Do you think kids respect their parents these days, as we respected our parents

I don't think kids now a days have the respect for parents or any elder like we used to. I think its because our generation either got lazy or said we wer'nt going to be that strict with our kids as our parents were. We went completely the opposite way. and now our kids' kids are worse off.

Hi there Ice Smile. This will probably sound as a cliche but i will start by saying that it's all a matter of perspective. I have great respect for my parents even if i have enough freedom in my opinion. Well the thing is I almost always thought to have enough liberty although in generally i want less that i am allowed to. I think that it's a matter of education (not only in school) related to school, home environment but also to the circle of people that come in contact with the kids apart from these 2 general places. I blame older people in our country that think like "all the youngsters are stupid and damaged, and they can't do anything" - and i want first of all to state, that our parents and ourselves have had them as teachers, not to mention that is unfair to judge all people just because they watch the 5 o'clock news on a certain TV post. I should mention that many bad things happened as well in the past, but were covered, and never revealed to the public, but hey, i am starting to go off topic so i will stop here.

I have heard kids tell their parents that they hate them. I have heard kids tell their parents and other adults, even a police officer, that they don't have to do what they tell them to do. I would never have said anything like that to my parents because I would have gotten my butt paddled, spanked, or at the very least, I would have lost a privilege. I had respect for my parents and all adults. I didn't talk back and I would never have told either of my parents that I hated them. I don't know why parents these days let their kids get away with this kind of behavior when, as kids, they wouldn't have gotten away with that kind of behavior. I would think that parents would try to instill the same kinds of values that their parents tried to instill in them. I know that a lot of kids say that when they are parents they will do things differently than their parents did because they want to do better for, or treat their kids better than, their parents did for and treated them. But, once we are grown up, we understand where our parents were coming from and why they did what they did. With maturity brings responsibility and an understanding of how things work. I don't have kids yet but, I would not let my kids get away with the stuff that I see most kids getting away with. I will have rules like my parents did.

personally, i don't think this has to do with times being different. or this has to do with them having different education, etc. i personally believe that it all boils down to what is being taught at home. i believe that what they see and what they experience at home have a lot do with that too. teaching is not just telling our children how to do it, it is also showing to them HOW we do it.

Maybe... In my opinion is that the attitudes of the kids nowadays depends on how they were raised up by their parents. During our time when we were young I have also known some kids of my age who do not know how to talk to their parents in a right way which we say not in a good manner. No matter what generation we are in, as long as the parents know how to discipline their kids properly, they won't have kids talking to them like that, most in a public place. I remember my mother before, when she saw my friend yelled at her mom, my mother told me that if ever i would do that to her, I would be the one be put to shame. Most of the parents now do not know how to raised their children it is because they become a parent on a very early age. I hope parents nowadays should be more careful and couscous on how to raise their children to avoid much bigger number of children who do not know how to show respect. Also respect the rights of your child so you will also be respected.

i always try to talk respectful to my parents, but sometimes i slip sometimes and get angry. i guess it depends on how the kid was raised when they were younger (like 5-6)

Hi icesmile! I have noticed that kids these days are not as respectful to their parents as we were before. There are a lot of factors that cause this. Their environment is one. Perhaps the people around them do not remind them about what they should be doing. I have encountered a lot of these young people. They are my students in college. The way they treat their teachers show how impolite they are. So I wonder, "Is this the same treatment their parents get from them?"

Kids today do not understand what it means to be respectful but then the majority of their parents do not either. Parents are a child's first teachers and they have to set the example and model the behavior their children should have. To most children today respect is just a word. As kids get older they think they have the right to demand it for themselves but they think they can be selective about who they show it to.

frankly, with the demands of life now like the constant striving for a living of both parents, it is hard to pay that much attention in the rearing of children. that is why having children isn't just being able to feed them and clothe them. if you do only these then you'd just be a provider. however, if you as a parent get to respect also their need for love, attention, guidance and discipline then this same respect is what you'd also receive as a parent.

There is a big difference. As I looked backed,I remember every time my father called us, we go to him right away as a response in just one call. But now, if I will count it will take three to four times before they approach you. Sometimes they approach me when I am already angry. Children nowadays are too hard headed, too much consumed of technological age of computer games. They are more violent because of the influence of media that is very hard to control. They reason out more frequently compared to us when we are still young. Children today are very much different. For whatever reason, it is a serious issue of the society that is very alarming. I still remember my grandmother told us, if your parent is asking you to do an important thing, and you did not do it right away, it is a sign of disrespect. A child has to obey his parents. Another thing I see is they join with adult conversation. I remember when we are still kids, if we have a visitor or visitors in our home; we are not allowed to join them. Instead, we are told to go to our room and there we play. But now as I observed my kids, even though I always told them not to join us in our receiving area, they still do otherwise. They do even ask questions to the visitor and to me what are the things we are talking. I understand their curiosity as children, it is natural to them to ask questions but I am sure my instruction was clear, the same instruction that my parents have told to us when we are still kids that we are not allowed talking with adult issues. Every time there is visitor coming, we already know what to do; ; it’s just simple of going to our room until they told us to go there.I do not know who’s to blame. All I know is my parents are disciplinarian. I have a feeling of the given freedom to the children nowadays. Is it too much or not enough?

