What if you caught your friend reading your mobile text messages?
By careguarden
@careguarden (5670)
Philippines
October 14, 2009 11:46pm CST
I don't like somebody reading my mobile text messages without my knowledge or permission. It's act of disrespect and it's a violation of privacy. I would definitely get upset with that person.
One time I caught one of my friend reading our office mate mobile text messages during break time. I was surprised why she did that and she never told me either,and she asked me not to tell to our office mate what she did. I was disappointed with my friend. I was thinking that perhaps she also did that to me.
So what would you do, if you caught your friend reading your mobile text messages? Would you mind?
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52 responses
@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Oct 09
I had a discussion about that, except it was about a guy's new GF reading his messages from his old GF. If it's a friend, it's way out of line. If you're in a relationship it's way out of line too unless there's been cheating and trust needs to be re-established!
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@dawnald (85146)
• Shingle Springs, California
15 Oct 09
Yeah I can. The guy involved, when he told me about this, I said it was a huge sign that she either didn't trust him or had a jealousy problem or something. He got mad and told me that that's what people who care about each other do. Naturally, I shut up. lol
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
15 Oct 09
Hi dawnald: My best friend (the person i've been talking about in my last message) did the same with his ex boyfriend. She found somehow the password of his e-mail and she read it in front of me. I discuss about this hot topic with her and i told her, that, even he was his then boyfriend he was not her posession and that she must respect him but she didn't care can you beleive this?
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@Anjonz01 (71)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I must tell you this...you hit to the bone!
I was just telling my gf about this same EXACT thing!
She would somehow sneek my phone and look for 'evidence'.
Wow!
And screams that someone is texting you...goes thru the roof!
But whenever her phone rings, she speaks in her language and code and I never question.
I am wondering if I should be doing the same way and reacting the same way.
But I can not bring myself to do like how she is doing.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well girls sometimes like that. They don't want to be cheated. Well I think your gf doesn't trust you that much, or perhaps you've done things in the past that makes her a bit doubtful about you. OR perhaps she's just like that and it's part of her. Well for whatever reason you're entitled to have your own privacy even if its your gf. Well I think it's better to just talked to your gf about it, and I'm sure she will understand.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well, it can be very tiring as you'd mentioned. But as much as possible it's better work things out in every relationship, as it could possibly be worse to start with someone. But having a relationship that's spend on arguing over nonsense matter could not be good. Well it's your choice and your decision. Wish you all the best! Remember patience is a virtue.
Enjoy your day!
@Anjonz01 (71)
• United States
16 Oct 09
Thank you for getting back to me! You know I had to come back with somethin' though...hehehe.
Like I told her, 'You got some serious trust issues!'
And it's true.
She wants me to trust her but she is likely to try to flip it over.
She's pretty skillful but I tell you, it can be tiring.
But we'll see.
We have been going back and forth and you know what?
9 times out of 10 we are arguing over stupid suff.
Stuff that is sooo wasteful and is not able to help us grow.
Will I bail?
I don't know.
To start with someone else who'll be worse?
I am being very cautious now.
@jambi462 (4576)
• United States
16 Oct 09
I would think it was a little weird because none of my friends are really that nosy but if they did it I really wouldn't be all that concerned. I don't really have anything to hide from my friends so if they want to look through my messages they can go a head.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well good for you, you didn't have those kind of friend. Well most precisely they have their personal interest in checking someones' mobile text messages. Everyone has a right to privacy and some people should value the importance of it in other peoples life, if not for them.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@forestgold (792)
•
15 Oct 09
Yes, i would mind, and i would tell them so.
I think that is way out of order, and an invasion of privacy, and being totally nosey.
I would be very annoyed, and it would put me off the person, as i would think thay are sneaky, and untrustworthy..
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, I agree with you forestgold, Those kind of person are not trustworthy. Even the simple things they break. It was like they're stealing, listening to to private conversation, or doing things that's not allowed.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@starsailover (7829)
• Mexico
15 Oct 09
Hi careguarden: I can talk easily about this topic because obe of my best friend is like that and i hate this. I always get mad because she loves to read my personal notes or my mobile messages without my permission but at the end i always forgive her. I think this is a disrespectful act but some people do'n understand the importance of privacy and they continue doing this. I easily can undertand your feelings.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well good for you, you'd able to understand and forgive your friends behavior. Yeah, I agree with you, there's a lot of people who don't know the importance and take value of someones privacy. I think they never thought that at home. Reading someones mobile text messages without permission is like stealing. Oh, glad that you can relate how I feel.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, it's good to put password on our mobile. By the way I don't know how to edit the text we'd already published. There's a couple of mistakes I made on typing but I just ignore it. It's okay they understand, I'm sure they made the same mistakes like us.
Thank you and enjoy your day!
