Would You Agree With Me that Girls Are More Emotionally Stable Than Guys?
By rberon1985
@rberon1985 (5359)
Philippines
October 20, 2009 8:32am CST
I believe and I know that there will be a debate in this topic, some of you will
agree, while some of you will disagree. i have heard that girls are more emotionally
stable than guys. According to what I've heard, when a girl is emotionally affected, they just voice it out to their closest friends and even family members. And after that, they could already adjust. Is that correct girls. While, in our situation, when we are emotionally affected, especially when we just came to break up, and it's really painful, we just keep it to ourself, and sometimes drink some liquors and if we really can't manage the situation, it leads to suicidal. Do you agree with me guys or I am
wrong? With my experience, I can say that girls are really emotionally stable, I came to a point to commit suicide before when i do not find a solution with my problem.I am
glad that I have a friend who guided me at the end and lead me to be more strong. What about you, what are your thoughts here? Do you agree with this saying?
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14 responses
@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
20 Oct 09
I don't know that it can be generalized like that. I have know men and women that are stable emotionaly and some on both sides that are not. I personally think that a person can be stable in any way no matter what type they fall into. I think women tend to be able to convey their feelings but it is not always appropriate. I think men tend to have a better filter and rely more on themselves to solve problems.
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@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
20 Oct 09
Yes, I can agree with all you said. I think it is unfortunate that men surpress their own emotions to the point of not being able to handle life anymore. There are so many good coping skills in this world and so many ways to get creative. I only hope all efforts have been exhausted before the ultimate decision to end a life.
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@jodylee_04530 (1097)
• United States
20 Oct 09
I like that way of looking at it. This life is borrowed and we must take good care of it. That is a good way to think, I think :)
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
I really can't say if I agree or not because for me being emotionally stable is not gender dependent. It really depends from person to person. Being emotionally stable is develop through experience. All of humankind had experienced pain once in a while and learning how to handle those pain could really make one emotionally stable.
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@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
I have noticed that all the responses said that it can determined through the
gender. As what you have mentioned, [i]"It really depends from person to person.
Being emotionally stable is develop through experience. All of humankind had
experienced pain once in a while and learning how to handle those pain could really
make one emotionally stable."[/i]. Actually, you have a point in this statement. For
me, i came to that conclusion because this is the observation that I have noticed to
my friends. But it's good you have this opinion. I appreciate it!
@hexeduser22 (7418)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
It's good to see things in a different light once in a while
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@kalav56 (11464)
• India
20 Oct 09
Very nice topic and you are going to be flagged by many young girls rberon.1985!
You have a point there when you say that women talk a lot more to their friends and deal with their trauma.You seem to have become wise and you remind me of some heroes in our regional films these days.These films and heroes show an increasing awareness of what is happening[like whatyou have pointed out ] and there is a different theme emerging in some films.Many of this have young college boys [like characters ] as heroes and they get enmeshed and entangled in all kinds of love expectations, relationships and trauma. THe girls seem to make a big noise but seem to go unscathed in the process.--at least this is what the heroes point out. Ihave to accept the veracity of the statement that women being survivors are definitely emotionally stable and in spite of all their so called weakness , they handle things better.
You have a point there when you say that women talk a lot more to their friends and deal with their trauma.You seem to have become wise and you remind me of some heroes in our regional films these days.These films and heroes show an increasing awareness of what is happening[like whatyou have pointed out ] and there is a different theme emerging in some films.Many of this have young college boys [like characters ] as heroes and they get enmeshed and entangled in all kinds of love expectations, relationships and trauma. THe girls seem to make a big noise but seem to go unscathed in the process.--at least this is what the heroes point out. Ihave to accept the veracity of the statement that women being survivors are definitely emotionally stable and in spite of all their so called weakness , they handle things better.1 person likes this
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
20 Oct 09
hi rberon1985 yes and no. Girls do mature faster than boys so
they may seem more emotionally stable, but I have seen, and I am female myself, a lot of very silly flighty girls in their mid teens so are far from being any more emotionally stable then boys at that age. I think when girls reach maturity they are more stable emotionally than a lot of boys, but only because they are ahead of boys in maturing. later I think men and women are about equal in emotional stability. The women may have a little edge there but I bet it is not much.
