it takes a village to raise a child

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In my extended family, there is one woman who is divorced and is now a single parent. And, unfortunately, the father plays no role in his child's life, except for child support. The child should not have to suffer because of the stupidity of the father. So while, he is minus a male figure in his home, should other family members, other uncles take part in that child's life, even it's only inviting him to go along somewhere with his children. Should extended family, help out to be there for those who are missing a parent in their home? We have one family, that goes camping every weekend during the summer, and has gone for the last 10 yrs. They have 3 kids. I believe they have only asked the one child in the divorced family to go with them once. Sometimes the divorced mother would like a night out, but rarely do the other families volunteer to have this mother's child have a sleep over at their home. When child is having a hard time, the other families sit back, and don't even think of how they can help them out. I try to help out as much as I can for them, but being divorced woman, too, I am not the male figure they need. I find it amazing that some families can be so absorbed into their own little world, that they can't look at this child, and see what he needs. It's not like those other families are poor. They have more than enough...and money is not what this divorced family needs...the child needs male bonding, male attention. He would like to do some of the things that his cousins are doing but can't do because his divorced mom can't afford them. As the child is now growing up, I can see how distant he feels from these relatives...there is definitely tension among them, and I blame the other families for ignoring the need that is there under their noses. Do I have a right to feel this?...should I say something, or should I not get involved..do you feel that families should be there for one another, including the children?