Kids are for sure a lot more disrespectful to their parents and other elders and it is a scary shame. My husband and I talk about this quite often because he has a teenage daughter to a previous relationship and she is is just as disrespectful. She will tell you to your face that she does what she wants when she wants and there are times that we think she honestly believes that. I think it has to do with the technology and why they don't respect...there is so much with cell phones, computers and video games that it gives them to move over their parents in the way that there is so many more things you have to take away and if you punish them there are so many ways to get in contact with the outside world(friends). I am really hoping that my two kids don't act like that but I do notice that even at their young ages of 8 and 10 there are moments when they don't show respect to their father or I. I will say that I hear the way teens now a days talk to their parents and I am always saying i would never think of ever speaking to my mother like that...heck I am 27 and I would still never even speak to her like that. It really it a shame that it has come to this and I would like to know where everything changed.

No i do not think that children respect their parents these days,no more than they respect any other adult.I think it is because some parents let their children do what they want as well as say what they want to who ever they want.Alot of parents do not disaplin their children either.

kids are definatly not as respectful as they were when i was younger,if i'd spoken to my mum the way i hear some kids speak i would have got a good slap

Hi icesmile! I think we can't really put all the blame on the kids. If I may, I think it is the parents who should be the one responsible if their kids are not respectful of them. And when I say "respectful", I don't mean the kind of behavior wherein children are not allowed to answer back to their parents and express their mind just because they are younger, I meant the kind of behavior wherein the children look up at their parents with honor and pride, or talk back at them with grace and dignity, honor, and humility. Now, why do I say that the parents are the ones who should be responsible? It's because: how the parents treat their children affects how the children treat their parents in return. Like for example, in your case, you said in your reply to nolipo that you treat your kids as one of your friends, and they also see how well you respect your parents so they follow your example and respect you even if you are not strict on them. Treating your kids as one of your friends is, for me, a very good thing to do as a parent coz it is by that gesture that your kids are able to build their trust on you. Being a parent doesn't mean authority. Being a parent means family. And with family, there is trust, respect, and or course, happiness through love. Let me give you another example and this time, my case. When we were kids, my father treated us with a very strict discipline, like that in the military. Like, for every single mistake we make, we were scolded, yelled at, beaten. Even if we make an honest mistake, we don't get to defend ourselves and reason out because all we get is a belt or stick lashing. And if we try to reason out, we are accused of "answering back" and "having no respect" for our parents. In effect, my siblings and I were very afraid of our father. When he's around, we are at our best behavior, even our relatives would comment during family gatherings that we are the "most well-behaved" of all the children. At that time, we never answer back at our parents because we were afraid that we will be beaten. Now, would you call that respect?? I DON'T. I call that FEAR. Because even if we didn't answer back to our parents, we did that out of fear[b] and [b]not out of respect. And what's building inside us in our hearts were not PRIDE and HONOR for our parents but HATRED and BITTERNESS. Worse, we became persons with the LOWEST SELF-ESTEEM. We also don't have the healthiest relationships towards each other (even with our siblings) because we can't open up to them our life's happenings. Simply put, my parents and I are not friends, we are just "parents and child". Nowadays, all their so-called efforts of "disciplining" us in the past just came to waste because I now answer them back when I want to reason out with them. And it's all the effect of the hatred and bitterness that has built within me over the past years. Fortunately, I often get good advice (and good example) from my fiance so don't get me all wrong, most of the time, I control my emotions and don't answer them back, there are just times that I get so frustrated with them that my patience would break and cause me to answer them back. But even if I don't do that all the time, there still remains the fact that I don't have much pride and honor for them as any children should for their parents. I know it's a very bad thing for me but I wasn't the one controlling their behaviors. I am hopeful though that someday, I will be able to build full honor and pride towards them. So that is why I think and believe that parents are the ones who are responsible if their children are not respectful of them. Children are like "xerox machines", they copy almost EVERYTHING that we older people do. The parents are the ones that they see and communicate with all the time and it's very important that the parents should be very careful of how they behave, and most especially, how they treat their children. I think that the way you handle your kids (that you treat them as your friends) is a very good thing for you to do, and I would like to encourage you to keep it up. I know I'm not be a psychiatrist or something but just based on my experience, I really do wish that I were friends with my own parents.

