Do religion a hindrance in your relationship?
By fler
@feodda (579)
Philippines
October 22, 2009 1:44am CST
There are instances that our parents seek for same religion relationship. Because there are some things that they disagree of the relationship.
But for me, it is not a hindrance as long as you love and respect each other.
How about you? Do religion a hindrance in your relationship? Or you find a partner with same religion as yours?
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17 responses
@blessing2u (496)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Religion is a man made organization to promote their own beliefs and practices. Most of the time, in many religious organization, they forbid their members to have a relationship with those of other organization. It is good if their belief is based on biblical principles but if their belief is their own, then I think it is not a good one. Love conquers all.
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@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Religion sometimes is the hindrance in a relationship. It is very difficult if you going to be converted in your husband or wife religion you need to adjust. Sometimes you belief is different on each other it is hard to argue on than matter because no one going to be win. But if you conquers that all I think it would never be a problem.
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
22 Oct 09
No because my boyfriend and I do not have a religion, so it is not a big deal. We are both Agnostic and thus do not believe in religion. We believe that something is out there, but it has no explanation.
Religion should never matter in a relationship, but I know that values and moral do. If you have similar morals, values, and goals, the relationship can work, but if you nor your partner have this, then that relationship is going to fail.
My brother was a Catholic (he passed away that's why I say "was), and his girlfriend was Jewish and Catholic. My boyfriend's girlfriend's parents made it work because they had the same values and morals and they let the children be raised in both religions. It worked out fine. My brother told his girlfriend, and he was pretty open about it, that if she wanted to be 100% Jewish, he would join her. My brother already had a Hebrew first name, he was circumcised at birth, and he was more than willing to learn Hebrew. Whatever her decision was, he would follow her. They both were criminology majors, both worked at the same places, and they both went to the same school. They both had the same values and morals, and the loved each other very much. If you love someone more than anything in the world, you will do whatever it takes to make that relationship work.
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@IMEzekieL (498)
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23 Oct 09
Can you tell me more about Agnosticism?
What do you mean by this: "We believe that something is out there, but it has no explanation."
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@rogue13xmen13 (14403)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Agnosticism is not a religion first of all, we really do not have churches or dwellings, it is more of a state of mind. We believe that there could be something controlling our universe, but we do not say that it is "God" or a supreme being, people can call it that if they want, but it really cannot be explained and has no explanation. I was fed up with religions, all religions because I cannot see things the way others do. I found that there are several people like me out there and believe as I do, my own father was an Agnostic and I have cousins who are the same. We cannot be religious and we cannot worship anything because we do not see it. We know that something has to be control us, or we would not be here, but we do not see religion, any religion, having an answer to it.
I consider myself a pretty open-minded person, and I have had friends of all religions and nationalities, some who are more extreme with religion than others, but we do our best never to bring religion up unless someone brings it up because we feel it divides us. Everyone is entitled to their beliefs, but no one should ever impose their beliefs on another. If a person wants to know about a religion then that is one thing, but people should never force anyone to believe as they do.
When you love someone, you love them unconditionally. You will not care what religion they are, you will simply love them as they are. My boyfriend could have told me that he was any religion on the planet, and I wouldn't have cared, but I got lucky and he is very open-minded. I have had couples in my family and I have known couples in other families who made it work, somehow, even though they were of completely different religions. I have known many Catholics who have married people of different religions and of no religion and made it work. My great-grandpa was just a Christian, my grandpa had some Christian beliefs, but not a whole lot, grandpa just really loved my grandma, he did not care what faith she was because he loved her, and my mom and dad were once in love and they were not of the same religion. I am my dad's daughter, I don't care about religion as long as I have the love of my life. That is all that matters.
Love is something that completely surpasses religion.
@maean_19 (4655)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Based on my observation, there are marriages that solidly work having the same religion and other marriages encounter irreconcilable problems due to difference in religion and beliefs. It may be true that we all believe in one God, whatever your religion it be, but there are times that such differences of beliefs and faith would lead to break ups.
Indeed, when a couple have the same religion and beliefs, the marriage is more united compared to the other. Hence, religion act as a factor to a successful and strong marriage.
However, that depends on the couple if religion will dictate the relationship. It is still up to them. I knew a couple who have different religions and still going strong. During the celebration of their wedding, they made a compromise as a sign of respect. They celebrate the wedding at the groom's religion and another celebration from the bride's religion. I think, respect to one's belief or religion matters most.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
22 Oct 09
I was a Buddhist before I met my wife. She is a Christian. I embraced Christianity
as my religion. My mother has no objection of me becoming a Christian. As long as we are happy, my mother is happy.
