Tell me Mylotters pls !
By suprad1
@suprad1 (251)
India
October 14, 2009 7:07am CST
Do you continue to live with your partner, of 10 years, if she, time and again, threatens to take you to Police, for simple arguments and to harass other members of your family. I have a friend who is in a fix regarding this. Can this be sorted out and can they lead a peaceful life in the long term? How do they go about? Pls suggest.
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6 responses
@larish (2213)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
If I were in this type of relationship, I rather end the relationship. I never wanted to be threaten like that especially if I am not doing any extreme behavior. Even if its a 10 year partnership if it means that my family will also be harass by this person. I think I will blotter this partner of mine and will request the court that that this person should not be allow to be near me nor my family.
@tatiana07 (497)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
hello suprad!
if i'm in that situation, i would rather not continue living with her. Simple arguments only and we can't handle it so how much more for the upcoming years. so, 10 years is enough for that. We better live in separate ways for us to avoid hurting each other.Who knows we still can be friends for our children, if, we have it.
happy mylotting!
@suprad1 (251)
• India
15 Oct 09
Thanks my friend,
You are right. Even simple arguements is difficult to handle and such kind of harassment/torture is unbearable and unacceptable. The question still is about the future. We never know what is in store. It can turn out to be worst. So better keep ourselves away from such crap for the only child and then give a serious thought as to where we are heading to.
Thanks for your suggestion.
@Ravenladyj (22902)
• United States
14 Oct 09
If I try to sort things out and still my partner were to do these things I would tell him to hit the bricks and get out of my life....I have no time for that sort of nonsense and wouldnt put up with that crap for long at all..
@suprad1 (251)
• India
15 Oct 09
My friend has wasted years to sort things out, but his partner is still trying to dominate the most, and threaten to drag him to Police.
Even I feel, it is not worth the kind of life and they should part ways and move on in life for the betterment of both. This crap has cost them both dearly and is definitely not worth it. They can lead a peaceful life individually.
@xannebull (1793)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
no i won't, that kind of partner is not worthy to be with for the rest of your life. everybody wants to live a peaceful life, but if having a partner like her is a nightmare, he better talk with her to change her bad attitude, or if she wont follow, then it's time for them to have a separate ways.
@suprad1 (251)
• India
15 Oct 09
You are absolutely right. Such kind of attitude cannot be accepted for life. Life is beautiful and we are all surrounded by nice people around. It all depends, how you interact with them all. It is YOU who make this world good or bad for yourself. Live and let live has to be the Principle to maintain peace and harmony at home too. It is better to part ways before anything untoward happens.
Thank you for your comments.
@fezman (260)
• Australia
14 Oct 09
i dont know about taking to police or there abouts, but haveing fights is actually keeping your relationship alive! funny as it sounds but i have been on and off with the missus for 5 years now and i think we are actually closer than before.
i think it has something to do with that you usually shout out something that you usually wouldnt say normally, and from that stems more contraversy, and inturn, things work out for the better (sometimes anyway)
it all depends how compatable\loving you are with your partner i guess and also what length you are both willing to go to to see the relationship survive!
@suprad1 (251)
• India
15 Oct 09
You are right. Small fights in a relationship once in a while is fine and can help in better bonding. But such small hiccups should not be dragged on and on till pulling one to the Police or Law. I think, one of the partner has to put a full stop to any small fights between them and remain silent for a few hours till the issue cools down. This will go a long way in self realisation and improving relationship. Thank you for your comments.
@babyish13 (227)
• Philippines
14 Oct 09
the agreement should only be upon them. I know what they lack. Communication. Communication is the best factor in a relationship. If both of them miscommunicates, whats the purpose of still being together.
is there a reason why she also threatens you to take you to the police?
@suprad1 (251)
• India
15 Oct 09
The arguments are only for arguments sake, with no stuff in it. It is frustrating. The poor guy has tried his best to communicate to her and convince her for the silliest of things too. But the threats have been there for the most stupid reasons, like the guy talking to his siter over phone once in a while. It is all exaggerated reaction for the silliest matters. Sorry about it.
