can you forgive your lover if he or she betrays you?

my boyfriend betrayed me once..i forgave him already, but sometimes i just couldn't help but remember what he did.. im afraid he might do it again.. i think it would take time to finally forget.. i decided to give him another chance because i love him.. i know he is the only thing that would make me happy.. i just couldn't let him go..

Dear angeliam, I do respect and appreciate your mother's view. That men never forgive in case women betrays but time have changed. This is fast world. In case women betrays a man he not only forgive her and also look for another woman to live. Only in certain cases women never forgive men because of her deep rooted love for him.

It would depend on what it was that he did to betray me. I am normally a very forgiving woman, but if my man cheated on me, there is no way I can forgive him. If he lied to be it would depend on the lie. Betrayal of any kind is hard to deal with, but some are easier to forgive than others.

I think what your mother says is perfectly fine. Men have a nature to dominate and not to get dominated. So, they feel that they should not get cheated. I think, if a woman betrays her man, he will hardly have the guts to forgive her. Men, as said don't like to get cheated. They have the blood of possession. They think that whatever good, is all theres. And the bad has to go to others. So, if a woman is cheating a man, then that woman is bad and is not his. On the other hand if a woman is betrayed, then he will do all kinds of 'dramas' and promise a thousand times that he won't repeat that same mistake again.

i think it depends on how his mistake would affect me. i don't somehow agree with you mom because from what i have observed there are men who still give chances to their partners though they were betrayed by their own lover.

Hi there, in my opinion, who betray once, will betray all the time, and i am sure that is not good to forgive somebody who try to full on you...no matter if you are man or woman. Depend only how much he or she are in love; if is a strong and pure love, will be very hard, maybe impossible to forgive somebody who betray you;..i can t forgive somebody who betray me, this is sure, just because i am one who never betray somebody who i really love.