Should I accept ?
By nagikka
@nagikka (407)
Italy
October 9, 2009 2:36pm CST
Many of you might have read my previous messages. For those of you who didn't, I haven't got any friends right now and I'm struggling between trying to find some or waiting some more time because I don't feel relaxed when I'm among people (I basically feel stupid, clumsy and unexperienced). I post on a huge italian forum and there are specific parts of it which are dedicated to people in different geographical localities in my country. I found a couple of topic on which some girls my age were looking for friends in my city and there are many of us, most of them without friends (funny in the social networking era, isn't it?). I said I live in the same city and one girl sent me a message saying they all want to meet outside the web and see If we can start a group of girl who sometimes meet to go out together.
What do you think? other than being safe (is it? I don't know), do you think that good friendship can start this way? we don't know anything about each other and I'm not quite the average "default" girl: I don't enjoy chit-chatting and gossip, I don't like to go out to shop for clothes/shoes/blah, I don't like to wear elegant stuff (I feel comfortable with jeans, tees and sneakers), I like stuff like videogames, movies, music and books. I was never interested in going to the disco and stuff like that and I wouldn't want for them to think bad of me. I've always been more at ease with boys because I share many more interests with them.
I'm undecided.
Also, did you ever start a good relationship with someone you met online?
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8 responses
@sunny69316 (638)
• China
10 Oct 09
If you do decide to meet up with these people, please be extremely careful!Although someone that you will meet is maybe a good person,but,there a lot of snares in the net!
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@zhongguoml (8)
• China
10 Oct 09
AND do not forget to go with your family or friends when you really meet it!
@nagikka (407)
• Italy
13 Oct 09
I don't think I cold bring someone from my family in a meeting among other girls my age, they'd think I'm stupid :( and my sister surely would never accept.
One of the girls sent me a message right now saying they will meet on the 20th and If I wanna go, then she said she's 29 and she apologize for being late for he answer but she had caught a cold. I really don't know what to do, also because I'm pretty much clumsy and diffeent from the other girls: I don't like to dress elegant or to meet in a pub t go and drink something. Also, since I never went to any place at night I feel idiotic ehehe I think I'll end up not going and that's all about it, I kind of gave up the idea of having friends, I'm too much of a different person If compared to people my age. I like to go watch movies at the theatre, go out and shop for books, I love drawing, creating things, watching japanese animations and so on. I better enjoy my own company.
@sonuherenz (258)
• India
10 Oct 09
Hello Nagikka...Im also facing the same problem..im new to this...You at least have few frnds, but I Don't..its a social networking site..but still im finding difficulty in searching frnds...i cant just send frnd requests blindly....!!!!Im sendding you a request finding you on the same side...Hope you may accept.
The things you have mentioned above, about yourself...most of the things matches to me. And about online frndship...i dont know.....lets see how it works with you...i never tried it before making online frnds, mostly i accept the people whome i know, not that i dont accept the unknow ones, i do accept them....i have few in orkut but i dont repond them much because they only send request but they never chat or share.....
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@shilley (155)
• India
10 Oct 09
Never i met any one from online or to speak frankly i never made friendships with strangers online.I would suggest you not to meet them outside website.However there is no harm in meeting them online until and unless you are comfortable.And why you feel you do not have friends.Anyways you have a liking towards books.For any kind of person books are the best option to bond with,and one can choose books according to their interest.Since you like reading books..continue the habit of reading more books.Meanwhile,books will become your best friends and all time friends.
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@michael_walsh (33)
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10 Oct 09
Hey Nagikka,
I think that good friendship can start with any kind of communication but safety should be your first priority. It's really not safe to go around meeting groups of people in real life after only talking to them on the internet. Talking on the internet means that you can't pick up on signs of what kind of people they are. I would suggest against it but if you really must go I hope you will bring somebody with you. I've heard many stories of people getting kidnapped by predators online claiming to be other people. Good luck, and I hope you'll be safe.
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@kykidd (6812)
• United States
9 Oct 09
I'm not familiar with your city at all. But I have heard a few horror stories about people meeting on the internet. So if you do decide to meet up with these people, please be extremely careful. And don't go alone. I think it is a good idea to take someone with you that you already know, maybe a guy friend.
Perhaps, if you don't have any friends at all, maybe you could meet someone at a bookstore. Since this seems to be more of your scene, then it only makes since that perhaps you could meet some people to hang out with there.
Nowadays, bookstores have coffee shops in them. And some of them even have chess boards and other games that you can play while you are drinking your coffee, tea, etc. These would be the perfect atmosphere to meet new friends. My niece did this while she was in high school, and I even got to go along with her and my sister one time. It was a really interesting experience for me, since I don't usually go to coffee shops.
@nagikka (407)
• Italy
9 Oct 09
You're right, If I ever accept I would suggest to meet at the local theatre which also has a snack bar, a bookstore and soon even a new restaurant.
Anyway I already met lots and lots of people that I used to chat with online, one of them is my ex-boyfriend eheh. I always met them alone, that's stupid of me anyway. Let's say most of the people I went out with were people I met online :|
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
10 Oct 09
yes, kykidd. tag along someone when u decide to meet up with those u encounter on the net. very hard to really know people on a personal level, how much more in the internet. we should be very careful.
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@nagikka (407)
• Italy
13 Oct 09
the problem is I don't have anyone who would come along with me eheh. They want to meet next Tuesday but I'll probably end up saying no. The funny thing is I'm not saying no because I'm scared of meeting them (I already met tons and tons of people from the web), I'm saying no because I'm scared of myself, the way I feel, my being clumsy and so shy. So I'll just stay at home and post on mylot.
@broboque (146)
• Malaysia
10 Oct 09
Life is about gamble, with alost everything that you do. every decision of your life. Maybe you haven't notice it but i do, well after reading some books, and thinks of the rational of it. In summary, how do you know that the shoe tha you buy at the store would last, or would look good on you? or perhaps, would be the your best choice? How would you know that your decision to invest on somehing would give you return, and in our case how would you know that the friends that you meet would be a good friend? No one knows actually. So my advise is, why not, accept the invitation. there's no harm. But of course be aware of a few things, like meet somewhere open, in public i mean. And try to assess, or may be chat casually during your first gathering. Try not to diclose about yourself, not until you know that you are with a trustworthy friend.
