How do you react if you hear the word f**k from your five-year old son?

Really embarrased.Do much the same as you ,well I have done.Most kids come out with bad words at some point.It is just part of growing up I am afraid at least you could stop him saying it.my nephew could not sound D so my sister had to stop taking him any where the ducks were as he replaced the D with an F ,You can imagine right out loud "Look mummy ucks " My son was fascinated by time and could tell the time before he was three beleave it or not,everywhere we saw a clock he would shout out he could not use the L in clocks so of course he shouted out the wrong word.My husband recieved a new watch one christmas ,he spent ages asking everyone if they had seen his Daddys' new C need I say more.So don't worry have a bit of laugh on the quiet,we had to, it was so funny but never in front of our son.We slowly got him to learn the L sound and put it after the C.

Yes, I know how kids learn from things around them and however hard we try we can't protect them from everything. My older son was easy to communicate with and since he always discussed things with me, we've never had such 'accidents' with him. If he wasn't sure what a word meant, he never used it...but would ask me what it was. But my little one learns quickly and I often catch him using words that we don't use in the house. He's 3 and I'm not even sure where he's heard the words. Since I work at the same school he goes to, I know it's not at school...it's probably from the other kids in the apartment. I'm now keeping an eye on him all the time when he goes down to play. I had a 4 year old student last year who would use the 'f' word all the time. I was shocked and was sure it wasn't the parents (they weren't the type who would use such language). I spoke to the mother about it and poor thing...didn't even know what the word was. We then found out that his older brother (who was 6 at the time and attending another school) had learnt it at school and was using it. I guess we parents needs eyes and ears at the back of our head (all over our head if possible)to keep our kids from being exposed to all this!!

I think you are doing the right thing too. It's good not to scold or confront him in front of other people, it may make him feel embarrassed and not being respected. I think your son is good too, as he understands it's not a good word to say after your explanation. Like father, like son. ^_^ Firstly, I'd ask why he said that F word. He may not know it's not a good word to say, and it actually insults others. Then from his answer, I'd explain to him. I've learned from a book that we should listen to the kids, and understand them, instead of telling them what they should do. Perhaps there are some meanings behind the actions that we didn't notice. If we show our concerns and understanding, the kids will be more cooperative and learn better.

hi mchavez11 I think you handled that just exactly right and your child seemed to understand you.i would probably have been a bit more shocked and might have swatted him on his touche just once then told him just what you said to your little son. but I m sure your way is much better.

You are a good father, i guess maybe your kid is learn the prohibited word from television, or music it is the common tools for kid they are very easy to learn from it, we can't control when we are not at home .... My react is stunned and surprised also, it's like a thunder in a light day but you are a good father since you didn't get angry with your child infront of the people i guess your son will understand it

That is what needs to be done, I think you handled it rather well. Don't take this story wrong because it seems to me this word did not come from your mouth. I was with a girl one day and her child. We were walking into the house when her papaw and girlfriend drove up. The four year old said I hate that mother f***er. She started to slap her in her mouth. The problem with this is her mother had one of the nastiness mouth I ever heard. I looked at her and said "Not in front of me you won't" She was shocked but I explained . They only know what they hear. She said she was a adult and could speak how she wanted. I told her that if she wanted to cuss and her kids not to she needed to be more discrete infront of them. she had 4 kids and they all had nasty mouths. Everyone knew where it came from.

I would more than likely be very embarrassed and take my kid home. What you did was the right thing to do. When my son would say words he should not I would talk to him and tell him just because you hear adults use those words does not mean you should say them. Most of the words he would pick up from his dad or grandfather when they were working on a tractor or a piece of equipment and a piece would not come off or they could not get a screw to start. Kids learn from there parents or other adults and if they hear something like f**k from and adult they think it is alright to use that word.

I will also be surprised hearing that word from my son. You did the right thing of taking him out or away from the group and talked to him upon reaching home. I will do the same thing too --talk to him. I will allow him to tell me what happened why he reacted that way and said those words. I will also try to check on where he learned about that word and what is it for him. Then i will explain to the best that i can that what he did is wrong and ask him if that will happen again what is the best way for him to handle it. He may be too young...five years old but his exposure is so much to make him think it's fine to say and do it. As parents we never underestimate our kids. We need to properly guide them and be selective on what tv program to watch and computer games to play. Parental Guidance is advise.

