love is blind or love is fool?

That man has no business to beat her.But, if she wants to give it a try still, then let us hope and pray that Gid instils some sense into his thick head and he changes his brutal ways.

I used to be this woman. However the only difference was that I did not believe that I deserved that. Still, though it was difficult for me to leave, for various reasons, I managed to get out of the relationship mostly in tact. However, after leaving one, I jumped into one more abusive relationship after another. I did this for years until 2004. Everyone told me that I always deserved better, and I could certainly write a book about what NOT to do in relationships lol. The key for myself, was getting sober. I was a child when I started using, and continued to use through the years, creating a tangled web of destruction as I went along. Mostly to myself. Once I got sober, I stayed that way and as the fog lifted, I found underneath all the feelings that were buried since childhood and though I didn't want to face those things, I had to, and I did. I noticed something else that changed along with this. My standards for myself, what I expect for myself, what I choose to pursue and allow, all changed as well. I spent a long 4 and a half years completely single and made the mirror my best friend. Through those long and difficult years, I laughed and cried, hated and loved myself, became angry and found peace. But most of all, I learned to accept myself exactly as I am and finally, I learned to love myself. I think if you never find out what it means to actually love yourself and expect only the best for yourself because you KNOW you DESERVE that, then you are doomed to repeat the same mistakes over and over. I believe deeply that what we think about "believe" we bring about, and it becomes our reality. If one day she snaps and finally inside says she's had enough, then she will not be afraid to face the hard reality of making a new start on her own. Because it does take great courage, humility, and very strong conviction to do this. I will not say it's easy, but I will say YES IT ABSOLUTELY CAN AND SHOULD BE DONE! I hope your friend will gain some strength from your conviction and support in the fact that yes! she does deserve much better. And hope that just maybe she will be guided to more people, such as myself, who have been the victim, survivor, and overcome all of these issues. There is more to life than this, a world waiting for her, and there ARE good people in this world who will support her. I will wish for her as I will for all battered women, that they will WAKE UP and get tough. Tough enough to accept no less than the best for themselves, for their children, and for all society and humanity in general. The road is hard to independence, but the path is clear and I hope she will find her way to the idea that there IS NO OTHER OPTION but to take this road. I would value having a friend like you and I applaud your decency and genuine concern. Best wishes to you and your friend and for that matter ALL ABUSED WOMEN. I think the first step is, accept that you have created the situation you are in, accept that you deserve better than that and are responsible for your own future, that it's possible to have, do and be more, FALL IN LOVE WITH YOURSELF and make no apologies for that... and finally JUST HIT THE ROAD JACKIE!