Do you like what you see?
By sulsisels
@sulsisels (1685)
United States
October 20, 2009 2:26pm CST
I guess this is targeted towards people over 40. How well are you dealing with aging? Do you like what you see when you look in the mirror? I am 53 years old and must admit that I have not had an easy time accepting the aging process. I am finally getting better as I finally realize that there is absolutely nothing you can do about it, (Unless you are Joan Rivers) and I just have to accept it. When I was young, I was always complimented as to how pretty I was, beeped at by guys in cars and had the door held open for me. People used to initiate conversation with me all the time and back then I was more annoyed than charmed. Today, the compiments are slim, guys still beep at me, but to tell me to get out of the way, and when the door gets held for me its like "Mam, (not Miss anymore) can I help you with that pkg (Do I look feeble already?) They call them the golden years, but so far the only gold I see is in the all night need to use the bathroom as peeing is a must at least 3 times a night..sigh...I'm still dressing to young for my age, but just can't seem to buy age appropriate ugly clothes, and I still like my Aerosmith and David Bowie t-shirts. What about you? Are you aging well and going with the flow, or fighting it tooth and nail like me? Please answer soon as its almost bed time!! J
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@yecal10 (143)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Hmmm... I was thinking about this today in fact. I am thirty eight. It is always easy to look at the twenty year olds and be like, o man... they don't even know what they have!! I think, like so much else in life, the challenge is to remain happy with what we do have. I mean, gratitude is the answer to every challenge. For example, if you feel like your neck is sagging or something you could always think, "Yeah, but at least I'm alive!" Hey, alot of people didn't make it to wake up today. But I know what you mean and yeah it is hard. One thing I think when I look at my face and I see the changes from then until now and I start feeling bad I think "Yeah, but look at my beautiful little daughter's face!" And her beauty takes some of the pain away I guess.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Hi yceal. Thank you for responding, but it you want to change places, I'd gladly take 38 again. My 30's were the best time in my life..I never had children as I chose a career instead so I missed out on that experience. Today, I am kind of sad that I made that choice way back when, as I lost my husband after 26 years of a great marrage to a heart attack at age 42. It would be nice to have a piece of him still with me as I miss him terribly and children would have made it easier. I love what you said about your daughter..a really nice thought. Enjoy her and your still very young years..J
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
21 Oct 09
At 37 I would be considered young by you but I already don’t like what I see and I’m not bothered by it all. Genetically, I’ve had grey in my hair since my teenage days…only now its increased a lot and I have to colour it otherwise I look weird…you know, no wrinkles but grey hair. I’ll stop colouring when I have enough wrinkles to complement the greys. My skin though is in shambles otherwise…its lifeless mainly coz I don’t have the time to pamper it and just because I lack both the time and the money to pamper myself, I have resigned to the fact that I’ll age no matter what I do, so I better accept it gracefully.
Its my thoughts really but I’ve seen only the very rich can afford to spend money on trying to hold on to something which cannot be retained…it can be pushed back a few years maybe but that’s all. On the other hand, a pretty face is always a pretty face…you can see that inspite of the wrinkles and stoop…maybe doors are held for you coz your beauty can still be appreciated! And yes, I do think they are the golden years if you have managed to keep good health…with the family all grown up and gone, it’s the only time you can enjoy life with maturity, unlike our youth. So in a sense, I am looking forward to my 50s
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Hi supercalafragalisticxpealadocious!!! (Your screen name reminds me of that song!)
Anyway, Don't fret about dying your hair at 37..I too, started to see white hair at age 18 but didn't start to color it till I was about your age..I've been several colors except blonde, and will always color it till the day I go..I think that gray, unless you have a real pretty gray, adds a lot of years and mine is not good because they are wirey and stick straight out and are stupid...and I tell them so!! I agree about the rich, and unless Publishers Clearing House comes knocking on my door on Nov 11, like they promise me they will, I can't afford it either. I have never been to a spa or one of those places where they pamper you all day as much as I'd like to..Tell ya what, When PCH delivers my million dollars next month, I'll call you and we'll fly somewhere to some swanky spa and come home beautiful!!! OK? Thanks for the post J
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
22 Oct 09
Right on
...and then we'll party all night and flirt all day with all the handsome hunks
...and then we'll party all night and flirt all day with all the handsome hunks @mikeysmom (2088)
• United States
21 Oct 09
i am 48 and i know i could look better than i do so it bothers me but i just do not have the time to dedicate to my appearance at this point in my life. i am raising a child and working 3 part time jobs and taking care of the home and all that entails. i need to lose weight and i am trying but not doing very well at that and i could dress nicer and put makeup on more often and on and on but like i said i do not have the time. i will not give up though. i keep my eyebrows tweezed and try to put lotion on my face from time to time and i stay out of the sun as much as possible and condition my hair regularly and color it at home every 3 months or so. so all is not lost yet.
