Do you take tension at work to home?

I have learned not to take any of my work to home the hard way. During the early years of our marriage, we normally get into discussions and end up fighting over very simple things. As I analyze it, it came to me that most of the time when we were fighting, I have also all my works problems and tensions accompany to all that discussions. Then bit by bit, I have set my mind that the moment I step to our doorway, no work related stuffs and problems should be in my mind otherwise asked by her. It works though, but takes several years to perfect.

My line of work is so relaxed that you can leave all your worries behind and go home happy. Cheers!

actually I don't like to work at home, I would like to finish all my work in my office even with over time,,,I enjoy to have a very busy work status, sometimes, i am addicted to my work. of course, if you feel indeed you can't finish your work on time or you feel you need pay more your energy on this work, you can tell you boss that you need sb to help you with this project, not a big deal and just relax, please learn to how to finish your work with your team, don't be alone...thanks and good luck.

i can't avoid this.As I am a businessman caring all the aspects of my business,I have to be like that.But I don't create scenes or yell at the family members out of that tension.Just,I remain closed and they can understand me.If there is no tension for the day,I enjoy my being at home.Cheers!

Hi daliaj, I rarely have tensions at work, sometimes I also have deadlines but I can always cope up. And so, i don't need to take it at home. I am a busy housewife, a housekeeper at home that I don't have time to think of the things I've left in the office. Good Day!

I dont take my tension at work to our home because I know my mom will get annoyed and I dont want to start a fight with her.

Well, I understand your feeling as I faced the same situation before when I had very tight work schedule, and I have to bring my work home and work till late night. I still do this sometimes, though I do not wish to. I try as much as I can not to bring home any work, but if I really have to do so, I still spend some time chit chatting with my husband at least during meal time, then only I start my work. Bringing work home doesn't mean you have to bring home your tension and worries at work. I always try to separate between work and home, once I leave the office, I try not to think about work, not to have any worrying feeling or pressure. Of course, it takes time to learn, and I'm still learning.

Well I guess everybody is guilty of doing that. I think we always have the tendency to bring problems from home to work and vice versa. What we can do about it is to be aware of that situation and you can easily shift your thoughts towards it. It may be hard at first but you should practice that habit to be able to function normally and appropriately when at home and at work.

Hi daliaj, I think it depends upon the job and some kinds of jobs are full of tension. In that case we have to develop a habit of leaving the job tension at office and don’t bring the same at home. I agree we are human beings and we can’t leave behind the tension and be happy at home. Fortunately my job is not a tensed one till date. I don’t know what will I do if I have job tensions at office then I think it will be difficult to manage my job and family.

It is a usual phenomena that many of us take work tensions to home and it is really an inevitable practice for many of us. Initially, I had the same trouble of carrying work tensions to home and get irritated for small and un necessary things until I started practising Yoga. I am an extreme beneficiary of yoga and I really get benefitted by it. Moreover, after working hours, I have started using the office gym which gives me a great relief from the hectic work tensions and hence nowadays, I am maintaining a perfect balance between work and home life.

when i started working and in the early years of being employed, i tend to put a personal pressure to myself. i usually bring work to the house in order to finish my work on time if not, ahead of time. i multi-tasked at the bank where i once worked and the working hours just seemed to be insufficient to do my responsibilities. sometimes my late husband complained on why i should bring work to the house. i felt that i would be loaded if i didn't do it, because when i reach the office, nobody will do it for me. the long years of working may have taught me to be "wiser" and what i do now is to leave office matters in the office so they won't interfere with my domestic activities.

I set boundaries between the two. What's the tension in the work, it leaves in the work. And what's the tension in the home, it leaves in the home. I never mixed them, it will end into a mess.

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