@rberon1985 (5359)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
"I think men and women are about equal in emotional stability. The women may have a
little edge there but I bet it is not much." What actually i have shared is base on
the observations that i have seen before.
@koalapenguin (2707)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Hello rberon.
What did your friend say to comfort you? Right now i am having the same problem with my friend. We were happy back then.. But because he failed the exam which made him very inferior, there it was. We always fight for simple matters. I am always patient of him but this time, i am losing my cool.
I would appreciate a small advice from you.Thank you so much if you could give me one. Take care.
I would appreciate a small advice from you.Thank you so much if you could give me one. Take care. 
@borhan (1338)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Yes, friend. girls are more stable emotionally. They have more absorption quality than that of men.
I have seen this thing many a times in our family. During many critical situations, once i saw my father got puzzled, my mother not being tempted, always helped and guided my father for recovering the situation. Even in bad days of my family, my wife not being emotional, with a correct visualization about the reality, all along accompanied me to be more and more realistic. Girls behave more cool than men during crisis, at least i saw these number of times. (hope all mylot male friends will not get angry on me for this).
Thank you.
@zhangfzoe (432)
• China
21 Oct 09
It's not absolutely true . I think both girls and guys have their own methods to keep emotionally stable. As what you've metioned, girls tend to share the pain with their close friends and recover from it. Guys are more willing to assume the pressure by themselves.
@jordan29bc (254)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
it always depend, it's how the individual manages how problems would passed/solved. there are girls who aren't that emotionally stable and there also guys too.
@zhuhuifen46 (3483)
• China
21 Oct 09
Maybe it is because males are more likely to be target oriented, while females tend to look at more anlges. Man are quick to act, while females are more passive during which they may take the time to think about the consequences. But either man or woman need to develop self power to be better qualified to deal with various situation, and to be more strong both pysiologically and psycolgically.
@LetranKnight25 (33121)
• Philippines
20 Oct 09
hello rberon,
It really depends on the upbringing. there are women who are really emotionally stable and knows what they what they're thinking and doing, that most guys are intimidated or admired there work and dedication. and for those who are emotional, well, you get the picture, about them,i wouldn't even wanna argue
@irene3184 (898)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Guys is known to their nature as an insensitive and girls are emotionally weak. They always treasure their emotions and loyalty toward to their partner and there are men who are just having fun because they are not emotionally stable.They always look for something.It happened to me before that I suffer to much pain after the break up and I try to hold on and move on to my life.
@angeldiane22 (6)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
I agree with you 100%.I do believe that girls are more emotionally stable that guys.in the philippines girls got thier legal age at 18 while guys in their 21 years, even in us as far as i know. This reality shows that girls do become responsible more in their young age than guys. I do also observe that girls always see the reality and deal with the problem unlike guys they always pretend that the problem do not excess and just allow it to gone without putting any solution in the problem. That makes girls more emotionally stable than guys, they face the problem and accept it.
@miguelgrhm (8)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Honestly there is no way to know who is better at handling stressful situations. Simply put, if you are able to release angry in a productive way and are able to forgive and forget, then anyone can do control their emotions. I guess that emotional stability in females is the same as the stability in males given how thwy were taught to deal with stress. Just because girls talk alot doesnt mean that they're actually over the situation, but could infact cause them to become more angry because they haven't dealt with the issue with the person who started the problem... So no i dont agree with you.
@mrnischalgurung (424)
• India
20 Oct 09
well i guess its really true that girls are more emotional stable than us guys. its equally true that guys are physically stronger than gilp girls but by virtue, girls happen to be more stronger emotionally. we guys get attached to people really east fast and easily and hence get more closer and therefore an are more emotionally connected. we get sad or touched emotionally faster and we del feel bad or cry faster. well this does not mean guys go on weeping or shouting crying with tears but are footn emotionally weaker f...
