Do you snoop in his/her stuff?
By LightWarrior
@LightWarrior (131)
Romania
October 17, 2009 8:38pm CST
This is a question for any woman or man who's ever checked the other half's browser history, drawers, pockets, phone messages, and thought "Great, now what?" Have you violated the privacy of your husband/wife/boyfriend/girlfriend and found out something that you didn't want to know? Did you confront your pair?
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@VVroom (255)
• Romania
18 Oct 09
Snooping is a matter of trusting the other one. You either trust him/her so snooping is meaningless for you or don't trust him, so you snoop. But if you don't trust , then why are you snooping? The logical way is to start with something else. And this is a question for yourself: what is it that brings you the lack of confidence in your partner? The right answer to this question will provide knowledge. And knowledge provides understanding. And understanding of something means to stop knowing ABOUT something and to start knowing something. Consequently snooping becomes once again meaningless because once you know your partner, you also know if he/she is what you are looking for. Either he/ she is what you re looking for so you trust him/her completely, or he/ she is not what you re looking for, so why bother yourself with snooping; it's anyway the end of the line. Now... there is another point of view here ( I am sure you already thought about it) : I will never snoop in anything as long as there is nothing hidden or it was not communicated to me in some form there is something hidden from me. Anyway...when snooping is happening, both of them are in trouble, there is not only one guilty person ( I admit, there can be few exceptions but they are just confirming the rule)
@LightWarrior (131)
• Romania
18 Oct 09
I never snooped on any of my boyfriends, I guess I always thought that truth will come up at some point, no matter what and I never tried to hurry the process of the truth being revealed. I'm the kind of person who asks herself way too many questions about everything, and yeah, trust has been an issue for me for a long time. And... I've been spied, so I know what it means, it kinda puts you "en garde", even if you're innocent. I'd rather ask that person the question that bothers me than to search for clues in his cell phone or e-mail.
And to answer your question, the thing that brings out the lack of confidence in anyone, not just my partner, is the fact that none of the people I know is God, and the simple human nature is not necessarily something to trust in. I think that what I need is to find out if something's wrong long before that thing evolves into a serious problem, so I can fix it. Human nature, what can I say? I'm not God either. Or at least, not all the time. :))
@ashwinawake (28)
• India
19 Oct 09
No not really.. Haven't shown that kind of acumen in other peoples affairs.My policy is "live and let live".You can snoop if you feel that he or she is a secret spy working for KGB,a murderer,a super hero,an alien or if you are a sicko pervert.
@LightWarrior (131)
• Romania
20 Oct 09
Hahaha! Well said, ashwinawake! I'm pretty sure I would snoop on my bf if I would suspect he's an alien. There might be a problem trying to decode whatever I find, but who cares? It's a hell of an adventure and I wouldn't pass that. :)) I just hope he's not the green type... :)))
@mummy2jake (399)
• Australia
18 Oct 09
I've snooped on my hubby & hes snooped on me. We have nothing to hide & know & don't care we do to each other. Its one thing if its obsessive every day, but we're talking a few times a year at most. If we find something we didn't like we bring it up, discuss & resolve it :)
@LightWarrior (131)
• Romania
18 Oct 09
Agree, ktosea! Trust is one of the most important things in any kind of relationship. And when there's no trust there's no future also.
@LightWarrior (131)
• Romania
18 Oct 09
So, you did snoop or not? Or you're the snooped one? I don't like snooping either, but then again, I never had any real reason to do it.
