Flattering or offensive?
By cjfoust
@cjfoust (614)
United States
October 18, 2009 11:17am CST
Last night, one of my father's co-workers was over at their house. I stopped by to pick up my mom so we could go out and do a little shopping. The whole time I was there, this guy (who I later found out is only a year old than I am) was staring at me and smiling. I have seen him over there a few times before and he seemed like a nice person. He knows I am married and that I'm pregnant - six months along. Anyway, my mother and I leave and come back and when I get there the guy (who doesn't have a drivers license) asked me to give him a ride to the store down the street. Not wanting to, but not wanting to seem rude either, I drive him to the store. The whole way there and the whole way back he is telling me how cute I am and so on. After I drop him back off at my parents house, I go home and I'm stunned. While I do find it somewhat flattering, considering I feel as big as a cow and this guy is hitting on me, I find it offensive as well. Almost scary. Knowing my situation, why would he say these things to me? Would you find it flattering or offensive?
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5 responses
@Joker_MD (9)
• Moldova
18 Oct 09
Well even if you are cute and telling you a compliment may be nice and pleasent thing to do, knowing you are married and being so active with the compliments make me think he is just a jerk. Or maybe an extremely impressive gentlemen that has only one goal, to make women feel attractive :)
@KrauseHome (36448)
• United States
19 Oct 09
Personally since I am sure he knows you are married, and pregnant at that, I would find it a little Creepy and offensive and also would be afraid to be around him alone. Unless this is someone I knew quite well there is no way I would be driving them to the store by myself and put up with those comments as he sounds unsafe to be around when alone. So from now on sounds like you need to be on your guard and not offer him rides for sure.
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@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
18 Oct 09
hi cjfoust well first just because you are pregnant does not
mean you look ugly,but still it seems a bit thin for him
to actually try to come on to you. He knew you were married
so what does give with this man? I think I would be flattered
a little but also much concerned, what is in this man's mind?
@jebbbbzzzdebebz (210)
• United States
18 Oct 09
I'm a young female myself, and this sort of thing just always pisses me off. Saying that you are cute is a compliment, and though it might be weird, it's acceptable. But for him to say it more than once in such a short time span, when you don't know him, you're alone with him, you're MARRIED, and he's a co-worker of your father's is COMPLETELY inappropriate ...and borderline creepy.
Had I been in your shoes, I would have felt very uncomfortable, and would have said some not nice words to him. He's a big boy, he knows better.
Man! Just reading your post got me all riled up!!