@shajerrl (309)
• China
15 Oct 09
For me, if I don't get the permission from my friend even my wife, I will never check their mobile, as all our mobile maybe has some secret files that we don't others to know. so if my friends reading my mobile text message without my permission, I will tell them kindly please don't do it next time, if you want to play with my phone, please get my permission firstly...thanks
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yeah, I also don't read other peoples mobile text messages even to my boyfriend without their permission. Because I respect them, they're entitled of their own privacy. And that's what I also want them to do in my part. Anyway sometimes curiosity is the beginning of sin and misery.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@carrine (2743)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
me either. i hate that attitude really. what the heck with them reading my mobile messages. have your own and dont ever dare bugging my own world.and i will really tell that person directly that i dont like of what she/he did.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Well I guess those people aren't really happy with their life that's why they're trying to get into someones business.LOL Or perhaps they're happy doing those things. For a lot of reason they only know and we don't understand. Actually I wasn't able to tell that to my friend because she know obviously that it's not right since she asked me never to tell our office mate what she did. And I was surprised, disappointed and upset. And I just went to my place.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@daliaj (5674)
• India
15 Oct 09
I have never caught any of my friends doing it. I have never read any of my friends text messages without permission. I have read only one of my friends text messages, but that only infront of the friend and that is an entirely different story. I remember one of my colleagues complaining that her hostel mate used to read her text messages in phone when she was not around.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, it's okay when sometimes my friend asked me to read some of my mobile text messages, I don't mind. But those kind of people of who snoop text messages and their behavior sometimes the beginning of gossip and rumors. And you wonder where those person get information about those private matters. Anyway, I don't trust those kind of person.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
hello care-garden,
Who w
ouldn't be upset, can they just do something else with their lives instead reading some one else s text message in a mobile phone. the only time that some one read my text was from a class mate of fine back in my fresh man days when she was requesting to text some one. i don't why she did it but i wasn't aware until a friend of mine complaint that she shouldn't have read the message because it was privacy. i wouldn't trust any one with my cell-phone and i would always bring it with me. 
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, there are some people who pretend to use your mobile 'cause they need to text someone and the truth is they're actually want to read your text messages. yeah you should be careful letting people borrowed your mobile. Especially if you've some secrets keep on it.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
I would get upset of course, even though I don't have anything to hide it's kinda rude for someone to invade someones privacy without his/her permission. It's like reading someone else diary.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yeah, I agree with you. It's kinda rude and disrespectful and I don't really tolerate that kind of behavior.
@asfiona (174)
• India
15 Oct 09
Hi careguarden,
Its not nice to see someone's message without asking. If the person is checking someones phone intentionally then he/she might have perticular reason to check. Now a days everyone is having its own phone so one should really understand what if he/she does without permission.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
Yeah, when a person reading someone mobile text messages secretly she/he has reason but whatever it would be it's only for his/her benefit or self interest.
Thank for sharing and enjoy your day!
@multitasker (63)
• India
15 Oct 09
This has never happened to me ever but reading this discussion, I have decided how to respond in such an event. Firstly, I would tack back my mobile as soon as possible, then will ask why she was SPYING my mobile phone. If she has a reason, i WARN say her not to do it again. But if she doesn't have any reason, I would slap her once and ask her SORRY. Then again I would WARN her. A good idea, isn't it?
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
It could be a good idea, but I don't think I could do that.LOL Because as much as possible I don't like arguments, and by doing what you think It will hurt the person, even though she made mistake it's still better to settle things down in civil way. Well that's for me, we have different approach on dealing situations.
Thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@vivienhsing (31)
• China
15 Oct 09
I think it's really an upset thing. I hope it will never happen to me.I am a serious person. If my friends do things like that, I think he or she might do something bad to me.Such friends are not reliable.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
Yeah, those kind of person are not really reliable and it's hard to trust. If they can't be trusted in small things then how much to more in bigger and serious issues in our life. Those kind of person loves to read other peoples email or listen to others people private conversation.
And you know what at that moment I doubt my friends sincerity and honesty. Because she has no right for doing that thing.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@rockydam83 (846)
• Italy
16 Oct 09
If you dont allow some one to be close to you then how they can be your friends. Friends can share all the life and things related to life. Friendship is based on trust and faith and if you think your friend will chaet you then you dont have a friend yet. I dont have a lot of friends but whatever i have they can use my anything anytime.
To find a true friend, be a true friend that is a simple trick.
@woshiyan (63)
• China
16 Oct 09
I strongly disagree with other people ready my messages
Except by my permission.this is only a few days to listen to my boyfriend said
He had always secretly looking at my phone records,mainly to prove that there is no other boys in pursuit me .i am now very angry,even they are completely aware.
too far
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
I have an experience once that my friend read text messages because she smell something fishy in her admirer and me. She was even confirm when she read my phone messages. It is also a disrespect of my part because I never give her consent to read messages though we're friends.From that time, we've been in trouble and we never became friends.
@TreeMarie84 (104)
• United States
15 Oct 09
I honestly have nothing to hide, so I don't really care. But depending on the messages I would. Especially if it between me and a boyfriend, then yes I'd mind. But everyday convo via texts I don't care about.
@careguarden (5670)
• Philippines
15 Oct 09
It's not about having a secret thing,or hiding something. It's a matter of respect, and someone's invading your privacy. It's other people personal thing, like a journal, and someones sneaking on it. Well anyway we have different perceptions regarding this matter. And reading text messages without asking my permission is a big NO for me.
Anyway thank you for sharing with us and enjoy your day!
@dadoods (41)
• Philippines
16 Oct 09
yes i do mind... i don't like someone reading my text messages not unless i allow her/him. it's my privacy its my buddy its where i can express myself to what i felt on a certain issue /things somehow its part of myself. i would definitely warn her/him not to do it again. it's my right to tell her/him not to do it again. otherwise we might lost our friendship.
