Are you afraid to say no to people?

I used to always be afraid to say no to people because I did not want to make them mad at me. I would say yes to them and make them happy but I was miserable alot of times. I learned to say no now and if they cannot accept it, too bad.

I really do have a problem saying no to people. This has got me doing all kinds of things I should not be doing. Nothing bad or illegal, just not in my best interest. Sometimes I have caused problems in my own household because I could not say no to something that I should have. I also get mad at my usband who does the same thing. I don't know why we are this way with people. The ironic thing is these same people who we are always doing things for will say no to us in a heartbeat. It makes me feel bad to know that we give so much support but when it's our turn we get so little, at least from the people we help so much.

Hi tucker, Actually its depends on yourself and in certain situation. If we really need to say no to others so just say it. It will settle all the problem. They will understand that we can say yes most of the time. But it also depends on situation like if they really need you and you also doesn't have any problems to help them so why not say yes.

I'm not afraid to say no to people, especially when I really don't want to do what they're asking. If I don't say no then I would just end up regretting not saying no. One of the things that I hate the most is when I am forced to do what I don't want to do. You can't avoid hurting others all the time, especially if in doing so you would hurt yourself. But you could minimize the hurtfulness of your words. You could say no to people in a polite way. Sometimes I make up excuses for why I can't do what people ask me to so as not to hurt their feelings.

Once upon a time, I am afraid of saying no to people. After being taking advantage of others for many times, and be refused by others though I did help them before. I feel I should categorise the people, and the favour I am asked for and decide whether I should say no to them. Just say it in a polite way, I think that shouldn't hurt... As for myself, I try my best not to bother others, if I can manage it well, and if others show no interest on it. Thank you for your post and hope you have a great day.

I'm so sorry to hear your situation. But I think you really have to learn to say NO.When you're trying hard to pleased everybody, then the one unplesed would be YOU.To be able to say no, you must believe in yourself.have a strong principal, a strong faith.get a confident.And be honest to yourself. I've done that, and it works for me. Hope it will work for you too.Good Luck

I used to have difficulties of saying no before but i realized i should learned to say it otherwise i will get abuse and won't meet genuine people. There's nothing wrong with helping others but when its enough it should be enough and we can't please everyone and we should realize that. We should instead help them to help themselves and not help them to be abused. Nonetheless its always a great feeling to help.

I used to be like that when I was younger. But as I've gotten a little older I have learned to tell people no when I can't do it. My husband is like that where he wants to please everyone but sometimes that just can't be done. I don't have a problem with telling people no though because if I can't do it then I can't do it. Don't be afraid to tell people no....sometimes you don't have the time and you can't please everyone 100% of the time.

Well, I don't like to hurt someone's feeling either, but for me saying no to other people just means speak out your voice or idea. It's not about hurting someone's feeling, in most occasions. Don't lie yourself, because at the very first time it just disadvantages yourself. Saying no doesn't mean that we are cutting out our relationship with him or her. =)

I wish I could say yes to everyone who ask for something but as it is impossble for me to say yes all the time I do have to say no to some people. There are somethings that have to come first and I hope the other people understand this. I do feel bad when I say no to them and hope they will not be mad at me for it.

Hi tuckersheri I do understand what you are saying. It has been hard for me to say no to people to. I have got myself in some messes over that. I have given my last dollar, went out of my way, and even got out of the house when I was sick just because I couldn't say no to someone. In the past few months I have learned how to do that. I don't think about if I will hurt someone's feelings. I have to put myself first. Great discussion and have a great day.

I used to be like that. And I used to get burned sometimes too, so I know how you feel. But somewhere down the line I realized I can't please everyone . . . heck, it's not like people were going out of their way to not hurt my feelings! And besides, these days I have to be more selfish just because I am limited on my time . . . and family comes first! I used to be one of those "maybe" people who would end up saying yes . . . now I'm a definite cut and dry yes or no person.

But I think saying no to people is right sometimes.The reason behind is because if we think that we are not suppose to play with their feelings,they might take advantage. And many times we are forced to say yes.

It's not as difficult as you think to say no. Just tell whoever it is that you understand they need or want something but you cannot do it, give it, etc. You can give a very simple reason it you want to but you don't need to. Don't hem and haw. Don't give a long drawn out reason why you can't or won't. If they get upset, just tell them you're sorry they are upset but you really can't do it. Then leave or change the subject. You and your family must come first. In time, they will realize that you are not a pushover to be used and will respect you more for it.

It depends on who the person is and what they want from me. Once upon a time, I could not say no to anyone, but after being taken advantage of many, many times, I learned how to say no. I do have a kind heart though and don't always like to say no, but I have also learned that there is a limit and I do not need to put my life on hold or go out of my way to help everybody else.

As much as I wanted to say YES all the time to people's request, I realized that this attitude bring no good to me, so right now, I started saying NO to other people every time they made a request or a favor. I have noticed that I am much abused and exploited, if they know that you are too kind and generous they will take advantage which is pretty cruel and rude.

Hello...Thats very true...i too feel very much same....i can't say no to people...what ever work that may be ...even i cant say no to those work that i cant do....its really frustrating..and its very true that it benifets them... but soon or later i have to learn saying no....it feels bad but still this will help me, rather people taking advantage of me for this...."All the best" for both of us :) Take Care

if you want to help people you should n0t get frustrated. Its okay to help but if youre n0t happy afterwards, then thats n0t healthy. You sh0uld learn that you cann0t help all of them because you also need to take care of yourself.