what can i do? I love a girl, but she had a boyfriend of

China
October 18, 2009 10:05am CST
that girl i love her,but she already had a boyfriend. i feel so bad.i want tell her,i love her.but i think it's not good for her. who can tell me,what can i do?
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@fergus (817)
• Ireland
18 Oct 09
Hi jsszlhy, Do you mean she already has a boyfriend if so stay away from her. I no its hard but if you don,t stay away it will reck your head. Just be happy for her and try and move on mate all the best.
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• China
18 Oct 09
hi fergus The reason I understand,but i can do it. i'm going to be crazy. thank you to tell me about you opinion.
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
You can't do anything. I would suggest you stay away from her and forget about your feelings, you see what comes around goes around, if you persist on the feeling, I don't think it's good karma at all, you're trying to steal someone who already has commitments even though they're still boyfriend/girlfriend. Just think about it, how would you feel if someone wants to steal your girl from you? You wouldn't like other people flirting with your girlfriend either. So stay away. Don't do unto others what you don't want others to do unto you.
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Hi, it's been three years since your discussion and my response. How are you doing? Where you able to stay away from her? How are you now?
• China
18 Oct 09
thank for your sugggestion,i kown what to do now,i'll get away from her. it's the best choice
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@djoyce71 (2511)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
Hello... She has a boyfriend? Then, you can't enter the picture. It's not good to enter in a situation like that because you're gonna ruin a relationship. It might hurt, but for me, staying away is the right thing to do. You're young and you will find someone that's for you. Good luck!
• China
18 Oct 09
hi,thank you for your suggestions.i think i kown what to do now.
• India
18 Oct 09
hey mate i have a good experience with that haha , well the best thing would be , just tell her that you love her , see thats the best way you can be happy. if she is in deep love with her boyfriend then there's no point of getting her , you can just tell her that , you love her , and you know she has a boyfriend so you just thought of telling her , so that you could be happy and then you could be good friends. the worst case :- you never tell it to her , keep it in your head in a hope of getting her some day , but the fact would be, you'll not get anything , rather you'll just waste your time thinking about her. and it seems you are a good guy , so well impossible for you to look for other girls when shell be in your head all the time. so just gather some courage and just accept it to her , remember , you are not proposing her , you are just telling your feelings to her so that yo feel good. and when you start feeling good you can just move on with other girls hehe , that will hardy take 1 month time. all the best with your life :)
• India
18 Oct 09
oh man dont ever try to do that , i tried that too , then thought about her for 2 years. dont ever try to forget her like that , that will be very painful and i guarantee you that you would become a big loser for some time , if you want that then thats your wish. but y dont you just want to tell her that you loved her , she will understand you feeling and then you can be good friends too .
• China
18 Oct 09
hi kapil_poundarik,thank you for your suggestions.just like you said,i'm the worst case now.i dare not to tell her i love her.but i decided that i will forget her in some days.
@calai618 (1773)
• Philippines
18 Oct 09
I think her having a boyfriend is an indication that you should stay away from her at least for now. Try busying yourself with somethhing or someone else and see if the thoughts of her will vanish. If not, just wait till she is finally free to find someone else to love then you can go approach her. It may be too cheesy to say this but this quotation really suits you now, "If you love someone, set her free." :D
• China
18 Oct 09
Thank you for your suggestions,i will try busying myself with something.
@anning (88)
• China
18 Oct 09
In chinese there is an old saying which means that a girl that belonged to your firend you shold respect her and keep away from her.if you do not want to lose a friend you should give up her . or you will lose a friend and you will lose the girl someday like you have done today.
• India
18 Oct 09
its obious that he is not going to get the girl by any means , so the best way is to just respectfully tell her your fellings.
• China
18 Oct 09
yes i kown what you just said.i will get away from her. it's the best choice
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
19 Oct 09
become friends with her, and be there for her. when she breaks up in the future, you will be there for her, and maybe something will work out then. and if she doesnt break up with the guy, then you both will become good friends.
• United States
23 Oct 09
Until she has a ring on her finger, she's fair game; but if she makes it clear to you that she's not interested in you, accept it and move on. There's no sense mooning over her, it's just a waste of time.
@jashoaf (296)
• United States
21 Oct 09
If he is just a boyfriend, not serious, then let her know how you feel, and also that you will respect her boundaries. she may not know how you feel. However - if her current boyfriend is serious, if she is committed to him, then you are crossing the boundary by approaching her. You have no business approaching someone who is in a committed relationship. Besides, if she is committed and leaves him for you, what's to keep her from leaving you for someone else? Just because you 'love' her is no excuse for you to cross boundary lines. If you really love her you will do what is in HER best interests, not what makes YOU feel good.
@leahsmom (337)
• United States
19 Oct 09
Play the friend card if her and her boyfriend break up you'll be the first one she runs to. My husband did it to me and I'm so glad he did. He treats me much better then my ex.
• United States
19 Oct 09
If she has a boyfriend, it's a no go. If things don't work out between the girl and her guy, then you can go for it (just don't try to break them up on purpose, she'll resent you if she finds out). All you can do is wait or move on.
• Czech Republic
18 Oct 09
Hi. This is a common problem, I think :) You can tell her, there's nothing wrong about that. Then it is up to her to decide. But though I think that if she's truly in love with her boyfriend, she'll stay with him. Don't worry, buddy, there's a lot of single girls everywhere, even near around you. Belive, the right one will once come and love you ;)
• China
18 Oct 09
hi,Thank you for your opinion,i think i should try to forget her. but it is hard to do for me.
@blneil (1)
• Philippines
13 Sep 12
Try the best you can do, if you are really serious about here, fight for her if it makes you happy.
• Guangzhou, China
1 Jun 15
look for another one
@doormouse (4599)
18 Oct 09
leave her well alone,just be friends,you shouldn't put that sort of burden or pressure on her