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Mikeysmom
I commend you for all you do for your child..thats what really matters anyway, family..I don't have kids but I have two dogs and they don't care if I wear makeup or not, dye my hair or not and turn to a wrinkled up prune..They love me no matter what and anyway, they don't know how to operate the can opener!!! Thanks for the post!! J
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Hello sulsisels'Well! I am also 51 yrs old, and i just accepted it as natural we will not remain young because it's reality.For me, i always manage to to take care of my self and to look good.Be confident, age does'nt matter as long as you look good and sexy.Just keep smiling! and always in fashion. Good Luck!
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Hazelrose
You remind me of Billy Crystal when he used to do that bit on Saturday Night Live,
"You look marvelous",,,"It dosen't matter how you feel, as long as you look good!" I think he had something there and so do you!! Thanks !! J
@prasannajs (19)
• India
21 Oct 09
i am intrested to see myself young and cheerfull person at all times without any woories because we live only for minimum years
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@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
prasannajs You have the right idea and are 100% accurate..Thanks for posting J
@triplejazzm51 (1373)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Hi sulsisels!
Well, i am just a little younger than you but a could say that we could do nothing about stopping the aging process. Its is what everyone will go through. Of course i dont also like what i see in the mirror, i often imagine the way i look 15 or 20 years ago but thats the way it is. What i do is try my best to look good, dress appropriately and have a happy outlook in life. Enjoy what you have and what your doing. Stay happy because it will help us slow down the aging process. Do evrything you can to keep you feeling young and healthy.If we cant regain our youth at least we can get old slower.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Hi Tripleljazzm
I also believe that staying happy is half the battle, and I no longer sweat the small stuff..Life is too short to waste time with nonsense and I have cut a lot of nonsense out of my life..and some people. I dont want to be around negativity or people that wallow in misery and want you to wallow with them. I'll be wallowing soon enough if I don't stop baking and cooking!! I'm starting to gain some weight since I've stopped working and started cooking all the time. I recently graduated from the Ft Lauderdale Art Institute Cullinary Program (yes, thats right,,went back to school 2 years ago and all the kids called me Mom!) and I've been testing recipes for my soon to post blog. All good chefs taste their food and its starting to show in my size 7 squeezed into jeans..You gain weight much faster as you age I'm finding. But it sure is fun creating and tasting..I just have to learn that taste does not mean eat the whole batch!!! Thanks for the post J
@Hatley (163776)
• Garden Grove, California
21 Oct 09
hi sulsiesels hatley here well on my birthday on Nov.15 i well be a young 83 so yes I know all about aging and am told I look younger than my years. I feel young at heart and mylotting here among people of all ages keeps me up to the latest things, and makes me feel younger too. also I manage to keep lipstick and eyeshadow and all the the things I have always used.I love pretty clothes and pretty colors and I have friends here of all ages. I am going with the flow and feel younger than my age. I love life and living,each day is a gift of God.
@sulsisels (1685)
• United States
21 Oct 09
Hatley
HAPPY HAPPY BIRTHDAY..in advance to a very nice lady.. I have read some of your posts before and think your outlook on life is wonderful. My Mom is going to be 83 on Christmas day and sometimes I wish I had the energy she does. She refuses to give in to old age and you would never in a million years think she is as old as she is. Shes still pretty and like you, takes the time every single day to get made up and dress beautifully. I can only hope that I am as lucky as her. I think we only get old if we let ourselfs get old and mentally I have no fears, its just the wrinkles and the sagging I hate!!! Thanks for taking the time to post J
@Bluepatch (2476)
• Trinidad And Tobago
21 Oct 09
I must compliment you, lady, and I'm going to ask you to be my friend on this site because your honesty is incredible. I'm 58, I'll by 59 in December this year and I'm going through, or have been through, all the things you mention in this posting and that I was ashamed to talk about. In Trinidad, they call me " daddy " or " uncle, " the pretty young girls don't look at me and smile anymore, I piss my tubes out in the middle of the night and early in the morning, ( actually I suspected this was an aging process but did not know until you confirmed it now ), clothes don't fit like they used to, etc., etc., etc. I believe I was a good-looking guy. I never had a problem with young women before this. And, like you, it took a while to get used to it. I'm still trying to tell myself that its that time of my life that was going to come anyway. Compliments to you, lady, and welcome, kindred spirit.
@53deerpark (34)
• Ireland
22 Oct 09
Age is only a number on a birth certificate. Always think of tomorrow as the start of the rest of your life - a new chapter that will be full of many wonderful things. Maintain friendships with those of a positive outlook and the energy you get them should enhance your vitality. My mom is 63 and she looks much younger than she is and has always led a very active lifestyle. She enjoys her swims and goes hillwalking and still wears her bikini on the beach. As I said at the start it's only a number.
