"Shyness" does it affect your life, how did you get over it,

overcoming shyness is a very tricky issue i myself am shy at many things including talking face to face with girls and so on.i get this advice a lot of time "try to mix with people more and more " i dont get it .i mean how do i step into water with of fear of drowning in it . well these advice u get often and are offcourse not the best thing that u can do . well building confidence is one way to do it another would be like if u feel shy in talking to a person and ur forced to talk with him then talk on things that u r perfect at. i mean i feel shy in talking with girls but whne it comes to explaing them any topic i am the best teacher and they like it too.so talking on things that u are perfect at may be one of the answer but it doenst help much once the topic is over :( there are many things peole will tell u but at last we ourselves are the ones that can find the soln. and u know sometimes being shy is not such a bad thing!!!!!!

Talk about shyness. If you looked up that word in the dictionary when I was a child you probably would've seen my picture! I was so shy. I was afraid of my own shadow. It was not until high school that I was able to overcome this. A 9th grade English class introduced me to speech. We had to make up speeches and recite them in front of the class. It gave me the confidence in myself that I had been missing.

When i was young i was really very shy as if i have bad breath because i don't want to open my mouth. Anyway when i was growing up i knew that i am a happy and really jokes around. I need to go out of my shell in order to grow with myself and my friends. I prayed so hard and did my work. I joined clubs in school and really practiced in front of the mirror to see myself talk so that i would know how i look if i talk to other people. It was so hard but i was able to do it and it increased my confidence towards my family, other people and myself. Noboby can helpy you except yourself.

Its hard getting over being shy. I have always been shy even when I was little. I didn't like speaking up around people or asking for a thing. Even when I got older I would have rather starved then say a word. Sometime I am still that way but not as bad as I use to be.

Shyness is really a big deal in all the aspect of life. Because it is debase confident and believe to one self. This will prevent us to success in a career we want to explore. We are not dealing for people that maybe a great help for us to grow...Shyness in terms of love affairs is not a big problem because they can simply afford it when their relationship is stayed a period of time...Have a nice day!

Shyness got a lots of reason not only for a realationship but some other things too.To i have this shyness when i was a child but now im trying to be mature to a lots of situation in my LIFE,.Bieng shy we can'nt do the things that we really want to do because we dont have enough guts.Can also destroy our future for this called SHYNESS. That's why go on if what you think is good for you what so ever,just give a try i think no harm done.have a nice day my friend.

Up to the age of about 12 years old, I was very shy, and a little less shy up until I was 16. Then I got involved in going to lectures and seminars and learned how to speak to groups of people. This was my training to be a therapist. I will say that when I began talking in groups it was not easy, but then as I shared the fact that I suffered from shyness, it started to disappear and I went on to becoming a therapist and running groups of my own. I can hardly remember being shy now, it is as if it never happened. I do get nervous before addressing a group of people, but that is natural for all of us. Most people who have to talk to groups will tell you that. As a therapist, my advice is first to acknowledge that you are shy and to allow yourself to feel this way - that is, don't try and put on a brave face by trying to persuade yourself that you are confident. Next, I would suggest you share that you are shy with the person/people you are talking with, and then just watch it increase for a moment, and then disappear completely. Until next time when it will be with you again, but a little less. Shyness will grow less and less each time you do this. - Derek

I was so shy when I was in grade school. I was the little person who was sitting on the doorstep of the school watching all the other kids play. In grade eight I had the most wonderful teacher he gave me the responsibility of starting the school library gathering up all the books, ordering books, and really running the entire thing. It was amazing. I won an award for that work. I think I needed someone to believe in me. That really gave me the confidence I needed. Now, people can't believe I was ever shy.

hi sherka I am still shy and I am a senior citizen. but I have forced myself to speak to others and to make friends and the more you do this , the easier it becomes. you will never be an extrovert but you will be able to talk to others at least some of the time. some of us are just born like this and the best we can do is our best. do not be ashamed to be shy just 'try to be friendly and have at least one or two friends you can talk to.Try to think of the other person, learn something about that person, and talk about them, everyone wants to talk about themselves and this is a good way to overcome some of our shyness. we will never be orators or public speakers but we will be able to talk to other p eople.

Shyness has been affecting my life in a very big way and I still have some problems with this but I'm slowly starting to change things I think! I have never got involved in the social scene and I have lived quite a quiet life. However, I found this meetup group online and I have attended three meetups already and I look at this as quite an achievement. The name of the website is www.meetup.com Anyway, there are lots of different groups that you can join according to the interests that you have. I found a group called Shy London and the majority of its members suffer with shyness. Anyway, in relation to the past three meetups that I attended, we spent some time in a pub and chatted with eachother and it really wasn't that bad and I'm so pleased that I did this. I am so hungry for this now that I have experienced it for myself. I would recommend this group for those that live in or near London. Andrew

I used to be painfully shy, because I found it hard to relate to people. But the best way I found helpful to overcome shyness, is to get involved with organizations and such that would allow me to become acquainted with people who have common interests and hobbies as me. I joined my local historical society, because I'm fascinated with history and love knowledge. Another thing that helped me was getting my writing published online on various websites, such as www.triond.com and and www.writerscafe.org, where I also became acquainted with other writers. On these sites, I'm published under the pen name Joanna Maharis.

I just say to myself: So what if I mess things up? Damages can be repaired and mistakes can be masked. If your posture is that of an English pudding then you guaranteed yourself for a mistake or two, whereas when you take a firm posture any mistakes that lie ahead of you can either be prevented, masked or repaired. :)

i think i'm too shy when as a child. i feel it's a little mistake of education. cause i know in my deep heart, i'm not a shy girl. but well, i'm not blaming others. because of shy, i know i have lost some chance to express myself and get better results. so, i'll educate my future children not to be too shy and to be brave while polite from the beginning. well, after conscious practice after i grow up, now much better.

You know I have the same problem? I can't bring myself to talk to people because I don't know what to say?! I usually wait til they approach me and then I'm okay...would that be considered shy?

I have been shy most of my life....in certain area's. It's hard for me to meet new people but once I have gotten to know them then the shyness disappears. If there is something that I am pretty knowledgable about then I am not shy....just depends on the situation. I think as your self esteem grows the shyness can go away.

Well, being shy is very complicated circumstance because whenever I feel it, I just feel like I couldn't do nothing and those people in my surrounding would start staring at me. Sometimes I think being shy is started when you are in the middle of people whom you don't know very well, with thought that they would stare at you without any making-sense reason. Everytime I feel it I just try very hard and do everything I can to get rid of it. I know it is not easy, but I always try and realize that 'those people don't stare at me'.

Try working for a call center industry. (Just kidding) I used to be shy. I used to think I was ugly. I may be smart according to friends but I am no Ms. Popularity. I tend to shy away especially when I am in front of a guy. I basically do not know why but when I started working I began loving myself. I guess being congested with energetic people made my shyness go away. The next thing I knew I was out enjoying life. And I did not have to change my face.

Hi sherka. I feel shy when i face the audience and get nervous ed. to overcome my shyness i simply close my eyes for a movement and try to send msgs to brain "Be Bold". It some times works for me.

i am 29 years old and i am shy don't know why maybe it was all the molesting i got when i was a child thats keeping me this way i don't want to be this way but i am .it affects becouse people see that your shy and want to take advantage of you. i need to get over it.

I have always been shy and i believe that it can effect your life in unpredictable ways.