Life: reality versus attitude

I whole-heartedly think that this is correct. As I look back at my own life up to this point I see that were it not for the decisions that I've made following the things that have happened to me during my life, then my life would not be as good as it is now. There have been a lot of things that have gone on during my life that could have taken a lot of people and torn them apart, but for me, I always try not to dwell on the negative and instead try to turn it into a positive. That is how the decisions that I've made in my life have made up 90% of the success of my life.

Hi dear! I agree with you that it may be 90% of our attitude how we perceive and finally see a situation. It is like if a glass is filled up with half of water in it. One will say that it is half empty and other will say that it is half filled. I try to remain optimistic and feel that I would be happy even if the glass is half filled.

That's funny because perspective is definitely a factor in the realm of how we percieve our reality. When it's raining outside and you had plans to be outdoors and now have to rearrange your day has it now become a bad day or was there just a "bad" thing that happened or do you not see the rain as good or bad? Depending on your answer you can arrive at your true "reality" percentage.

Hi Karen, I'm with Kitty on this one, with a higher percentage of 30/70. What I do do these days is though is try to be calm through all, not let the things I can't change get me down, and not get over the top elated with the good bits. Things happen which can take one down but find a distraction from them and not dwell if there's nothing to do to speed up the changes.

I agree with it to an extent. I'd actually go so far to say that life is only 5% of reality and 95% attitude. If you study the way optimistic people go through life versus pessimistic people, you can see a vast area of difference in how their lives turn out. No matter what happens in life, an optimistic person can accept it, work through or around it, be grateful for the experience, and thank God for the sunshine the next day. A pessimistic person will complain and whine, only making themselves and everyone around them miserable, and anything good will happen because they are "entitled" to good luck once in awhile. No matter what, every individual goes through life and has troubles and tribulations, happy days, joyful times, they make friendships, break friendships, etc. Yet you see people in their later years who absolutely can't stand to wake up in the morning, and you see others whom go out of their way to brighten days. The first group of people, on average, believe life is a chore. The latter group has come to accept that although life is not perfect, it is an adventure, and you must take great joy in small things. I've known people with cancer who turn bitter, and I know someone with cancer that still is a beautiful, happy person. It's all about how you perceive life. Do you let it hit you in the face or do you flow with it? Based on your attitude, you can greatly change your life for the better, as well. That's why I believe the percentages may be even 5% versus 95%. Good discussion question.

[b]Hello my friend I do believe but I think its more 30/70 considering we have no control of some of the things that happen in our day to day life and this happens a good bit of the time so I will give that more than 10 percent, but our attitude toward things plays a huge part in how we handle all the changes we are faced with, this is great so 30/70 if not then 20/80 lol but this is so true, I do agree my friend. Thanks for sharing this, this only tells me that I am on the right path my friend, reading things like this is a real eye opener for me. Smoochessss[/b]

I think God plans our life. However we do have choices, and depending on those choices, is what happens. Not sure of the %.

hi PeacefulWmn9 I was just trying to think of the author,oh now I remember, Ernest Hemingway. When someone asked him for the secret of his sucessful writing career, he said, ten per cent inspiration, and ninety percent perspiration. I think that sort of fits in with your reality and your attitude.I think I do agree with this. Some people do not appear to have much talent but with a lot of hard work and a little inspiration they have made some great successes of their lives. So our attitude really is very important.

I think your daughter is a very smart young lady. I think your attitude controls your life. If it is good more than likely u life will be good . Of course we all have troubles no matter what our attitude is but if u don't have a good one things are going to be worse, just my opinion of course. Peple with a bad attitude can be very boring after awhile.

hi,my friend.life is full of opportunities and everyone want to be a great one in one's field.but if you want to succeed you should do work hard first and the you need to prepare for it.and the God will open the window for your hard working .have a good day

i really love your daughters observation she seems smart but really our attitude affects what happens to us but as a Christian i believe God is in control over what happens in life cause only Him can create the balance if you align to His for your life, all will be well.

i in my opinion 90 percent of out life is work, if we diligently work and spend time for good activities we can success in this life

I would like to agree because life is what you make out of it. There are defininately some situationms you cannot change about life (reality as you might want to put it). However i have witnessed a lot of people who were positive and have made it in life simply because of there positive attitude. So its true the greater percentage is about your attitude to life.

yep i do agree with you starsailover.....although attitude doesnt weigh up to as much as 90%, i do believe it has an important part to play into the being you will be moulded into in the future....reality also has its fair share in this process...realising what happens when and planning accordingly is as big a deal as anything else....hope this does help your daughter peacefulwmn9....

Very good atitude to our life, life is not easy to us but also good to us...In the reality, we need to face many kind of situation, sth is good but sth is bad, during this time, I think, we should have positive atitude to our life. there is very famous man saying "Never be unduly elated by victory or depressed by defeat ". I like this sentence very much, and hope everybody can benefit from this...thanks and happy mylotting.

Karen, I do agree with this statement by Charles R Swindoll as he also said: “I believe the single most significant decision I can make on a day-to-day basis is my choice of attitude. It is more important than my past, my education, my bankroll, my successes or failures, fame or pain, what other people think of me or say about me, my circumstances, or my position. Attitude keeps me going or cripples my progress. It alone fuels my fire or assaults my hope. When my attitudes are right, there is no barrier too high, no valley too deep, no dream too extreme, no challenge too great for me.” In life's reality it includes the past and although we cannot change our past, the fact that people act in certain ways, the inevitable from happening and status quo, it does not mean that we have to accept it in a defeatist manner. We can still strike out and make a change for the better good, however, that is not going to happen until we first change our attitude. And I just cannot find better words than Charles R Swindoll to conclude my beliefs where he said: “The longer I live, the more I realize the impact of attitude on life. Attitude, to me, is more important than facts. It is more important than the past, the education, the money, than circumstances, than failure, than successes, than what other people think or say or do. It is more important than appearance, giftedness or skill. It will make or break a company... a church... a home. The remarkable thing is we have a choice everyday regarding the attitude we will embrace for that day. We cannot change our past... we cannot change the fact that people will act in a certain way. We cannot change the inevitable. The only thing we can do is play on the one string we have, and that is our attitude. I am convinced that life is 10% what happens to me and 90% of how I react to it. And so it is with you... we are in charge of our Attitudes.” Have a nice day.

Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, I feel it is very true to last. It is one's attitude only which decides everything. If one is positive attitude, one will find everything moving fast , marching ahead, if one is negative thinking, ione will become stationary. Same thing Jhon Milton has desribed in his dual poetry "Allergo and Ill-Pensesro", both having contrast characters chane the lfe, because of attitude. May God bless You and have a graet time.

Hi Peaceful Wmn: I agree with this statements because i have notice this in my life. When you just look the negative side of everything you'll notice that everything's going bad with your life. In the other hand if you make an effort to look thing in a positive way, if you work harder everyday to make your world a better place you'll be satisfied.