I grew up in a time when respect for parents and adults was the norm. "Please", "thank you" and "excuse me" were spoken as natural as breathing. Children waited until they were given permission to speak. We all sat down to meals together as a family with table manners always a part of the regimen. The "village mothers and fathers" kept neighborhood watch on everybody's kids. It was their duty to report any misbehavior and in cases of imminent danger (like being where you were not supposed to be and vulnerable to a get-in-trouble situation) they were required by traditional parent community law to intervene and either demand that you go home immediately, take you home themselves, or hold you at their house and call your parents to come and get you. In any case, you did not want your parents to hear anything about your shennanigans because you were going to get it and bad when you got home. Corporal punishment was not only accepted, it was recommended. Today, that model does not work in most communities. Life long friends and family live across town or several thousand miles away. Children are taught, and necessarily so, not to trust anyone in the neighborhood. Neighbors cannot show an interest in other people's children - for fear of their interest being taken the wrong way. Television shows have dialog that is cute and witty and flip. The best lines are smart and derogatory. Dad is borderline stupid and Mom is out of touch with reality. Kids plot and scheme to do or get what they want. Even if it doesn't work out, the punishment is small compared to the fun of outsmarting Mom and Dad and all will be forgiven. This is true for animation and cartoons as well. Parents are led to believe that they must do whatever it takes to make their kids love them. From birth, babies learn to manipulate their environment. Parents do whatever is necessary to shut the kid up. Feed them even. Hold them. Buy them toys. Just make the crying go away. When they start walking, clear the tabletops. Don't teach them "No" because that has a negative connotation. When they start school, change classes if they don't like the teacher. Complain if the teacher gives too much homework. Above all, let them express themselves in any way they choose. Ignore the venom that spews from their precious little mouths. Just don't make them hate you. What we have forgotten along the way is to teach them how to express themselves. They can let us know how they feel and what they are thinking in a respectful way. We can teach them as they grow that even tho they think and feel that way, that maybe life is not that way so they have to learn to deal with the rules and regulations put in place for their own good. This teacher/student process starts at a very young age - not when they become out of control teens or pre-teens. Research shows that children are much happier when they have boundaries and controls. Boundaries and controls wrapped in love create a safety zone. Boundaries and controls also teach children how to get along in the real world. They develop social skills and coping skills that make them better students and help them grow into responsible adults. Teach them how to communicate and express themselves in a respectful way - by setting good examples. We have come a long way since I was a kid. Corporal punishment is no longer acceptable and that is a good thing. Although people like to say that children do not come with an instruction manual, there is a heck of a lot more information and help out there about raising kids than in generations past. So why aren't parents doing a better job? I ask you this question.

I agree that the majority of young people today are not being taught to respect authority, their parents, teachers, policemen, or anyone else, especially God. There are exceptions, I agree. Or could it be that it is the noisy, big mouth ones that get noticed? When I was a child, unruly children got spanked. My mother spanked me only once. She asked me a question and I told her that it was none of her business. I was only 5 years old, but I never made that mistake again.

I think children nowadays are lacking a big dose of discipline[ which parents, teachers alike ] can't bother to do because each one is too busy with their own thing, and then we have a very permisive society and goverments laws that restricts parents on how to discipline their own children. Parents are confuse and so are children and teenagers they do not know where they stand whithout guidance, no discipline, no moral standard. I tell you what! I would not like to be a new parent today!

No kids now a days are not as respectful of their parents or any adult. Yes some kids are given to much freedom and now the parents and kids are paying for all that freedom. When I was growing up you had better respect your parents and do what they said or you were in big trouble.

Children today do not respect their parents as we did in the "olden times". There are several reasons for this. First and foremost is the engineered breakdown of the family through the unconstitutional law of "no-fault" divorce. That automatically leaves children unprotected, without guidance, and very angry and confused. When parents do not live up to commitments, children do the same, lose trust and develop bad character, because their parents do not teach them the greater virtue. The schools and their union mentality have long ago fostered the idea in even young children that they do not have to submit to parental authority. Colleges long ago became sewers when it comes to wisdom, character, and discernment, and since at least the 70's this has become a deliberate downward push, as in indoctrinate them while they are young: very influential, U of Chicago, Obama's good buddy Bill Ayers and their radical ilk, whose joy and delight is to instigate rebellion and decimate family values. Our foolish media - TV, movies, newspapers, Hollywood dummies, etc. propagandize license, calling it "freedom", as in the Satanic Bible's encouragement to "Do what thou wilt." Polite doesn't even enter their warped thinking. They disrespect everything God created, as in the family unit, the basic unit of society wherein morality should be learned. Once that is destroyed, which encourages children to be disobedient to all authority, so they become weak-minded enough to follow those who encourage such dangerous rebellion.

I think these days kids do not respect as much as we are respecting to our parents.