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hello hazelrose! i also believe that character building do starts at home...but not all good or bad behaviors starts there...coz some habits, are habits that we learn from the outside world...things that we get from our friends, from the people we meet outside... that's why some children do have different beliefs & behavior from their parents that sometimes creates troubles in the house... but if a child is properly trained by their parents while they are still young, possibilities are he will keep it till his old age...

Good morning hazelroze, in my own opinion I think you're right because parents are the first teachers of the children. They (the parents) should teach their children good values and good manners that would guide them 'til they would grow up. This is the major tools of the children as they would face the outside world. What the children behavior is the mirror of what they are in their own families. The upbringing of the children depends on their environment they've been growing up. The major factor of this is how their parents nurture them not only on their basic needs but also on the situation on the society they lived in while they are still young. Some parents specially on the slum areas, they would let their children transfer to some other relatives because they see how the way their neighborhood acted everyday in their lives. Majority are bad influence of the children. If the children would grow up on this environment the chances of the children of having the same quality of their neighbors would likely be the same as their neighbor's lives..... You have a nice and educational topic....Happy mylotting...

Hi Hazel, I agree with you 100%. Achild should have the basis before it starts kindergarten.

Well, home has definitely its fair share in influencing their kids' behaviors. Parents try their best to instill in their children what they think is best for the child. This is in a way a preparation for when the child starts to interact with other people besides the immediate family, like the same kids their age in the neighborhood or other adults. And children will learn from others as well not just from the parents. Media also can shape a child's mind.

I am a very true believer in parenting. I think most of how you parent will reflect in how your children will grow up and who they will be. "Be the Parent!" I always say. I know I'm a bit stricter than most parents I've known however, when my daughter was 2, I could take her to a restaurant without her climbing over booths, running down aisles and screaming because she didn't get what she wanted. My daughter is 12 years old now and sure, she has her teenage moments, she's still learning who she is but she doesn't talk back, is home when she is told to be, calls when she changes locations, goes to bed at bedtime without being told, does her homework as soon as she gets home from school (it might take her a few hours but it gets done) and even though she comments on how she doesn't like to clean her room, she will without argument because she knows her place and that everyone has responsibilites. I spoil my daughter rotten but she knows that what I say is pretty much law around here. Everything is open for discussion and sometimes we compromise on certain issues (like if she wants to stay out an hour later, then in the morning she has to do the dishes). She is a very good girl, but my point is...this didn't just start yesterday. We've been working on this, oh for about 12 years. And believe me, once a bad habit starts....its really hard to reason with a child as to why it should stop. "But mom, I've been doing this for the last year and you've never said anything before....." Be fair, just and most importantly honest. Oh and don't forget lots of hugs and kisses. My daughter says she hates it but you can tell, on a bad day, they know you love them and are there for them.