I love/hate these dreams
By ElicBxn
@ElicBxn (63594)
United States
October 13, 2009 3:57am CST
I dreamed my friend, Elaine, was alive. I hate it when that happens because, of course, she isn't when I wake up.
And this time she called me on the phone and I was sort of - okay, hi, sure, come on over.
And then she called me back and asked questions that made me realize she was really alive and I started crying and wanting to know where she was.
She wanted her cats back and I was trying to tell her about them, and crying and wanting to know why she waited this long to come back and how I saw her dead, how was she alive? I told her how her death had taken the stories away and I hadn't been writing and how much I missed her. She said she didn't have a place to stay, and I said she could stay here..
Needless to say, I woke up before she showed up, but now I'm all upset and can't get back to sleep.
I used to have dreams about her at least once a year, but this was the first one, and the more real one - well, NOTHING else in the dream was at all real, but the phone calls were so very real.
I heard her voice again - I wish she were still alive. It'll be 11 years on November 4th - God - how I miss her...
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12 responses
@ElicBxn (63594)
• United States
13 Oct 09
She is still in my heart, we hit it off immediately when we met - well almost immediately - we met at a party we were holding and it was INSANE since the former roomie and I were hosting it
I hate parties, at least I hate hosting them...
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@BarBaraPrz (47279)
• St. Catharines, Ontario
13 Oct 09
Maybe the stories will come back now.
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Oct 09
You can't help your dreams, can you ?
Maybe this could be an emotional problem you need help with. I don't know.
Or, maybe, its the continuing effect of the grief you feel after losing your friend.
Try to concentrate your life on interesting and time-consuming things especially by way of entertainment.
See if that works.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Oct 09
I'm so sorry u lost your friend & sorry u had the dream. dreams can really shake u up. I hate to have one like that. Hope all your dreams are good ones.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Dreams can be so wierd & frightening. I'm glad i don't remember them very often because mine always seem to be too wierd.
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@writersedge (22563)
• United States
26 Oct 09
It was 11 years for my Mom in June.
I had a dream that my Mom was talking to me in the kitchen and making breakfast like she always does. My brother came up the stairs hollering and woke me up. I wish I could have stayed that dream. But my brother never sleeps late and never shuts up.
@writersedge (22563)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I meant so say like she always used to do, not does. Wish in the present tense.
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@Maggiepie (7816)
• United States
13 Oct 09
[b]Oh, Elic...
Whenever I think of friends & family, I say a prayer for them. It helps.
Love, Magpie[/b]
Whenever I think of friends & family, I say a prayer for them. It helps.
Love, Magpie[/b]
@tamarafireheart (15384)
•
13 Oct 09
Hi Elic,
I am so sorry about your friend, I think she is trying to get in touch with you and letting you know that she is there with you, I know how you are feeling, I dreamt about my mother not so long ago and told her I missed her, she then told me that she was here but all I wanted was a cuddle from her, shed did, then I woke and felt her arms round me and even smelt her perfume, she came to visit me, so your friend is telling you she will be round you soon. You will be ok.
Tamara
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@catdla1 (6005)
• United States
13 Oct 09
What a haunting dream! When some people pass, whether they are family or friends, the time that goes by doesn't seem to lessen the loss. My dad's been gone for 15 years, my mother for 5. I still have dreams where we are talking about something and I feel that I actually hear their voices. I find that comforting when that happens.
You dream is different though, in that your friend Elaine sounds lost and maybe wants to come home to have a place to stay. If you happen to believe in the afterlife, you can take comfort in that perhaps she reached out to you, and that ske misses you as much as you miss her. In the fulness of time, maybe you will be reunited....in the distant future, of course. Do you have some kind of rememberance ritual for the 4th? I do for my folks, although I do it on their birthdays instead of the date thay passed.
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