How to deal with my own EGO or SELFRESPECT?

I have the similar problem with you. and I believe the only way to make things work towards better and better day by day is to learn to be a giver, definately. I mean, have you noticed that in too many times, we have concerned about ourselves too much, the most aabove others, above thei benefits and interests? parents are great forgivers, they sacrifice more for us that we normally take it for granted, which imakes me ashamed. I shop a lo, buy lots of clothes, leather jackets, expensive handbags, expensive perfumes and cosmetics, dine out at least 5 times a week, go to a cafe or bar if i am not feeling happy. yet, i know clearly i haven't done enough for my family. I have always put myself in the first place, home or workplace. so it's really the right time for people like me to think over about this. to learn to be a giver as our families do for s. by doing so, we could release the tession among family members, and creat a comfortable place for all of us.

i think there is a very minute or a hairy difference between self respect and ego. you must care for your self respect unless it does not hurt other's respect. if it hurts it is the ego so take care of others too. you will get the respect from others too.