If important guests smoke in your living room, will you give then an ashtray or

Hi manong, Its kinda hard what to do honestly, like for example my boss or an influential person is the one who is smoking inside my living room, I might got shy to tell him to smoke outside. Even to give him an astray will kinda hard to do. I'll be hesitant to say that. Maybe I'll try to do the latter, but if theres a kid inside the living room I may tell him to smoke outside though... I cannot let my niece inhale those second hand smoke. Well I hope I will not be in a situation like that because I don't want to offend someone.

I usually get them an ashtray but this is only because my mother smokes in the house so it would be pointless asking someone to go outside if my mother is smoking. When I get my own flat I think I would ask people to smoke outside or near an open window.

My husband and I are pretty tolerant. We don't smoke, but guests are allowed to smoke inside our home. If had a small child and or if we were allegic to smoke, we would tell people to go outside, but that isn't the case. In past people often smoked inside the house, but things are different now. Our guests usually smoke outside. They don't even ask if they are allowed to smoke inside, they simply leave the room when they want to smoke.

In my community, it is rare to smoke indoors, especially in other's room. In such case, I would ask him to smoke outside, whether boss or seniors. Time is changing. We still see ashtrays in recreational places. Maybe they will become antique in the next few decades, shown only as displays in museums.

I always ask people to smoke outside, regardless of who they are. It is my home and I do not smoke so why should I allow them to do so? Anyone who refuses or gets upset is very disrespectful.

Hi manong05, If a guest is a smoking in he living room i would tell him politely to some outside and provide him an ashtray. First thing is i am very allergic to that smoke smell

I'm with you. I would ask them to go outside and provide an ash tray. If they don't have manners to ask, too bad for them. It doesn't matter who it is. It's your home, and your right.

I too would find it difficult to say NO to a particular guest regarding smoking. As you said, it really depends on the guest and our mutual relation. Just the other day a very old gentleman came to our house to visit my dad. It turned out that he was my dad’s teacher and a very respected person…dad of course couldn’t figure out how well to make him comfortable…I could see that even at this age, dad was ready to show him all respect and love. Holy cow! Can you believe that the first thing he asked for was the ashtray (at 79!)…he smokes like a chimney and we were in no heart to refuse him one of his few remaining pleasures of life! And then there is the boss and other people too whom one would not like to offend…so offering the ashtray is the best option though the host can very well say that personally he/she has stopped smoking and hope the guest takes the cue LOL

Never place an ashtray inside a living room and its a signal to anyone that the place is a no smoking area. Bosses normally became one because of intellect and surely they know the meaning of respect when visiting one's house. Maybe an arrogant and drunked boss will forget, I will guide him out and show the place to smoke.

My son in law is the only one who smoke in our family. Everytime he smoke he stay outside. So in case a guest smoke at the living room, I would tell him, nobody smoke here at the living room as we have young children, so we don't have ashtray but their dad smoke outside. Perhaps he would get the idea of not smoking in.

Hi Manong. I would never even ask someone if I could smoke in their home, but I would automatically do so outdoors. And if someone asked to smoke or just lit up in my home, no ashtray would be offered. Rather, I would politely tell them there was no smoking in the home, and then suggest they could use the yard, the outside porch, or wait. Karen

I will directly tell someone of my guess if it's iether a boss or in a higher position that I don't consider someone that will smoke in my area.I will stay with them in the smoking area and will give an ashray.

That would be a difficult question if your guest is your boss... But in our home nobody is really smoking espeialy that we have a 1year old child living in the house... Because of this reason maybe that evrytime we have quest and "we know he really smoke" he try to controll himslf of not smoking inside or just go out to smoke for he is aware of the baby around.

If this person is a friend they will know that you do not smoke. If it is a meeting say for business purpose then you make offer an ash tray and politely but friendly saw would you mind smoking in the balcony or patio since my children are allergic or you are allergic to smoke but it is easier if you give a specific reason why you do not tolerate this in your house or even car. ON the other hand if it this is a potentialcustomer that you really want to keep happy then proceed with business or indicate no smoking as early as possible even before the person lights up.

For me I would tell them to go outside to smoke no matter how important the person was. As my house is strictly a non smoker zone as I have children and do not want them to inhale smoke and I also suffer badly with my chest and the slightest bit of smoke can leave me coughing and out of breath. Mine and my children's health come first.

It doesn't matter who the guest is, there's no smoking in my house period. I have found that most people will just go outside on their own, I don't think I've ever had to directly tell anyone they had to go outside. I think it would be pretty rude to just assume you could smoke inside someone's house when they're obviously non smokers.

I don't care who they are. No one smokes in our house period. I'll be polite about it to start with but I won't tolerate it. I'll have to be quick though because if I don't tell them to butt out or get out my wife will.

I would ask them to smoke outside. I do not allow anyone to smoke in my house and that would also include my boss. It is your home and even if he is your boss he should respect your request and go outside to smoke.

Hi,i would not bear anyone smoke inside home and would ask them to go and smoke outside.But i would hesitate how to tell them straight on face,so first i may start politely like smoking is bad for health,one should give it up and then put a word that i am allergic to smoke,so ask them to go outside and smoke if they cant stay without smoking.If the one who smokes is one of my dear ones ,then i will make sure i speak to the person and convince them to give smoking.Smoking is injurious to health,mainly it causes respiratory disorders.It does not spare passive smokers as well,it causes various respiratory diseases,affects persons life span also.

I will not allow ANYONE to smoke in our home. I have 2 boys ages 15 months & 4 years. Both have asthma. Even if they did not have asthma I would not allow smoking in my home. I don't even allow it near them outside. My husband is a smoker and he has to go outside rain or shine, snow or blistering heat. I will not give him a designated room in the basement to smoke in. It takes 1 year to get nicotine out of your car and 5 years out of your home. All that time your child or you are absorbing the chemicals into your body.