Is this TRUE? never make friends with your colleagues !

i second your thought and totally agree with your points.. i have been facing similar problems too... apart from that there are eevn severe consequences which i had to face.. but i am trying nmot to do that any more.. i mean making friends with colleagues..

I'm sorry to hear that you got mingled with jealous people in your previous workplace. I've been in the corporate world for more than ten years and had at least five companies that I worked with. In each company, I had friends who are not jealous, open minded, accepts constructive criticisms and most importantly real friends. Friends til now and in God's help til forever. Being a friend to someone is like having a husband or wife sometimes. You need love, respect, understanding and you got to CHOOSE well and smart. You gotta look beyond the polished suit thay're wearing or the signatured shoes covering their feet. Truly, mean girls are in the corporate world and mostly they're wolves in sheep's skin. If you can't find a pure hearted colleague then it's ok not to have a friend in the office. As long as you're doing your job well and conscientiously and you're always doing the right thing, I'm sure nothing could go wrong.

Hello, It is not all truth... some women would do that but some are not. I dont think making friend at work place is very harmful.... it is depend on people and how your or friends treat you. If you have been doing bad or something always against that person then he/she will turns to you back as well. For me as a woman, I always have good relationship with my co workers... no matter what happened, I will be a good friend with them

Working relationships will work more if you be friendly all the times. This is called professionalism. If you don't have it, then better quit you job. Your colleagues is is most important friends in your work. You cannot build teamwork if you only rely on yourself. Without them, you cannot accomplished any task assigned to you.

No it actually depends on the mind set of colleagues one get.But in real where ever we are,in which ever company, we should maintain a cordial relationship with colleagues,if not very close atleast to the extent of working together and finishing the task given for the team.I agree there are people who show jealousy,but at the same time it is also true that jealousy steps in when one is making progress,so concentrate on your work and achieve further success and let those feeling jealous continue that as in that way they are hindering their own progress by not concentrating on work instead wasting their time on you.You are the centre of attraction.......lol...feel proud and be happy......:)

I think alot depends on what type of place you work in, how long you have worked there and how good the friendship is. At work i have some great friends and we have a laugh and we have formed a great bond but i am not sure how that would be outside the work place. We have had many colleagues come and go and they say they will keep in contact with you but they never do, maybe they just didn't really like me, lol.

Well well, I kinda agree with the statement : "Never count on making friends with colleagues!", it seems like competition is everything but friendship. =) Personally, I really really don't like competition, but unfortunately I have to face it just like everybody does, especially when it comes to work. Nobody wants to lose, including me. But I just can't imagine sitting in the middle of my competitors and never talk to them. As for me, friendly and familiar work environment is more important, well the goal of our work is the most important one, still, I must admit it. =)

Well, you can always be an exception to the rule. It may be harder to be friends with colleagues, especially when there is a pressure on the need to make sales. However, that being said, I have seen friends who help each other to reach a quota. It depends on the environment and work culture already set in the workplace. In some working place, managers or supervisors are taught to encourage teamwork, and the whole department is rewarded. I see more opportunities in being friends, than to be competitors, in such working area. As for me, I am lucky that I am not in sales line. I am in education line where I am not evaluated based on sales, and promotion is almost zero. As such, we hardly back-stabbed each other. In fact, we provide for each other a place of consolation and comfort when work gets hard. So, I am not agreeing entirely that one cannot befriend colleagues. You can. It depends on the work nature.

Actually i feel like in our work environment all such things often surround us and its quite common and we being matured individual must in touch with people who are really good and never pose such type of comments to you..........

I think your friend makes a generalization between having friend with your colleagues or not. Because I always look forward to a friend of everyone when I work in a company for me to have a healthy environment. I always happy because I found friends during work.

Hmm.. sometimes it would be right and sometimes it would be wrong. Not all the people had the some characteristics friend especially someone who really care about their friend. Someone that we call 'true friend' wouldn't do that for sure. They would never get jealous with you just because of your successful in work. In the other hand, they will support you. Trust me.

I think it all depends on the people. I tried hard to make friends with alot of people in my work. They ended up back stabbing me to get "up" in the department. Made themselves look good. It also makes for a very uncomftorable working enviorment if the 2 of you have a falling out for both you & the people working around you. That is one of the reasons that boss' do not become friends with people under them

Making friends with colleagues is tricky. I find that most of those I see sticking together are the ones talking about people. I try my damnest by staying away and not get mixed in that type of crowd. I may say hi to about 3 out of 7 of them but that's it. It's that I can kind of clue in on who is more evil lol than the others and I can tell those are the ones that are stuck on themselves, and have the nerve to talk about people because they're ugly inside and out. The quiet ones are the ones who might have 1 or 2 friendly colleagues in the same department and more outside of it. Do what I do try making "friends" from different departments than the one you're working in now, the stress is less and besides if you want to talk to someone in private all it takes is getting your butt up and taking a nice walk to the elevator. The Perfect getaway.

Yes, Its true.. some times it will effects to our work environment too. This is very careful activity while we are in working environment.

I totally do NOT agree. Some of my best friends I have met through working together. One is my friend no for 21 years. she is 1 year younger than me and we went to the same high school but did not know each other or run in the same circles. But she began working with me when I was 21 and she was 20 and our birthdays are 2 days apart and we found we have so much in common. We have even lived together twice. I also have 2 friends from another job that I helped get a job at my next place of employment and we are still in touch after 11 years. I find that you don't have time to socialize much outside the work place. So if you find someone you get along with quite well in your job there is no reason that your friendship can not continue beyond those office doors. All in all I have 5 friends that I consider close friends that I have met at 3 different jobs. I definitely do not believe this.. by the way I am a Woman and so are all my friends.

I agree I don't think you can make real friends at work. I think you should be nice to every one but never talk about your life outside of work.Never invite your work home.

Never crossed my mind, but come to think of it, there is that barrier always. But personally it's on a case to case basis since I've known a few who have been romantically linked and some even ended in marriage. I guess you have to take into consideration the nature of the job since that plays an important role on how employees treat each other. Cheers!