iF YOU WERE ME, WHAT WILL YOU DO???

If I were you,the first thing i do is to sue him.after that i tr to talk to his parents if they still alive and maybe they could convince him and talk with him about the problem maybe they can help out in this matter.and if that didn't work i;ll keep showing up at his workstation,his house,his country club or where ever he would be,maybe then he will submit and pay the money at least for his son.if that didn't work too i may try to talk with his new wife and tell her what he did and maybe he;ll think about it and come to a decision that i might ruin his life that way and he'll stop bothering me and he;ll not delay one day in writing the check. Good luck trying that lady. Peace.

In most states, not sure where you are, you can get a first consultation with a lawyer for free. You would need to check this out where you are but if so then prepare your story so that you can present this to that lawyer. He will give you advice as to what your options are. Following that however anything you do legally will cost you and I would guess that now is a problem for you. What you need is an injunction against him. If you had that every time he tries to contact you he would be breaking the law. You are so right....this man is a user and a king size jerk. You say you were, or are married to him. If that is still so his second marriage you refer to is invalid. If he was married when he married you then your marriage is invalid. Change you phone number and everything about you on-line. If you do that he will be unable to contact you. Never ever forgive him for this no matter what he does. What he has done to you is unforgivable and you need now to move on with your life. Many people have been where you are and it is not easy getting out but they are so much better off for doing it.

He has no right to call and harrass you when he was the one that left you by yourself and while you were pregnant. I would turn him in to get child support from him because you are entitled to that. I would also tell him to quit harrassing you or you are going to turn him into the police for harrassment. And you could also change your phone number if you wanted to. I wouldn't do anything that makes you have to pay money to do it though. And I would definitely go get help with trying to get child support from him.

If he is bothering you that much I would call your phone company and have his number blocked. Another thing that I suggest that you do is take him to court,. It might take a while but as long as you are POSITIVE that your son is his, then he will have to pay the fees and he will be force to contribute a monthly payment to your son for childcare. I don't think that any parent should have to raise a child alone, it is hard enough for someone who has a partner. I think that your EX is a bad person and you definately shouldn't let him get away from it. He certainly didn't have a problem making the kid, he shouldn't have any trouble taking care of him too. I think that you are a wonderful person and judging by what you have said I think that you are a good mother too. I hope that you do the right thing and take action against him, he has no right to do this to you and if you do nothing, he will

Where in the world he got his guts to call you and bither you after doing that to you?!? You are right! He is really a jerk. Why not change your cellphone numbers and landline phone number? You should not entertain his calls anymore. You should let him know that he is totally erased in your life. There is no reason to talk to him, he neglected you, the time you needed him most. He doesn't even give any support to your son. Forget this guy and move on. If you can pretend as if you haven't met this guy then do so. AVOID HIM. He will give you nothing but trouble. Tell him if he doesn't stop bothering you, you will file a case against him. You can even file "BIGAMY or Adultery" case, remember he got married again while your marriage is still not void. Try to put firm on your wordings. He has no way to do that to you. Hope you get rid of that trash ex husband of yours. Good luck to you and your son. Have a nice life magistical99!

Hey Magistical, I'm sorry that you're having such a tough time. It's amazing what some people can do and how cold and heartless they can act. If I were you I would put a block on his numbers. You can also file a harrassment case if he persists. Also, you should take him to court so that he would pay child support to your child. He created the child with you so you should not let him just get away without dealing with consequences. Men like this make me sick.

I am sorry that you married such a jerk. I know that divorce is very painful and emotional and more so when children are involved. I've been there. Ok for starters, you have to find a way to get beyond the anger you feel for him and focus on your beautiful son and being the best parent you can be. Does he ever ask about or want to see his son? If so, then you have to somehow find a way to make peace with him for the sake of your son. If he doesn't then don't answer his calls and do not respond to his SMS. As for child support, by law, he has to pay it. Go to your local child support enforcement office and they will help you with the process of collecting it. Has he been court ordered to pay and just ignoring it? Also you could write down the dates and times of all his calls and SMS. You do not have to tolerate his harrassment. You can get a restraining order on him and he will still have to pay child support.

You better seek a lawyer's advice. Bring it to legal. Your husband must support you and your son. If he won't, put him in jail. A man like that must be given a lesson he'll never forget. When he married you, he knew the obligation he entered into. He's a jerk for doing such to you. About SMS, better change number as soon as possible because if not, you'll just putting yourself into depression. It's a pity for your son if you'll be sick. As early as today, go to legal.

I forgot to say that you may have to consider going to the media or the press that way he will not bother you any more,beside the media and the internet have many people in it and when the word spread out he'll find himself in a big trouble and he;ll be begging you to stop what you are doing and give you all that you need.

life is not very difficult.. you feel so sad because you still love him.. u still need him, but u have no strength to push him.. cuz he don't wants u anymore.. so many people was thinking life is always about love.. you should understand.. life is only about life.. nothing else.. i ever dreamin about a girl.. in my dream, she will stay with me.. not for lovin me.. not cuz i loved her.. cuz we need a someone to stay with.. someone were can be a friend forever.. in my opinion, marriage is a friendship.. but not the regular one.. it's the special one.. why i believe it is?.. it's b'cuz.. i won't push someone beside me for doin everything that i wants.. idk how to tell, but love is never exist in my mind and my life.. i loved someone and i never can be with her.. she's not so pretty.. she's not feminine.. she had a child.. she's tempramental.. but she's the best one that fits me.. i already have another girl now.. but i never wants her.. but i believe in god.. and i believe she's not a nothing.. i would do take care of her.. i will never make her cry or sad.. and i will keep in secret anything about the one that i loved.. cuz i know, she will be so sad.. life is very different.. life is always different than love.. love could make you happy, crazy, sad.. but life could makes you believe, if anything inside you.. is very useful for someone beside you..