why some people just remember/saw the bad things...?

Hello friend, I miss you here dear...nice to see you again. This is very true and frustrating. Whenever we do mistakes,people will gossips and would even make the problem become a controversy ..as if they are always waiting us to do a little mistake and they will took that opportunity to make it worst.(nakabantay para makasira). I often observe this at work and at the society we are living in,like for an instance..the showbiz world and political personality.Those people are also normal human beings,prone to made mistakes and can also feel hurt when being despised from acts or wrongdoings thrown to their reputation which they actually never did in the first place.There maybe some politician who were corrupt and really doing evil things,but let us spare the good ones too. I also don't understand why people are so judgemental...they easily judge someone without looking at their own images...saying bad words not knowing they are throwing stones back to themselves. This is how the world really goes on my friend...so many questions..the answers are so few.

Hi dear! Very very good question. Full marks to you ck. This is a human habit and can say a negative trait in most of the human beings that they always remember the negative or unpleasant things. Even if do hundred favors to someone and if unfortunately, we are unable to do him the favor for the 101st time, s/he would remember the last occasion and would say that we are useless and we could not help him/her in his/her hour of need. I also face the same situation many a times (don’t ask where I face this kind of situation…………….LOL!………..I hope that you can well understand). Nonetheless, in my heart of hearts I know that I do not fail to do favors to others, when they need me and I just ignore negative comments. Have a great day! Deepak

People, no matter where they live on or what is their educational background, we all have high egoism. Usually people will determining other people from bad site, not from good side. We all have such egoism and we all know if such thing is humanitarian. Some people who have high education and good background, perhaps can judging people only from their good side, but it's rare. I think that's why we all must do good things and avoiding bad things. Good luck and have a nice day. Happy mylotting.

All i can say is that if that is the case, i think that she are only finding a way to make things worst. or maybe they are envy about the things you do. they think that you don't have flaws that's why when you made something wrong they exploit it. i dont like people who's like this. because in a relationship whether it is friendship or other thing they should learn to forgive about this flaws and accept you even they know what is the worst thing about you. for example even you are fat, ugly or even you stink, they are still willing to be you friend. and that is the most important in a relationship.

I think its because bad things has the most impact when it happens to anybody. Its really unforgettable, especially when its something so hurtful. Whereas a good thing or event sometimes are taken for granted, unless its really a very memorable and something that had made you cried for joy, then its something thats hard to forget. Also some people are difficult to please and so if something good happens to them, yes they become happy for a while but tends to forget after. =)

Hello, I think, we expect everything to happen in our way. But that doesn't happen every time. Sometimes bitter moments come. Sorrow is crude in nature and when it hurts us it leaves us totally stupefied. Some of us can interpret things easily in a positive way. They see a positive aspects in every small things that happen to them. Every thing depends on how we interpret it. This skill of positive interpretation is a skill that can't be acquired overnight. Only people who have turned introspective can attempt this. But the problem is that our mind is always running outwards. It is broken and scattered. A part goes to office, another stays home. A part struggles with our health condition while another looks for new earning opportunities. Being positive minded needs huge strength which can't be acquired with this fragmented state of mind. We need to accumulate the entire strength, pull it together and then focus into ourselves. Turning positive from totally negative, is a long process and of course its hard. I also feel bad about people who are negative minded. But I am hopeful that any such person can change into a positive personality with careful consideration and effort. Thanks for starting such a nice discussion. God bless you

Hello ck, as it has affected you already, just know that it's something that you have become aware of so if it bothers you again, look at it in a different way. When we were young, being hurt meant many things and as we got older those feelings remain but in a sense are heightened by our other senses which combined with our thinking, well an apocalypse can happen. I still remember the things that hurt me and when I have that defense flaring up I want to walk away, replace it with a better thought or defend myself verbally. It's also how we cope with things in our lives. As the bad things come, especially now economically, we have more and more lives wanting to make ends meet and they have no time for whiner's and haters. In this case, having a good attitude about what makes you irate goes a long way.

