I am fed up HELP

Better talk to your mom and discuss these issues with her. Talk to her calmly as if you are just confiding on her. I am sure your mom can understand your situation. Tell her your side. Be patient, mothers are sometimes know it all and dislike being confronted but there is nothing we cannot get with good conversation. Cool down yourself first before talking to your mom.

Dear hwoarangpoy, Although we try to empathize with you, its almost impossible for us to step into your shoes however, take a few minutes off and try to get to a quiet place where you could cool down and think for a while.Its important you stay calm to solve a situation like this. Next, think off all those times you have overcome such situations and come out strong. Try speaking to your mom first before you take any decision. Consider all your options, tell her frankly that you deserve to be treated better than this and will do all that you can to support the family financially.Also speak to you husband in your mom's presence. I'm sure you can come to an amicable solution. Meanwhile, remember.. you are a woman, and you are emotionally stronger than a man. All bad things too have an end. Take care. Cheers, Karen

I agree I think that its time you went with your husbands wishes and moved out. First it is not very fair for you to be watching the kids and everything while also being told that you do not help support the household. It is time for you to stop worrying about hurting your mother's feeling and do what is best for your husband and your children. It is not very healthy for your husband to be emasculated in such a way. Without even realizing it you may have made him feel like less of man. If the two of you together can support your family on your own then take a chance and do so. It will be a huge stress off of you and probably make your husband and children happier. Your mom may be mad at first but let her be that way. Calmly tell herr you are doing what you feel is best for your family and that you are putting their lives first and foremost in your thoughts. On the flip side if you cannot move out, maybe look at finding full time employment elsewhere that way you are not always at home and that you and your husband can work together to save enough money to have a place of your own. He will respect you more and his love for you will deepen and it will also make you feel like you are more in control and also put you in a position to where you are more in control of your life and your and your family's future. Anywya goodluck and be of good courage. For you cannot be faulted for putting your foot down and acting in preservation of yourself and your marriage and family.