Yes, you're right children nowadays are fast-learners and they always tendo to copy sombody who said or do some things. So i think parents have the biggest responsibility on it. They should guide the child and correct them when they say or do bad things.

Kids are having a strong sense of immitation that we can not imagine, sometimes we just can not figure out where the words the kid learnt from. We should be careful when we direct our kids to the right direction. You should note the source how the kid learnt the "F" words except for explaining why it can not be allowed. As they might confuse why the adult can say and the kids don't. Every source of the foul words should be departed from the kids.

Hi mchavez: what you've done was a very wise decition. Sometimes kids surprise us in a bad way bad, we, as father must act thinking before expressing our oppinion. You have definetly know how to teach your son that he has done something bad that was not funny in any sense. It's nice to know the happy ending of this experience

I think how you handled your son is probably the best way to handle it. I feel that when we emphasis that they did wrong and "feak" out and yell at them they have a tendesy to find it more interesting to watch your reaction. Where as we don't put much emphasis on it they get bored in it and will not repeat it.

I remember when my 4 year old nephew learning how to talk,he would had repeat and word he heard from any one . On one particular morning,I went to babysit him,He was saying the F word to me. I went to the kitchen and grab a small chilli,and touch it on his lip everytime he utter the four letter word. From that time i guess he learn his lesson.

You might be from america or other wesetern country right?I noticed that most of the people from these countries use the F word every time .Weird.

Oh, Geez! To hear such a foul word from your little one's mouth must have upset you! You did the right thing ... obviously he had heard the word and thought it was the way you express anger... so it was great that you spoke to him and it sounds as if he understood... We have been trying to stress to our son the importance of using the proper words for certain things... we also try to stress that even though you hear/see something that an adult does, it doesn't mean it's right or okay to repeat! The first instance with our (then) 3 YO, was the word "Stupid" - I just HATE when children use this word because it's usually used incorrectly and it's usually meant to hurt someone's feelings... so we started insisting he say "Silly" We simply say, "We don't say stupid, we say silly." He got it and now even corrects us when he hears us say it! Now, at 4 YO, the latest thing is "pi*s me off" !!!! We just explain to him what the words mean and ask him to find another word to use instead. Now, he says, "making me mad" or "it's annoying me" ... I think it's important that they know what they are saying, why it's not appropriate to say it, and give them the chance to figure out what they can say instead. I do agree with you, you can't control everything outside of your home, but if you consistantly teach them what is and what isn't appropriate, I think - I hope - that they will make the right decisions when they are not with you! As parents, that's all we can hope for - teach them and hope they make the rights decisions.

Hello Mchavez, That is why to educate a kids isn't easy now with the expose from the environment they are getting now. But of course we do our best to teach them the right things. For your son, he might not know what is the real meaning of that word or probably he is follow some one and he learn from there. I will get shock with it if my kids say out this word too. Most important is how we going to explain to them, correct them.

You did the right thing. I think that is all we can do nowadays with kids. You can't stop your child from experiencing the outside world. There are so many avenues in which good and bad habits can reach our children nowadays. When you see that your child has used an abuse word, I think the only thing to do is to explain to them what they just did and how it affects everyone who has heard it. The child may not even know what he/she just said. It is best to explain these things when the child is still young. At a young age the child usually holds his parents in high esteem and will likely take any advice to heart. As they get older, however, they rely more on their friends advice than their parents. Depending on what type of friends they have it could be a good thing or a bad one.

As the proverbial saying goes, wash his mouth with soap! This would have been funny, but I heard on the radio on the way to work today that a FL woman got arrested for actually washing her daughter's mouth with soap. The kid kept cursing pushing the mother to wash her mouth. The kid got an allergic reaction, and her mom brought her to the hospital. The nurses, at the hospital then reported the mother to the authorities where she got arrested. Sorry to get off-track, this discussion just reminded me of this story.

Would hope he didn't get from me, an if I was sure I'd wanna know where he heard it.

Absolutely be shocked !!! This affair shows that you are not a good father.Are you too busy to teach your son ? you must make a self-examination !!