Stay at home moms

I feel your pain. I work full time and usually I do the bulk of my housework on the weekend. After sweeping and washing the floors, usually the dog and 2 kids will walk through and leave mud on it. Within an hour of a top to bottom clean, it looks as though nothing has been done. The thing I absolutely can't stand is when my kids spread their toys and clothes all over the living room - taking over my relaxation area of the house. They have their own rooms that they can mess up, why should I have to look at their mess in my "space"!!

Hi Kagniwood, I am just wondering how old is your two sons? I myself also a stay at home mom and I have small little boy aged 32 months old. So far, there is no problem for me to cope with housechores and taking care of my son at the same time. If your son has started schooling,then it means they spent less time at home ,so it is more easier for you to tidy up your house and always remind them not to make the house dirty or mess up the things inside the house.Of course,kids can be playful sometimes,dig out this and that ,then never tidy up. For me, I always scold my son when he did it and I will insist that he has to tidy up his own toys after playing with them.I will offer him some helps too sometimes and will praise him after he got it done. It is important to praise your sons after they have followed your instruction,you can simply say : good boy,well done & mummy love you.Sometimes, I will offer some snack for him too like prune,fruits or cake. I never use biscuits or sweets or chocolates as the bribe as they are no a healthy food for kids.

I think all stay at home moms can relate to how you feel!! I am right there with you, my kids are getting bigger so they do help out more. They are 8 & 4, so they help put things away and all. All I can say is that it does get better and a little bit easier, I am a neat freak so I am constantly cleaning up as soon as a mess is made. But I have learned to let the kids rooms stay messy if they don't pick them up, but your kids are still little so I'm sure you have toys all over the living room, and every other place in the house! When mine were little I hat two large wicker baskets in the living room for their toys so it stayed tidy and all I had to do was throw the tops in the baskets. I think most men are alike and don't feel the need to pick up after themselves, its like they don't even realize they are making a mess for you to clean up....I have learned to just get use to that because I'd rather pick up after my guy than start a fight over it. Talk to your fiance and see if he is willing to help out, by either cleaning or watching the kids so you can clean.

well my husband helps me out in the work which we do... and he is there all the time with me.. it's a hectic work for me to manage one daughter,... the question is how do u manage two?? well by the way.. is he ur fiancee or ur husband and father of both the kids..

I think everyone mother goes through this. There is hope out there although I think right now you may be stuck with how it is for a little while. Your kids are still pretty young and besides maybe getting them to put their toys away after playing with them there isn't many other chores they can do right now. I would start to have them do smaller chores like putting toys away so they can learn and will be more willing to do it when they get older. A for your fiance, I am not sure if he helps you out or not but you need to let him know that you are getting burnt out and may need his help..I know there are a bunch of men still out there that think they don't need to help with house work but it does getting very overwhelming and if he is the type that refuses to help it may be time to rethink a few things. I think with his help on even small things like laundry or dishes even if just a few times a week it will ease up on you a bit. But yet another you need to realize is you have two small children that take up your time right now and if you don't get the chance to have a beautifully clean house it is alright, and if there is someone who doesn't like it then they don't need to come there....enjoy those kids while you can the house work can wait...before you know it they will be moving out and you will be thinking remember when they were young and making a mess of the house =)

I think your kids are a little young to pick up a broom and start sweeping. But you can try to trick them into cleaning up by making it into a game. You can even sing a song and dance around as you do it... "The clean up game, the clean up game. You find a toy and you put it away." As for your fiance, maybe you can tell him that you need him to help out more and you can give him one or two very specific tasks to do. That way it's clear what you want him to do. And don't criticize him if he doesn't do it perfectly. He's helping you so you have to appreciate that. Good luck!

we do the same too, as of now i am a stay at home mom with my 2 kids, my son is 5 and my daughter is 6, since my husband works far from us so we hire a stay at home house maid.it's very exhausting if you alone is working and fixing things at home with two babies, it happened to me like that when my housemaid went for a one week vacation. i am alone taking care of my two kids, and the house is a mess every minute every hour because my kids are playing and scattering around, i have to cook, wash the clothes and dishes, clean the house but still after cleaning, toys are still scattering and i am getting exhausted after the days work, so having a housemaid helps me a lot, i can rest sometimes and has an assistant in doing the household chores.

i guess all stay at home moms go through the same thing... I am a stay-at-home mom myself... a work-at-home should i say. Nomatter how late i sleep at night i have to wake up at 5 to cook breakfast and packed lunch ..then help my 14 year old son get ready for school and drive him there before 7am... I have a 2 year old who requires so much attention that sometimes when i sit on the computer get ready to work he would do so many drama ... I would have to lock my room when my boss calls me up just for me to hear what he's saying. when he takes a nap, i finish my job... then that's my chance to log on to mylot and other programs i am into.... on fridays i do the laundry......but i feel exactly what you're saying.. no matter how i accomplisgh everyday... there seems to be more to do the next day.

if you are ok on economy, i guess employing a babysitter is ok,and you can find a job to support your life!

Hi KagniWood,Well! that is really a part of life being a mom of 2 kids.Be patient in all of that because it is not the end of the world, that is a mom obligations in every day life.Just try your best to fix everything daily and do your job with love so that every thing will be okay.Good Luck!

I'm not a mom but I totally understand the situation you are in. I'm the youngest of 4 siblings but I am the one who runs the house since I passed our local nursing board exams. It is really frustrating having your house cluttered and untidy even after you've done su much just to make it orderly and clean. Sometimes I take " day offs" and ignore the clutter that my siblings made. I do not cook dinners for them if I had to. When so many days that it's like this they soon realize that I am upset with them and their ways so they tend to make up by cleaning their own room. Hmpf. But this doesn't lasts long. What you can do is to lay out to your children the burden of responsibility of at keeping their room clean. Emphasize to them that you are their mom and not some household helper. You need to have tough love.

I have the same problem before as you have now, I only have one child but I always feel so stress after a day of cleaning the house, doing laundry, preparing food and so on... the same work everyday... But I realized that if I set a schedule of activities for each day I will not feel much of the stress. I will just do little by little things everyday and not be disturbed with whatever that was not been done for that day. Just be contented of what you have done for the day, try to give yourself a break, find time to rest. while your kids are sleeping you could also get some sleep just to be able not to stress out yourself... Just relax and just have faith that all those chores will be done in no time.

Hi Kagniwood, I've always been a stay at home mom. Hang in there it gets easier! I remember well being exhausted from picking up after the kids all day. My children are now grown and the house is quiet. It's nice not having to constantly pick up at the sametime it feels bittersweet cause, I miss my babies! LOL Can't wait to be a grandma so I can start the process all over!