Being alone is good for us!

I prefer being alone. Im never lonely. That may be because of my 3 goofy cats. But my cats treat me with respect all the time. Its not conditional. Id rather live with them than a male. I had a male friend before that claim that they stink. Lol!! Especially coming from him. He smelled much worse that the litter box ever could. His feet and gas leaks were horrid.

I am never happy when i am lonely. I need someone to be their so i do get deprest. But been alone can be good, just having time to yourself to do those thingsthat make you feel good.

Hi Care. I was in my early 50s a few years ago when I divorced an abusive man and lived alone and strictly on my own for the first time in my whole life. It was the most freeing thing I have ever done in my life. I was far more lonely in that marriage than I have been living alone. It is exhilerating to be one's truest and most comfortable and independent self. Karen

I think being alone is good for us too,the reason?Well just like me my friend.Before i dont know how to fixed my own things always depend to my family.Now that im alone living with my work i need to decide what good for me without elderly around me.Cooked my own food,wash my own things and more Confident.Yes careguarden we learn a lot while living alone,have a nice day.

hi,careguarden, I like this discussion,it express my feelings.you are right,being alone is not lonely ,I think being alone is a positive attitude towards life,it allows me to think in quiet,and thus better able to discover new things.I like the feeling of being alone,I have been accustomed to living under such conditions. as you say ,my friend ,I have been used being alone as an opportunity for self improvement. good luck.

Abosolutely! When I was in high scholl, i need my friend go along with me at any time even when i went to washroom. But now in university, ever body is creating their own lifes and you can not go along because you may choose different major and step on a totally different way. Being alone can give us more time to think about the future and decide where to go.

Being alone, does not always mean being lonely. There are good things to consider when living alone. I have to admit, there are times, when it is good to have a partner in life, but not at the expense of being abused. I would rather live alone than to be abused by anyone.

I enjoy my time that I have alone. But when the day is coming to the end, I do enjoy my guy coming home from work and spending the evening with him. If I have times that he doesn't come home for a day or so, I'm alright with that as long as I know he is coming back. I love being alone, but just not all the time.

Yes, i really agree. Solitude is a way for us to reflect without really seperating us from our friends and family. for me, being alone is something like second nature. i want to reflect and think about what happened in my life and also how i should view certain things in a different perspective. because i'm a naturally alone type of person, this lets me literally "charge up" and gives me the energy to interact with people more. I enjoy being alone. this may be because i never really liked how much noise being with friends make and i'm quite happy just to sit down quietly and think. :)

I don't think that alone is really good for every one of us. Because God, create one person and see him alone. And God said it's not good for man being alone so I created him companion. Then God created Eve as to makes the man have someone to live with. Even do to live alone is makes man peacefully living. We cannot deny that sometimes. We feel sorrows and want to have companion in life...No one can say he is happy being alone but most says they are contented being alone...Have a nice day!

As for me, i have to be alone sometimes. My GF works in another town and have totaly different work time. Because she is a training teacher, she has to work when the students are off class. So she has to work in Saturdays and Sundays and as well as nights. Besides, a lot of friends of mine are usually living with their GFs or BFs, so i usually feel it embarrassing to disturb them. And eventually, I am alone most of time when i am off work. It's really very horrible to be alone all the time. To be honest, i like being alone 'cause i can enjoy things myself and think on a lot of things clearly. But sometimes, i really need friends to share things or play with them.

For me being alone is good when I need that time but when you always alone in your self it's find difficult because it can make you crazy.

I recently came out of a ten year marriage and my initial reaction was - i don't want to be alone, having said that I have found that the last few months have really helped me find out who I am and what I want from my life without having to take into consideration anybody else. it has helped me considerably to find the courage to strike out and try and do what i have always dreamed of. my ex never held me back but I think i subconsicously held myself back because i was always thinking 'as a couple'. I get lonely sometimes but i have my friends to talk to and laugh with and I have my dog to keep me company as well as all my hobbies to keep me busy.

yeah...i agree with you... being alone, you can whatever you want..you can think freely, refresh our mind.. When couples have lover's quarel one will say "leave me alone!!!"for him to think over what happend....but it's not good to be alone many times or for the rest of your life..it's more happy you have friends you can hang out and share your thoughts...

Hi, careguarden I certainly appreciate those times that I am alone, just watching TV, reading a book and working on my computer. Yes, I can do those things at the same time My husband and I are almost always together, before and after work and weekends. We almost always do everything together. I enjoy being with him but I do need my time alone every now and then. It's my time to relax, unwind and enjoy too.

According my opinion also, there is a lot of difference between being alone and lonely. I like to be alone sometimes being in my own world. I switch off my phone during those times. I like to do whatever I want during that time. I cook my favorite dishes and watch my favorite TV programs. I go for a walk in the evening alone and be in my own world. I enjoy it sometimes, but not always. Being along for a long time makes people lonely.

Yes! I do agree to this. Sometimes its worth giving time for yourself to at least think about what you`ve done in your life and just seeing who you are. It kinda helps me cope with my depression and at the end make me a strong person.

hi caregarden^^;; i agree for all u said. i have been living independent from my parents for a long time so i'm used to living alone until i met my hubby but now he isn't here too. There are many edges being single since we can decide on our own without worrying about our partners feelings and opinions specially when it comes to financial matters. It's also easy to manage our time because we can do things whenever we want them like going out with friends and meet new people without having to consider about them. Self-contemplation is i think more needed for those who think cannot separate with their partners because of fear of being isolated even they are being beaten.

...Hi there careguarden, I think the best thing in the world that a person can have is the ability to like themselves enough, to be comfortable in their own company, all by themselves, in their skin. You cheat yourself out of so much time and enjoyable things you could be doing, if you have to find others to be with you as you do something. But it does take growth, I used to gather people in a group to travel to different places outside the U.S. and each time, they would all drop out for one reason or another. Until the last time, I wound up the only one left and I made up my mind to go alone. I have been traveling alone and having a great time ever since. You lock yourself in a cage, when you allow others to dictate, if you will or won't do something you would enjoy. You have to be, as you say, strong enough to be by yourself, I love it, you can be in a room full of people and be lonely. It's a state of mind. So, yes it is a good thing to be by yourself, and content, you can always find people, but as some song goes "you wake up with yourself". Be happy, love yourself and always be your own best friend. Take care

Psychologically speaking, there is a big difference between being alone and being lonely. A lot of people think that the people who enjoy being by themselves are lonely or don't have a lot of friends, but sometimes there are just people who like being alone. Myself, I'm kind of a mix, there's sometimes where I like to be around a bunch of people and sometimes I just like to be alone...