At Some Point, You Just Have To Give Up

To your question: NO, no one has ever asked me, whether am playing "Hard to Get" or I am taking a different approach about something or someone, as I have always been clear about it to all my friends... LOL For you situation: I would like to advice you to stop waiting and please confront him directly, cause until you do so, you will never know, what his answer would be, or if there will ever be anything between you guys. People tend to admire others and just keep it to themselves, hoping for some miracle to happen and expecting there dream date to just end up at their doorstep. May I tell you, that, that is a thing of movies and fairy tales. You need to work hard to catch the eye of the one you admire and be straight forward and then only will you get any result. So stop waiting and getting gloomy, just go and ask him out for once. Take Care Good LUCK

Yes unfortunately....with men I have no interest in and they are just to full of their selves to think that there's a female out there that DOESN'T think they're attractive nor pleasant to speak with lol. But good for dear! Hope you're perfectly fine with moving on too of course.

I don't blame you on giving up. There's only so much flirting that is not getting you anywhere one can do and still feel interested in someone. Sadly once I got engaged I had customers chit chat even flirt a tiny bit but those guys were where when I wanted to date??? Sometimes it's best to cash in your chips and move on. After a bad experience with someone I had a crush on very badly, I gave up... he wasn't worth it. It was tiring being the frend & co-worker role. I also had a co-worker that sounds like his friend trying to keep things going even though it would never pan out, eventually that got annoying to.

SOUNDS to me u need to go on to greener pastures. If nothing has happened in a year think u need to forget about it. It also sonds like u are being way too obvious. Just treat him like u would any other friend & get busy looking somewhere else.I think he's a lost cause.

Yes.It happened to me before that a guy approach me that I am playing very hard to get and he feels that I have a crushed on him or I like him. I was speechless that time and discourage because I was not expecting that the guy will going to approach me like that.

yeah,people's feeling is the most abundant.Ever i have a feeling and did not know each other, i know i'm not brave so that the feeling have been hidden in the bottom of my heart. With the time flies,this is already past landscape.

I've seen hard to get approach and that could mean two things. Literally playing hard to get or not interested at all. So in order to detect which is it, might be a bit of thought. So this guy; why did you decide to 'give him up'? Wasn't he living up to your expectations or something? You can choose not to answer if you aren't comfortable, aite.. have a nice day.

No, I usually try to play it "hard to get" in all my new relationships. Men really seem to like it. It can be fun in the beginning. What is hard is making excuses and such. And knowing when to give in. It can be hard to do but it really does work. And sometimes it is just time to take a different tack.

I took that approach when I met the man that eventually became my husband. Before he came along I always came across rather needy and possibly a little desperate I am embarrassed to say. By the time I met my husband I had completely given up on men and resigned myself to the fact that I would never be with anybody; I didn’t like it but was prepared to accept the fact and live the best life I could on my own. By the time I met him I had been on my own a while and pretty set in my ways and to my surprise I had become so content with my life that I was unsure if I wanted a man to interfere with that. I did play ‘hard to get’ by not always been available for him every time he called and having my own interests. Well, that made him keener than ever and he confessed to me years later that the more distant a woman is the more a man will chase her. I have since confirmed this fact with other guys, it’s quite true.

Yes, I have been asked. So, I am not willing to repeat the explanation.

Sometimes you have to give up to give others a chance. Who knows someone deserving can't just come in as hwe thought you don't have time for others.

Is this your friend who you meet through your mother? I agree, with many men you have to learn when to say when. I've noticed, personally and from my friends experience, when a man likes you he will persue. If you are doing all the chasing, he's not interested. I've never been asked directly, but I was asked by a guy I went on a few dates with. Last Novemeber, I went to luch with this guy I knew, we had been "friends", a few times. I noticed he wanted to be persued and was one of those we do what I want when I want types and more trouble than he would ever be worth. I used to call him frequently and email, but I slowly eased away from it. I saw him in May. He told me he was graduating, which was a lie, and asked if I wanted to go to his party and I say "No, I will be busy." He asked me what was going on.

well something is the way ist is ... you never could do a thing u rectify it ... something just away from you ...

Hi,singlemommy,i can understand your feeling,because i had faced the same situation before.i used to like a boy very much and i had told him about that,but he was still tread me like a friend and didn't give me a answer.So i was downcast and became thin those days,sobbed this to my best friend,she said"if he were really care about you,he wouldn't let you down ".Then, i tried to give up.It was not easy,but it's not bad to lose a person who does not love you. Finally,when he came to me and said We don't match i felt little pain.

I don't believe I have but then again I have been with the same man for many years and don't really remember dating much! Good luck with the new approach. You are right, sometimes you just have to let it go.

I've had a SIMILAR thing happen: a friend of mine had a crush on me back in my freshman year of high school! And I was super flattered with all the attention he was giving me - writing me notes, talking to me online, calling me often, etc - and he thought that I lead him on (but at the same time wasn't giving him what he wanted) - because I just couldn't bring myself to turn him away at first. So, I'm not sure if that's relevant at all but that's my story! . Flirting DOES get old at times, so I can understand how you might want to stop after a while. Flirting is fun, in my opinion, when there's.. possibilities afterwards. *shrugs*

Actually, I've been told I am playing hard to get for many times already. It became a reputation already. But the truth is, I'm just not interested at all. I'm a very picky person when it comes to those who I like or will like. I don't know. I guess I just don't want to waste time entertaining them, getting their hopes up and then in the end, I would drop them just because it didn't feel right to me.