Filipinos - Do you drink and play cards during VIGIL (funeral)

hi again! sadly in some areas, family wont serve it but others who go to wake usually bring some drinks. but for heaven's sake, not to the point of getting drunk! ive seen that before but not to the extent of joining them. the thing is, ur girlfriend should know her limits. now, most wakes here are in the chapel to avoid such. i think the best way ur gf can do is to apologize instead of making an excuse. it may get worse for justifying a lot of things. ü

Its customary during wake to have drinking and playing cards. Theres always a place to do it during wake. A certain place to do that so to accommodate people coming in.But thats not the only thing being done during wake.Praying for the diseased is the primary task to do. Its up to the person to spend the whole night drinking and playing nothing to worry its for free.Your bet is just your concern. Booze all you can.

I hate to say it but have to be honest with you. For one thing a vigil is usually a grouping of people in memory of a family or a person who has suffered a loss or for a cause such as cancer etc. I have attended vigils. They are usually held during times when most people could easily attend such as early evenings during the week or daytimes on the weekends. I have never in my life been to a vigil where cardplaying and drinking is involved. I think your girlfriends story is very sketchy but maybe there are circumstances that I don't know about. Now you said that you were broken up with her so my next question would be...why do you care?

It's a Filipino custom. I'm not sure if it has a religious origin, but as far as I know, most Filipinos, no matter the religion, observe this. The drinking and gambling part really depends on the family of the bereaved. When my grandparents passed away, we made it very clear that there wouldn't be any gambling or drinking (since people knew us to be born again Christians, they expected this). Both wakes were held at my grandparents' house and the house was literally open to mourners 24 hours. I'm not sure why Filipinos feel compelled to stay the night drinking coffee and chatting. There's probably some superstition involved. I personally don't see the point and do not observe this (we actually call it "lamay").

I think you mean wake (burol) it is in our culture the gambling always present during this time to kill the time. It is also helpful to the family because the gamblers give them some money afterwards.

I think doing such thing such as playing cards during vigil is fine. The reason of it is for you not to get sleepy at all and you need to have fun a bit for you to still awake during late night but you should put limits of having fun because it's a grieve not a party.

I don't think your GF was in a vigil... she just called it a vigil because it is an overnight thing... but the truth it is... it was an overnight gimik with her friends... I used to attend vigils in school when i was in college... but it was more of overnight praying and singing praises... but sad to say i always cheated... since i always go home when i feel too sleepy to continue...

I neither did both. But I remember the time when I attended the vigil for my late uncle. We played bingo. It was fun.