How do you cope with a husband who complains a lot?

my mom would told my dad then get up and make your own dumb eggs. so would my wife if i complain like that. it seem like there is something really buggy him but he need to talk with someome other then you.

If you've already tried to talk about it with him calmly and without being accusatory then the best option might be to see a counsellor both together and separately. If he really does have a behavioral problem then someone with the proper training should be able to get to the root of it with him and then be able to help with how it affects your relationship.

Hi lindiebiz, Whatever he says you just say ok and start doing your work... this is not so easy but try it and slowly he will stop complaining.... I hope this helps

Hello lindiebiz. Based on what you have talked about your hubby's complaints, I think that we have a solution to it. Record what he says and then play it for him to listen to when he does not admit what he has said, but it is a little troublesome by using some device to record his words. hehehe. Good luck with you, friend.

if my husband tends to complain a lot it may be me in the first place that causes this so i'd contemplate for a while for i don't think it's impossible that i hadn't seen this complaining trait of his when we were still in the courtship stage. if i had and i decided to still be his wife then i'd either take it hook, line and sinker or blame myself forever for marrying a guy with this characteristic.

this is a hard question for me to answer because i don't have a husband but i can understand how you could find it annoying being around someone who always complains. well if i was you i would tell him, "lets play a game everytime you complain you owe me 50 cent." that way for once you can actually get paid for hearing his complaints and maybe they won't be as annoying or you can tell him how you feel. Also my friend she used to complain alot and it didn't bother me much because everytime she would complain i would give her advice or change the subject. so try also changing the subject. even though it might upset them and make them think that your not listening just tell them its ok to complain sometimes but not all the time.

when i point out to him what he said previously, he will tell me i am lying, Ooohhh the constant whining and complaining would be bad enough but to call me a liar would REALLY set me off...that sort of behaviour (any of it) wouldnt sit well with me nor would it last...I'd put my hubby in his place RIGHT QUICK adn let him know not only how I feel about it but also that if it doesnt stop soon we're going to have a MAJOR problem

Is your husband always like that? every since you got married? If not, then maybe something caused him to be dissatisfied with his life and he is taking it out on little things like the way you cook his eggs. Maybe you should take sometime to talk, just open up to each other in a loving way and not through a fight. It would help to know what is in each other's mind and what would make your partner happy.

I guess smacking him upside the head isn't an option? You could try asking him for everything. Before breakfast, "what kind of eggs do you want?" That way he can't say he didn't ask for it. I don't like the part about him calling you a liar though, that's disturbing and abusive.

Wahahahhaha!I am rolling in laughter while reading your post. I am still single but I understand how you feel right now because most of my friends had the same complaint regarding their hubbies. Actually your husband is just trying to get your attention, maybe he thinks you are focusing to other things in the family rather than him. You know there are lots of men who really act like children, they want you to prioritize them and give full attention, so most of them started acting weird things and become impossible like your husband's gesture. Just talk to your husband before you become alienated with his strange behavior, talk to him when he is in the sunny mood and tell him what's the problem why he is acting that way, is there anything he wants to say or prove or what. I am sure he can get what you want and everything will be settled before your relationship will meet a tragic end. Good luck and may you find peace of mind and harmonious relationship with your husband. God bless!

Wow! How could your husband forget that he likes and ate scrambled eggs...? Funny. May be you should learn to laugh at him sometimes. Don't stress yourself too much. You will look old fast... Even thou I know it is really hard to live with a man like that, but it will help if you try to get use to that. Maybe you should ask him first before preparing anything for him, to avoid those instances. I don't think it is possible for a man who is not that old to forget that sudden, he is just saying that to you as an alibi. I agree he really has a behavioral problem. You should sit down and talk.

First of all Hugs to you. That would seriously piss me off. I'd eventually tell him to cook his own eggs then if he can't make up his mind. But that's me. You will have to catch him at this. Like a previous person had said, maybe a video. Or even have a friend (that he trusts) back you up on something he said in front of them. Then have a good talk about it. Let him know that you are completely frustrated. Tell him that you are trying to make him happy, but it's impossible to do with someone that can't seem to be happy no matter what you do!

i think its not difficult at all.if he say sth that you think he will forget ,you can just record it in your video or some other things.then you can talk with him about it.unless the contradiction between your principles ,there is nothing that cant be resolved between lovers.

when he complaint of anything just silent on that moment ...after some time realise him u are his wife and u love him so much

lindiebiz get the two of you to a marriage counselor and have this worked out, as he is going to drive you nuts otherwise. also have him checked by his doctor could be he is ill ,physically or mentally, either way he sounds like something is wrong. Maybe the two of you really are incompatible it does happen. maybe a trial separation might wake him up.nobody wants to hear complaints all day long every day. He sounds like he does have a problem. get some help. good luck.

hahaha that was my case before but we sit down talk about it.i think you just ask him what he likes and what he dont likes.sometimes i get angry when he says i am not good in cooking but i just keep him telling that il be learning so i said wait and see.i am just laughing on him when his mad and sometimes if its serious we just talk about it and we solve it by then.when he is calm that is the time you can open about it.just be more patience i know you will overcome that soon.

it is always good to practice patience in everything that we do. if it doesn't work out that way, i think that we have to do what we think is best in the circumstances. if he said he likes scrambled eggs today, maybe what u should do is ask him how he would the egg done the next day or before u cook it. ask everything what he wants before launching any action for himself. if that doesn't work, maybe it is time to tell him to do the work himself to fully achieve his satisfaction.