Honey, where have you been???

I have to agree with the first poster...controlling isn't the same as checking up on someone, asking them how they're doing, etc., especially if you are married. My husband and I consistently call each other when we're not together. This isn't because we don't trust one another, but we are a couple who would like to be with one another 24/7 (even after 4+ years!). He calls from work at night just to tell me how my night is going, as me how mine is, make plans for what we'll do the next day, etc. If he didn't call, I wouldn't think "freedom!" Instead, I'd wonder if he even cared or missed me while at work. Of course, our relationship tends to fall on an extreme side. I know many couples who are happy and don't talk as much as we do or want to be together as much as we do. Calling every other fifteen minutes and asking, "Who are you with? Where are you? What are you doing?" with a suspicious sound in your voice (or even demanding), would be something I would avoid. I would call your husband up at least every few hours depending on how long he's out, just to remind him that you love him or maybe just ask him if he wants to watch a movie that night, etc. Call him not to say "I'm suspicious" but "I love you." It sounds like you're not suspicious of him but instead are giving him too much freedom. Honestly, he has freedom but if he loves you he probably wants you more involved in it. Good luck.

Hi corrycrystal, loving and caring is not synonymous with controlling. Husbands like to be given attention by their wives. If you have not been so inquisitive this past 3 years, he might take it as you don't care. As it is, it is not too late. Be a little bit more concerned with his activities. Go with him and have fun. Couples should be sharing lives, not just houses at night.