What will you do if you are in my situation?
By Niah
@Niah1976 (739)
Paranaque, Philippines
October 21, 2009 1:00pm CST
My kid is top 2 in her class. I'm happy with it and no. 2 is fine with me. But it was just lately that i found out that their exams are based on the exam last year and the other year ago. So I feel that it is unfair for my kid because the top 1 in their class have a cousin who is now in gr. 1. So it is clear to me that the exams of her cousin is the one she is reviewing every exam.I know that my kid should be the no.1 in their class not only because of being smart but because of her attitude.
I hate the mom of this top 1 kid because I treated her like my sister. Though I know that it is really hard to find a true friend. I was reviewing my kid but she insisted to come home with us again so that our kids will play but I really refused.i know it is her way of making my kid to study less.
I plan to talk to the principal about this stuff because I want to fight for the right of my kid. I just want it fair.
Do you think it is right for me to talk to the principal and ask her to change the contents of the exams?
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9 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
21 Oct 09
HI NIAH, I agree w/you that the tests should be changed every year. I'm sure there are alot of kids who have siblings or kinfolks that have already taken it. Your child is doing excellant to be #2 in her class. I think u are being a little paranoid here but of course u know more about it than i do. If i really felt that way about a cousin i would just stay away from her completely.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I hope things work out for the best for u & your daughter. We sure don't like to see our children mistreated. mine are grown but i would still fight a circle saw for them, lol. Thanks for the kind words. Wish they were true. girl, i can be mean as a skunk. 
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
23 Oct 09
Hi Jo! Maybe, I've been paranoid but i really can't help but to think that way because she gave me the reasons to. Well, for now I will just pray for this and if nothing happens, maybe I will talk to the principal about it. The principal in her school is so sweet and friendly. I just feel sorry for my kid who is so studious and of course, to her classmates as well.
Thanks for your response. I wish that all people here in my lot is as good as you. Take care.
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@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
21 Oct 09
Hi Niah1976... I am also a school teacher. I myself think that it is really unfair. Have you talked to the class adviser of your child? From whom did you learn that the questions given were the same questions for already two years and is the same test papers used on the new students? In our school that is not really allowed. You should talked to the principal, since maybe she was not aware about it. You should have your proofs when you go and talk to her for sometimes the principal would really try to cover up their teachers just to protect the reputation of the school.
I hope your problem will be resolve the sooner the better since it will be almost the 3rd quarters.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Really? then try to borrow that proofs from her. Then talk to the principal and try to voice out your opinion. The giving of periodical test should not be as the same questions like before. That is always a rule to avoid cheating. And this is really unfair.
Even in board exams, the questions are always change each year. maybe the same choices but the questions should be rephase or it will be change to other item or try to delete some item and change it to a new one. The teacher is being lazy.
@sudiptacallingu (10879)
• India
23 Oct 09
How old is your kid? I think she’s still very much a child and you are unnecessarily instilling unhealthy competition in her. ‘hate’ is a very strong word which you should avoid using, especially in front of kids.
However, this system of holding examinations based on previous years papers is not right either. You can talk to the principal about changing the format so that everybody has a level playing field.
Also I feel that you are very proud of your child…as parents we all are proud of our kids but be careful that this pride does not rub off the wrong way in your child and make headstrong and rude.
@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
23 Oct 09
Actually, I never told my kid about this because I know that she is young for this that is why I posted this matter here hoping that matured people will give their advice. And for your information I am raising my kid the right way. She is the most behaved and responsible in their class. I don't let her see any negative actions or hear any negative words from me. So you don't have the right to say that I am instilling her an unhealthy competition. I think you must be the one to be careful with your words.
Thanks for the response anyways
@tdemex (3540)
• United States
21 Oct 09
I think your acting like a kid! Time will straighten it all out by it self. She either the top or the second or the third! Your making to much out of this, I hope your not teaching her this trait? It could screw her up for her whole life! Sorry but you asked! 
tdemex
tdemex@Niah1976 (739)
• Paranaque, Philippines
21 Oct 09
I want the best for my kid. Would you let it happen to your kid? Would you just watch your kid just like that.
i think it is the mom of the top 1 kid that should not teach her kid to cheat.All I am teaching my kid is to be a good person and to be God fearing.
Anyway, thanks for your response and Happy my lotting to u
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
basically it is your right and that of the others' who don't know of this recycled exam to let authorities know of this. you know, i'v worked as a teacher and exams are monitored by the immediate supervisor of the teachers so it is impossible to imagine how this recycled exam would turn out to be. that immediate supervisor of the teachers still has another supervisor that monitors whether he/she is doing her job. no offense, but your school either has many, many, many students or is a run off the mill. however, it also depends on the type of exam: science exams would basically be the same with the type of asking for the facts a must to be altered every time an exam is given. language exams or grammar exams are the ones that should be entirely different every year. that includes math.
@moneymakingtoday (4061)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
maybe u should see the principal. tell her about what u know. tell her that it would be unfair to use the same set of exams given in the previous years. naturally, it will be very advantageous for them having children in the higher years. suggest to the principal to alter their tests every year.
@okkidokitokki (1736)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Only an extreamly lazy teacher would keep the exact same test to give from year to year. Many make atleast a few changes to everything they do from year to year, to prevent cheating.
Where I am in the United States there are tests given by the state every year that are out of the controll of the teachers, they are also changed every year to some extent.
The final thing I would like to say is that a test is supposed to cover what has been taught and there are usually certain things that have to be taught at every grade level, these things do not change often.
If you suspect cheating then go to the teacher. (studying from a previous years test is cheating) At the same time, if your child knows the content that has been taught then she will not have a problem doing well on any test given.
@Canellita (12029)
• United States
26 Oct 09
I think you should not worry about any of this and that if you want your child to excell you should look for study guides and educational tools that will help your child study ahead.
In my country there are national education standards that are available online. There are alos lesson plans and supplemental material to help students, parents and teachers. I think you should look online for materials that can help yoru child prepare for material she will have to learn in the future.
@repented (80)
• Maldives
21 Oct 09
Hello friend
If you think you can proof what you say I think you should talk to the principal and convince him but it's better not to go against this friend...as they may think you are jealous or something or may be you can ask to change the class if it is good for your kid....good luck friend.
