Good looks can take you far

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@VVroom (255)
Romania
October 18, 2009 4:40pm CST
'Good looks can take you far. Strangers rate attractive people as more rustworthy and honest, and lookers earn more money, too. Now, scientists report that this deferential treatment may lead the beautiful to be more trusting when they know others can see them.' says Michael Torrice from ScienceNOW. (you can read the rest of the article, here: http://sciencenow.sciencemag.org/cgi/content/full/2009/1016/2 ) Indeed good looks helps. Another characteristic of modern world that divide humans in 2 categories. Outrageous, some will say. This is it, others will consider. What is your opinion?
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@GoGirl149 (152)
• Canada
18 Oct 09
I completely disagree with that article. I tend to trust beautiful people a lot less than ugly people. Especially if I'm in a relationship with one. There's an old song that goes something like this: "If you want to be happy for the rest of your life, never make a pretty woman your wife. So from my personal point of view, get an ugly girl to marry you." Words of wisdom. The pretty woman will get attention from all the other men and will make the husband very jealous. The ugly woman won't get any attention from other men and will spend all her time cooking and cleaning for her husband. (it's a song from the 1950s). Me, I consider myself an ugly girl. And a very honest girl.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
Wow, thanks for sharing GoGirl. I didn't expected this kind of position. However, your words ' The ugly woman won't get any attention from other men' are in agreement with the results of the study I mentioned. Well done for you if you already got aware of this fact. And why do you say you are ugly? Nobody is. It always depends on who's looking at you, right?
• Romania
19 Oct 09
I'd rather say it always depends on how you see yourself. But it's also true that other people's reaction to a person can change that person's point of view on herself. Which is not a good thing, but it's happening anyway. My opinion is that when a beautiful girl marries a guy who thinks she's too beautiful for him, she might leave him after a while, but not because she's given so much attention from other men, but because she will start feeling she's too good for her husband too. If he would be sure of the fact that she's his soul mate, then I'm pretty sure she'll believe that too, no matter how good or bad looking he is for the rest of the world.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
Mmm, nice point. You said words of wisdom. I wonder what GoGirl will add
@edxcast (1168)
• Ecuador
19 Oct 09
Unfortunately this world has become so superficial that this is true. There is no denying on this its true that looks matter not just on relationship but also on business. Dont really know what to think about this.
@edxcast (1168)
• Ecuador
19 Oct 09
hello Lei yeah you are right chati is my nickname you are not mistaken, and i agree its been a long time. You have a point on there, but the thing is between a good looking person and one who isnt, most people tend to trust more the ones who are better looking just because of that and they do not analyze which one is truly better for business sake.
@mac_fish (723)
• China
19 Oct 09
Hi.chati.I hope I DONN'T mistake ur nickname,it's a long time since I saw ur comments last time,where have u been? Well,let's talk about the post.That's actually a fact of society,but I think the view of starter may goes too far,people nowadays wonn't be so easy that trust people by appearance,especaially involved with money.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
superficiality... I completely agree with this word. Thank you for your input.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
19 Oct 09
I think it can be a good starting point; like giving an edge or some sort. But brains and talents also play an important role after that. The starting boost of good looks can help one to get to places or careers whereby beauty factors are stressed. Careers like cabin crew, models and whatnot. But for instance, if you are a script writer, you don't need beauty. I see the difference there; and there are chances and opportunities for all types of people; beautiful/handsome and average looking. No doubt there is the thumb rule; looks can be deceiving. But I think to be fair to the report; people have this misconception that the ugly looking are always crooks. This is like normal to our brain function. We see beautiful things or people as nice. Even animated cartoons have dashing looking heroes and very beautiful damsel in distress with hearts of gold. So, I see some truth to this report. It's how you look at it, really. Good discussion here.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
20 Oct 09
I think like you too. And beauty and handsomeness are subjective. Some people might look at someone as being good looking but some might not find that person as attractively so. It sure is a good head-start, but the rest lies in skills and ability.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
That is true and I think it was also pointed out in the article: good looks is just a booster, the chance they have in front of the other ones. I also agree that it's how you look at it. It always is :) However, I'd point out another related direction for this discussion. What is beautiful? And what is ugly?