@JamesKYTan (1605)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 09
Yes she is happy that at last I am married. She is a very supportive mother. She even attended
our church during our marriage in church. My mother signed as one of the two witnesses and my mother-in-law as the other. God bless my mother and my mother-in-law.
@ajayrocks111 (390)
• India
22 Oct 09
I don't believe in marriage of people from two religions. I always believe that marriage is between a man and woman not the religion or castes and sub castes. I hate if people say that she is of that religion and one should not get married or something. marriage and love are the real gods on earth which bless people to love another heart.
@lyzabelle (1668)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Religion is a matter of belief that
every one has the right to practice.
If two people love each other enough
then religion is not a problem at all.
Respect each others belief and everything will be fine.
@angelgravity (13)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Maybe it depends.
For example, I have known a couple who had troubles because of their religions. The boy was a Muslim while the girl was a Catholic. His beliefs were a way different from hers that they always end up pounding each other. One time, I caught them exchanging spicy words just because she wore mini skirts that he completely objected for it was banned to a Muslim's belief. The worst was during the Ramadan.
The next couple that I know is a Catholic and a Born Again (Christian). Although they attend different churches, and Christians at the girl's area wasn't celebrating Christmas, they managed to set their religion aside for their relationship. In the end, she changed religion and they got married in a Catholic church.
See? It really depends on how couples would handle and balance the circumstances that surround them. But you would ask me, I'll prefer someone who's in the same religion as mine.
@abhi_bangal (4684)
• Ahmednagar, India
22 Oct 09
I did have some flicks when I was a little younger. But that was the time, when I thought, I just want a girlfriend and that's it. I mean, I did not care about who I was dating or what the other consequences would be or I did never care to see the bigger picture. And by the way, I never had a girlfriend, beyond my own religion. And that was the thing I never ever considered. And as you said, things are relatively simpler if both - the guy and the girl - are of the same religion. If they are not that way, then they both have to give a great fight and if they are successful only then it is good. Otherwise, the lives of both of the lovers is in danger.
@IMEzekieL (498)
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23 Oct 09
I believe religion should not be a hindrance when it comes to relationship. You're right, as long as you respect each other, nothing could go wrong. You can still have a healthy relationship with someone despite the differences in religion.
@Hazelrose (2179)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
Hi feodda,It is beter to have a relationship that both in one religion.As a christian we do have relationship with the same religion.It' so good because we understand each other and no conflicts at all.Good day!
@prashantsarika (5)
• India
22 Oct 09
yes i agree with you and as long as mutual understanding is there and respect for the person and religion is there then there should not be any problem.No need to find a partner with same religion as yours.but neither of you should of changing the religion or hurt the feelings.
@kara18 (134)
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22 Oct 09
At the start of a relationship I think religion really won't matter, while it's still blossoming. I wouldn't want to seem pessimist that it won't hinder the relationship at all, but I guess along the way it will become a factor in a relationship. For instance, both of you would need to sacrifice your time when your religious practices would differ. Some religion do not practice birthday celebrations. So that might in one way or another hinder the relationship. Then eventually beliefs will also be compromised... but i then again, if both of you would really respect each other despite the difference in beliefs -- then that make the relationship strong.
@airasheila (5454)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Good day to you. I think, religion is not a hindrance for a relationship. As you have said, it is, as long as you know how to respect each other. Besides, religion is not the factor to be consider in making a relationship with God, it is the way how you talk to God. He will not ask you later what is your religion neither ask you why did you join that type of religion.
@dadoods (41)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
it's really a big issue for me esp. when you are planning to take a vow it takes a lot of thinking before going to the intimate level of the relationship.good only if you were just lovers but when getting married its a different issue because the time you can have your children, then you have to make your children to choose which religion to follow because i also believe in a saying that "a family that prays together stays together" then in which religion you gonna teach your children? let's face it that we cannot live for love alone. we have to teach our children the values, beliefs and our culture. its a big thing that should be taken consideration not just for the two of you who's falling in love.well actually respect will always follow when you love someone but in which way you gonna make it when it comes to your children they were the ones who will be facing the consequences..anyway that's the way i see things that might be the hindrance "children in the future"
