What Do You Do When You Feel Like Someone is Abusing Your Hospitality?

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September 26 is a date few of us here in the Philippines will forget. It's the day that Onday came for one long visit that flooded the Philippines such as was never seen in the past 40 years. It's been almost 20 days since it happened, which is about the same number of days my aunt and her children knocked on our doors to stay over. Their place was flooded so much that their second floor was also underwater. They're family, so of course, we took them in. That was my aunt, my uncle, and their SIX kids: a toddler, an annoying 6 year old boy who calls me "Hoy", a 7 year old girl who keeps watching what I do and copying it - she says I'm her idol or something but I hardly find it flattering, a 13 year old who acts just like the little ones, a 17 year old who smokes in the toilet, and their eldest who is 21 who is the least annoying. During their first days with us I was actually grateful to have them at home because it felt less empty. Days go by however and they use up all my cooking gas, our house smells for I don't know what reason, condiments and other dry goods are slowly vanishing, and I find myself spending more and more time holed up in my room to get away. I know they lost quite a lot during the flood and maybe I'm just being insensitive (tell me I am, oh God... grrr...) but I just don't see signs of them leaving anytime soon... It's like they are already comfortable at home using up our resources and not sharing with expenses. How do I, in the least offending way, tell them I wish they'd get going? Or am I really overreacting? They're victims of the flood after all (though my uncle and the eldest are working). Tell me, tell me... I'm just feeling so out of place in my own home now.