How do you know someone is right for you!

@dloveli (4366)
United States
October 13, 2009 6:22am CST
When you met a person that you wanted to be with, how did you decide he/she was for you? For me, it's in the kiss. If we kiss good together we can make MUSIC together! I love Alejandro he is my dream man! I never thought I'd ever be this happy! We have been together since the first date. I usually dont go for that. I dont know why but he was the man of my dreams and I guess I knew it. How bout you? Did you know it right off when you met mr. right? dl
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@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Oct 09
When that person makes you feel good and shows you real love then that is happiness right then and there. I never had this in my yonunger years but I can just imagine how wonderful it must be to be in love with someone who loves you. Its like a returning happiness, close to you, at home.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
13 Oct 09
You have plenty of time to find real love. You never have to imagine anything because usually when you least expect it or have resigned to the fact that you wont find it, you do. I am sure of that! Keep the faith. dl
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@derek_a (10873)
13 Oct 09
I guess we have to take a chance with all things in life and allow karma to lead us wherever it lead us. I believe that all good things and bad things in life act as lessons that teach us how to be better human beings. I have felt in the past that I had the right partner, but then some 12 years later, we broke up. I have been with my current partner now for over 20 years. So there is a right person for us all, but only time will tell us this. - Derek
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Derek I am sorry that after 12 years things didnt work out. It is true that things are done for a reason. If you hadnt gone thru that maybe you wouldnt have met your current love. It is a shame that it had to take 12 years but in the end I think it was worth it. You two must have shared some good times and have some great memories. I was with my kids father for 13 years and for most of that I was abused severely. Even still I do have some memories that I hold on to. I wish I hadnt learned all I had but it made me stronger. Now I have the knowledge of what I shouldnt put up with I can move on in a healthy manner. thanks Derek for sharing your story. dl
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@derek_a (10873)
13 Oct 09
Yes DL, everything has a reason and after a few years, or perhaps many years, it can all seem to fit to together like a jigsaw puzzle. - Derek
• China
14 Oct 09
Hello, Derek: I think you are talking what I am feeling. I totally agree with you there. I never believe there is love at first sight, nor I think the right person would be the right person forever... Things are changing... Right can become wrong and good can become bad... When you are in love, you think everything is good with your partner. Anyway, you may find it is not true later... I am glad that you have your partner for 20 years... And my best wishes that he is your right person forever... Good luck to you!
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
13 Oct 09
dloveli the moment I met my husband to be I knew he was the one 'that I was going to marry. even the fortune teller had it right, I would marry a man whose initials were GH. and we would have two children but would lose one of them, and my husband would later be an invalid. I had not believed this of course, but my left since has proved it all out which is just too weird for words.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Hatley you have the makings of a fairy tale. I hope your children realize how lucky to have parents that really truly love each other and belong together. You've been blessed my friend. I also knew from our first date that If I let this man walk out the door, I was probably making the biggest mistake of my life. I dont know why but on that specific day I decided to listen to my little voice inside. It was the best advice I ever followed. I love my man and as much as he annoys me, I know that it was all worth it. dl
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
26 Nov 09
thanks dloveli for the best response and for overlooking some dumb typos I made too. lol it should have been my life ha ha not left that made no sense.
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
It's really difficult to say that one had found Mr. Right. We don't even know who he is. The standards set will not be in the end the one that you would really choose. Mr. Right however is just there, you will find him and only you can say that you found him.
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Well said. How Ironic. I just said almost the exact same thing in another response. It's true. How do we know there is a mr.right? Who defines what a mr. right should be? I agree with that. My determination that my man was my mr. right was based on the way he makes me feel. I dont admit to understanding love in its entirety. I am simply asking what you think about your mr. right. Most people find that there mr. right has been right in front of them the whole time. Who knows? Only we can judge what our mr. right should be. Good Luck. dl
@buping (952)
• China
14 Oct 09
hi, i really do not know who is my mr.right. although i have a boyfriend now, but we often quarrel. and he often let me go mad, and he always be angry with me. i even thinking of saying goodbye to him. about kiss, hehehe...i never think about it too much. anyway, i am gald hearing you have your mr.right
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
14 Oct 09
Be patient friend. For all you know you are looking right at him only the time isnt right. I hear stories of people who went to school together never noticing each other. Then years later they fall in love only to realize they new each other in school. Love is mysterious. Its not predictable. Dont give up on it and dont settle for someone who is always angry with you. Although you can be angry with your mr. right. I could kill mine sometimes. Maybe there is no such thing as mr. right. Maybe not everyone will find theres. If you're happy with your mate dont analyze as to whether or not he's mr. right. Live for what you have today. Dont worry about tomorrow. dl
@jemaries (321)
• Saudi Arabia
14 Oct 09
Finding the right person its very difficult.It doesnt mean that the right person is the person you will live, stay, and have a family with him.It doesnt mean if you met a guy who has everything tall,dark and handsome,kind,you will tell yourself mybe his the one.Or met your man of your dreams.For my experince when i was not yet married i also looking for mr.right guy,but when i found my husband i think found my mr.right guy, because he's taking care me, loving me,understanding, very kind person.He may not the person i wanted that everybody looking for.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I am not sure if we ever know who is exactly right for us. I think we settle for the next bestr thing alot of times so we will not have to wait for Mr. Right to come alone. You will know when he does come along though. You will feel it and not question it.