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• Philippines
20 Oct 09
Good looks is what many people have coveted after. They earn and get money for them to fix their face and make them look good. Looking good is just a skin-deep type of personality. One preacher said that physical beauty or good looks is only skin deep. The true measure of a man's beauty is through his character. I believe it to be so. The best quality is the character of a person deep inside his heart. I know that it may be difficult to understand but when we understood, it will take as farther than mere good looks.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
20 Oct 09
Of course you are right. Of course, the results of the study are saying: today humans are superficial. Of course, the true measure of beauty is in the human heart. But still... there's a long way until everybody will awake.
• Philippines
31 Oct 09
I think humans are wired to look into beautiful faces.what I don't like is people who are pretty are judged as being kind,successful,smart,or worthy.they automatically give positive adjectives to pretty people without knowing who they really are.I think they should not judge through faces only.also,just because a person isn't really pretty she isn't worthy.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
1 Nov 09
thanks. Superficiality , another 'nice' thing about the humans...
@rhycolez (81)
• Indonesia
19 Oct 09
Yeah, we need to be good looking everytime because it can attract other people to have more respect on us. With good looking and also good personality surely we get more confident to talk or communicate with others.
• Indonesia
20 Oct 09
Yes, i agree with him.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
Your opinion is somehow connected with LightWarrior's answer ( nr. 4). Do you agree with him?
@fifileigh (3615)
• United States
19 Oct 09
i dont think so. people i know all look different, and it all depends on the individual, not their looks. and, i dont have any problems with good looking people. i trust them. many ugly people i meet have a lot of problems because of the way they are, and they talk bunch of garbage to make themselves something they are not in order to feel better about themselves and their ugliness. i have done business networking a lot at different companies and business events since the 1990s, and most business people are ugly. u dont see too many good looking people working here and there.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
We are again in the point where we should define beautiful and ugly in order to see what is going on. So? What's your input? What is good looking? And what is ugly? Anticipating your answer, there's another question: what does 'normal' mean?
• Southend-On-Sea, England
27 Nov 09
I don't judge by looks at all, and I wish the world would stop doing so as I feel that if we judged people on qualities such as kindness, sincerity etc., we'd all ultimately be a lot happier. I read somewhere that marriages between two good-looking people are much more likely to break down than those between two people who are less good-looking. Though this isn't true of all good-looking people, I find they are more likely to have shallower personalities as they've spent their lives relying on their looks, and haven't thus felt the need to build a character.
• United Kingdom
19 Oct 09
I've heard about this and it's a real shame that this is the case. I don't think that everything is black and white though, there are lots of in betweens! Good looking people tend to be favoured when applying for positions and so forth, it's horrible but I don't think that there's anything that can be done about this. There's nothing that can be proved that this is taking place. Andrew
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
Well...the study mentioned before is kind of a prove. Anyway it's just related to the first impression, I think. Later your talent and skills are more important ( thank God for this!)
@dakiss (181)
• India
19 Oct 09
i agree good looks is will drive u ...
• United States
19 Oct 09
attractiveness always has a positive effect when dealing with others. no avoiding the way were wired up.
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
It's what we learned from the mentioned study. But, I am asking again. How about discriminating 'ugly' people? Even for a couple seconds...
@shilley (155)
• India
19 Oct 09
Good looks gives one confidence and a positive attitude to move further.It is important to look good and feel good.But at the same time one should know how to carry themselves,any overdoing will do the reverse of getting compliments.Ofcourse looks are important because it is the first thing which grabs ones attention until and unless you are aware of the persons nature.Being well groomed is a key to get recognised.
• Romania
19 Oct 09
I read the article and I tried to figure out my opinion (since I never thought whether I trust beautiful people more or not, only whether I enjoy their presence more) and the final answer is No, I don't find good looking people anymore trustworthy and honest than others, even if sometimes I do enjoy their presence more. I think what matters is how a person feels in general, and it's true that good looking people are more at ease with new acquaintances than people who see themselves as ugly. And that's a very important thing for the one who meets them, it's normal to trust someone who trusts himself/herself more than someone who doesn't. Don't you think?
@VVroom (255)
• Romania
19 Oct 09
Absolutely. Lack of self confidence is what put distance between people. But even if I agree with you I am feeling there's something missing. Hard to identify but I will sleep on it. Will be back :)
@solared (1207)
• United States
19 Oct 09
yes it helps to open doors, but it also helps people to cling onto you an use you, so it no one has it easy.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
19 Oct 09
I think good look indeed helps.When i was still in colleage, my classmate told me that if he ever open a company, he will choose those who looks pretty. Because he thought that people who in the compnay will repersent of the company, good looking people builds good reputation.