Good Listener/ Relationship advice
By Laur25
@Laur25 (12)
United States
October 17, 2009 12:10pm CST
I am a great listener and I guess sometimes too nice. Most of my friends always come to me for advice. Usually its always relationship advice. I have several friends that only talk to me when they're going through something with their relationship and need to vent and get advice on what to do. Half the time I wonder if they really listen to me when I give them my advice. Recently a friend of mine came around, hadnt talked to him in like a year, telling me his gf and him are having issues. She would never let him go anywhere and he always had to 'report' everything he did while she was at work. Of course this was all one-sided, so I couldnt really give complete advice, besides taking the facts. He was unhappy, she's cheated on him several times and he'd take her back. I kept telling him if he's not happy he needs to move on. He needs to get his old friendships back and get out there and start having fun again. The hardest part for him, besides his love for her, was that they have a child together. Long story short, this was the last time she cheated on him because he finally took my advice and moved on. Recently I found out he is now going back to school, and is dating one of my best friends! He's finally happy. That made me happy to know that he took that step.
Does anyone else ever give out advice, hoping its good and that it helps? If so, what was your outcome?
Or if you wana just tell a story...
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@gabs8513 (48686)
• United Kingdom
17 Oct 09
Yes I do all the time
I am so glad though that your Friend is free and happy now and getting on with his Life
A relationship like that is no good even if there is a child, as the Child will pick up on it eventually
He did the best thing and you certainly gave the right advice to him and that would have been the advice I would have given to