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
You know when someone is right for you when you two can look into each others eyes and need not say anything to appreciate just the fact that you are together. And when you are apart, he makes an effort to keep in touch and you are secure about what you have.
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
13 Oct 09
That's so beautiful girlfriend! Its funny with all the goings on in the world its good to know that there's a little romance left in the world. Everything isnt so cut and dry. Romance is still an option. Its up to us to keep the fire burning. I have no problem making myself known when it comes to matters of the heart. I only wish the next generation would realize that love is not sleeping together. Anyways I know exactly what you mean. When you look at someone, I mean really look at them, you know what their about. If someone is right for you, when you look into their eyes you melt. Thats the greatest thing that could ever happen to us. Happy MyLotting my friend! dl
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
14 Oct 09
I'll know when he's still there at my side as I'm taking my last breath...
• Greece
29 Nov 09
i believe its what you feel when you are with the person. if im with my love i feel different,i want to see him always smiling and the way he touched gives me comfort and security i want to do the things thsat vcould make him happy and never that i wanted him to feel insecure or unhappy.and i love all what he is and all of these are the same what he feels for me too.thats how i know that hes the right one for me.were very compatible.
@doormouse (4599)
13 Oct 09
if i can see us growing old together and still being happy,if i can't imagine the bloke being old then i know he isn't right for me
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@dloveli (4366)
• United States
13 Oct 09
You are so funny! That's a great one to go by! I am going to look at my man tonight and see if I can imagine him old. I sure hope so. Thanks for sharing. dl
@shimanaja (493)
• Indonesia
14 Oct 09
I dont know someone is right for me, just feel inside deep in my heart, and make a journey. And thanks God everything just fine until i have two kids now. Some told me that find the right partner is gambling. May be right , but make sure your heart told you so. Have a nice day..
• United States
13 Oct 09
I had dated a few times before I met my now husband, and I knew I'd marry him the moment I saw him. It was as if I didn't have a choice. I fell in love and I didn't know his name, and I kept feeling like I'd wake up and realize all of it was a ridiculous figment of my imagination. I never did. It was pretty much decided for me...I was a person with very high standards, and he met all of them. The ones he didn't meet when we met, he changed. He stopped smoking and went vegan for me and didn't do it reluctantly. He had never had a serious relationship before, and he was a virgin, like I was, which was not only a huge turn on but a must. It was as if fate was saving me the trouble of looking for all these things and set my sights immediately on him. Another thing that told me it was obvious we were meant for one another was that we were together four years before we married, and we had issues. Some big, some small. For example, he had smoking cravings that nearly tore us apart. His family didn't put a good first impression toward me and it took me three years to warm up to them because of that. One of the major issues that tested us was his little brother had a brain tumor. All of these things were things that people sometimes leave each other for, but we stuck together. When his brother had the brain tumor my then fiancee needed constant encouragement and company, which I gave willingly. It would have been easier not to, but from the moment I saw him, he was going to be in my life whether I liked it or not. We also had some relationship problems...he has trouble communicating and I sometimes have trouble with anger. He didn't annoy me. I couldn't imagine spending one minute without him and couldn't understand why people needed "alone" time. I loved everything about him, even his imperfections, simply because they were his. I wasn't imagining someone else and urging him to become them. He was who he was, and I adored that. That's kind of a long answer to how I knew.
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@cherrc (661)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hi dloveli. i believe in attraction but not in love at first sight. i think of it as a process being developed. even if turning it into a relationship, we cannot say that "this is it". but of course, who doesn't want it? and so we actually hope for it. but what i can do is to always seize the moment of each day that i'll be spending with the person i hope for...to be the right one. :)
@Lakota12 (42600)
• United States
13 Oct 09
Yes! my 2nd hubby we met and danced all day and night with also talking . He had such and understanding heart that that was it for me. and we had 42 and 1/2 years together before he passed away which will soon be 5 years and I miss him dearly!
@fheroan (615)
• Philippines
13 Oct 09
hello there.. well, for my case.. its a bit different, we never kissed, hugged or hold hands.. coz we met online... we have a different nationality.. but one thing that im sure is he's for me, coz its like i've found my other twin.. we have the same interests, personality and even small things like the flavor in ice cream or even how u sleep at night.. and sometimes, he feels what i feel to... when i feel pain, he also feel pain.. and one thing that i know he's right for me is that i feel his pursuance in meeting me in person, so he did, he booked tickets to go to my country, and im excited to see him too..lol... so, now i believe Aristophanes theory in love(just wanna share it).. "Lovers are born joined but the gods separate them at birth. They wander the earth, lost and lonely, till they find each other again"...:D
• Israel
13 Oct 09
Hi dl, I think that you know someone is for you when you have a lot of common things. a year ago I met some girl that was the same as me - same hobbies, same favorite movie and music. I think that the fact that we are still together can show that common stuff between a couple si very and maybe the most important thing.
@Catwife (54)
• China
14 Oct 09
I would choose to live together with this person for some time! Because the love and life itself is linked to! I hope that can work together every day to cook,and go waik the dog! Walking! Enjoying the beautiful every day!