's the one concerned about the money. He was wishy washy with you so why should he stand you up when you thought you had to work later. Usually when you are trying to meet someone, you try to be impressive. If this is his good side, I'd hate to come across his faults or weaknesses.

Have nothing to do with him! He would have lost his credibility and I can only say he asked for it. I would have nothing to do with him. It is best we remain as strangers, at least I will not have a friend whom I cannot trust.

You have already given him several chances. It is never a good idea to be too eager or too available. Make your own plans with your own friends and tell him you have no time for him. If meeting you to have your first outing was a prority for him it would have happened already. For some reason he is having his fun in stringing you along and you deserve better.

I am sorry to say this, but I think there is something seriously wrong with this guy. I don't understand why he keeps asking you to find out all the details and then changes the plan. Its just strange. I can understand, if he is busy and asks you to make the calls. But he has time to send you text messages through the day, but cannot call up the places you guys were to meet at? Hmmm... Fishey. I think its best that you ignore him now, before he irritates and hurts you, any more.

He stood you up not only once but twice. I think you should never give this guy the chance. He never even bothered to tell you that he couldn't come or whatever. I tell you he's not worth your time

Sorry, no second chances for this guy in my book. If he can't afford to do something without discount coupons that would be strike one. Next he kept changing the time to meet..strike two. Then wanting to take me to McDonald's?? NO WAY!!!!! It sounds to me that he is married... next, I wouldn't really want to connect with a guy I met on line. Some of the people are wonderful trustworthy people, but I would want a thorough check before I even thought of leaving the house with this guy. My Mom set me up with a date, and it was the most horrible thing I ever went through. He worked too hard to impress me, which didn't get him anywhere. He picked me up in his BMW convertible...and busily spouted how much he paid for it. I'm not impressed with things like that. Then he decided that we would go to lunch...at a eat all you want place so he could "afford" to feed me. (Uhhh, I weigh 145 pounds and am 5'6" tall and not really fat fat." Also he met the owner of the smorgasbord place and he got his lunch for free, so he was hoping to do that for us. Anyhow, the date was one of the worst I had ever been on, and wasn't anxious to repeat that date again. So what happened, he called and wanted to go out again. Yeah, right. And the reason Mom fixed us up...the man owned dogs. I was in shock. I asked if she knew anything else about the man...She replied "No, but he's got dogs". I was beyond frantic. I looked at her and said, "he could be an axe murderer!" Mom's reply was "but he's got dogs." After that date I informed her that she was NEVER NEVER fix me up again, and if she even tried I would seek revenge. She never did try to fix me up again...and I found a wonderful man on my own. Even if you do get a plausible explanation from this guy, think seriously! He is someone you met online, he is cheap, he stood you up and above all the first date would be going to McDonald's- probably only from the dollar menu. Think long and hard, and personally I wouldn't even consider going out with him.

Hi: I think I would like to meet him and ask him what gives. I think you'll keep wondering what happened until you can actually find out from him.

magic you are lucky from what I can see. if he had taken 'you'out it would have more than likely been a disaster as he is 'a total jerk treating you like he has. Why did he not' make any arrangements that needed making? is he a man or a mouse,or more likely from what you said a louse. No dont give him any more chances.cut your losses and find a man who cares about you and not just himself. goodluck.

I think the guy is a big mistake come into your life, my friend. He's not deserve being with you. He's so mean more thing in his life. That guy should not be love and not deserve to be love or being a partner in life...There is no misunderstood in your part but in his part there are many unexplained that should be answerable by himself...

Ugh! Sorry to say this, Magic. Most probably, he has no real intention to meet up with you in person. Could be he just a teen boy who's playing around? Not knowing what has really bothering his mind makes him kind of a little mystery, BUT he made a very bad first impression, lame and predictable excuses... I wonder if this guy is really exists...

It sounds to me like that guy was tapping base with someone else or other people. So I can explain further on. It doesnt seem to me that this guy wants to meet with you face to face. It sounded more like he was using you as a clerk to find out information about something, have you change places and then the so called "apology" that Ill treat you for something else some other time and keep putting it off so his REAL intention is to have fun with others or someone else. Now if he continues to message you and wants to pretend that nothing happened, then you should be straightfoward and ask what is going on? And you let him know what you feel and think about him, that so far his first impresion is a lousy one and that if he wants a really good chance, to have YOU pick the spot and the place, and if he is not true to his word, its not worth it magic. If he stays in touch with you and doesnt do something to make it up, stating that it was a misunderstanding, THEN you give him a chance. So far, it doesnt smell good at all based on what you are saying. Happy Mylotting to you.

Please forget him. He is not worth of your attention and time. He is careless and not thoughtful about your feelings.

I have a rule: Nevr date a cheap guy. I find being cheap a disease. At the en of the day I find those people who are cheap to be misearable in life. As for this bloke, my intuion he isn't serious and not worth your efforts. Don't worry there are other fishes in the sea of love :-)

I would not be interest in anyone who was more interested in money than me. What a cheapskate! I would not have any contact with this jerk again!

RUN, DO NOT WALK AWAY FROM THIS PERSON. He sounds like trouble. Do not meet him at your job or any where. Tell him after thinking about it you do not feel he is the one for you. Also tell every friend you have about him so if he does start causing trouble others will know about him. Please be very careful about meeting strangers you meet on the web. If you do meet someone go to a public place just for coffee. He has shown he has no respect for you. Get him out of your life now.

He had his chance way too many times, I would just forget about him. You deserve better. He doesn't seem very nice, why can't he find out all the details? He was the one interested in finding out.

I am going to answer this, if it was me, in your position. So I'm Andyia, a girl, who has met a guy online, and all this happened. Well first, I do not date unless I plan to get married, and I'm looking for a potential spouse. Again, I'm answering as if it was me in your position. Judging based on everything here, this guy clearly doesn't take responsibility. He's asking you to do all the work for setting up the date. That's a negative in my book. Second, he is only going to do things if the price is right. Now, if he's broke, then maybe I understand that, but do I want to be with a broke person? If he is NOT broke, then why is he so concerned about a discount? If we get married, is he only going to marry if there's a discount on the wedding? If being married cost too much is he going to leave? Third, he doesn't seem to be a man of his word. He said we were going to meet, and then the plan changes. He said we'd go here, then he changed his mind. He said to meet there, then he backed out. He said we'll get together right after work, and now he is meeting a buddy of his. If you can't trust him to keep his word about a small thing, like meeting after work, how can you trust him for something as important as marriage? I would not. So, the answer for me is, time to move on. This guy is going to use me and break my heart, and ditch me when times get tough. I would have nothing more to do with him.

I think I would say no way in ---- for this to work out for once he changed plans the first would be the end for me I would say. I would give him 1 more chance much like you but as for another chance oh no he blew it. After all we are more valuable then he has given you. There can be rough starts and worries after you set times to met someone who you have talked to online and recent fears come to light so maybe he was worried about how you would like him or if it was ok to met someone from the internet right now. I would have to talk online for a while longer online before giving him another chance to met again. Take it slow would be my suggestion for I always take my time and never met anyone by myself from the internet. So far everyone has been what they claim they are online but there still is those people out there that are not what they say so be careful always.

This guy doesn't sound like he's worth your time and effort. There are better people out there who would respect you. Seriously, if you met him online theres no real way of knowing what he's really like. Call it off. :)