WEH!!! IT's normal, i guess.. Basically, it's just like trust.. Taking decades to build up, but only needing less than 1 second to destroy it, just because of something they saw?? MOst ple like to remember only the bad stuffs, because we are able to use that to fault them.. As u know, we dun like to give compliments or be encouraging for their efforts to things.. And whenever there's a choice to either, compliment or critise, we tend to critize.. With that habit being build up along the years, together with influcence when we are young, it's already being instilled in us hehe ^_^ The end lol =D

Hello iloemi in my way of thinking, it goes like this. First, we can't please all people around us...whatever good and admirable things we do there's always someone behind who maybe envy or in-secured about those good things we've done. Secondly, maybe we had someone long ago had grudges or dissatisfaction with us that we never know. Lastly, it's already a culture attitude of us...whether we like it or not..

Because they are people who are happy doing it that is the way they compliments each other mistakes and keep talking on the mistakes of other people as a sort of entertainment for them. Whether we like it or not they are very sadistic enjoy every things which use to criticize other people judging them testing your patience. Then, if you scold them they would only get more inspire as it becomes a habit which is very hard to break. So if you wanna survive them then just face them, swallow and spit..

I think the situation can be turned the other way round. If we do MORE good things before in the pasts and suddenly, we are involved in something that is not right, I guess most people will remember all the good things that we have done and there is a chance for forgiveness or whatever the situations are at that time. However, if we have never done something impressive in our life, but suddenly we do bad things whether unintentionally or not or say like we have never contributed anything to the family, then some people will always remember that. Yea, I know this kind of people... those who 'think' that they are always right and never made any mistake!! In other words, those who think they are 'perfect'!!!

People are forgetful of the good things you have done for them when you did wrong to them once. It happened to me, too. Maybe it depends on the people themselves as to why they forgot what you did good to them. So

Hello ckyera, Yes that is really true,as i observe in our society now a days.All good things done to other people will not be remebered any more.what they remember is the one negative side of a person.May be some of the people now are so judgemental.As if, they were perfect.I had also a sad experience like that and it's so painful.God Bless!

Hi, Yes, I know there are people who can only see negative things and that too because they themselves suffer from lack of self esteem. They have a very low opinion about themselves, though that may not be apparent. I think, a truly positive and elevated lifestyle begins with a 100% belief in God. When the concept that whatever God does is for our own good gets more deep rooted in our mind, this very thought makes us positive and strong. People who are satisfied with themselves seldom bears negativity, and what else than spirituality can give you that sense of completeness and satisfaction. Take care

Hi Ckyera, First I will tell you that I am always thinking positively and even if somebody did any wrong, I may try to find the right side of the same. In my opinion those people are always thinking negatively or finding the negative marks must be the same character else how can they think like that. I am really angry about one of my colleague he is always judging negatively, before two days, I asked him, why you are always trying to find out the mistake (the matter was on a third person). He said I am so innocent that is why I am thinking like that; anyway I stopped the conversation for the sake of peace. If we do 99 good things and do 1 wrong thing then definitely the 1, i.e., the wrong thing will be highlighted.

Hi, c! Great Discussion!!! I know that they tend to do this towards Micheal Jackson a whole lot! People look at the bad because that is all that they see in another person... They think evil thoughts constantly. For me, when all I see is the bad in another person is because they have done nothing but bad things to me, or they have done mostly bad things less than good things. Ideally, the bad things outweigh the good.. I try not to look at just the bad things in a person. I try to see the good in them. I guess that is why I am so forgiving.. I feel sorry for others that can't see the good in anyone.. They need to change this attitude.

Because some people love other people to make mistake. If other do something wrong they will love that. That will make them feel far more superior to others. Bad things is like an eraser of good deeds in the eyes of humans who are narrow minded.

One mistake could ruin you to some people. That's a fact of life. Those people who usually see the fault are resentful because you are much better than them. They belittle you because you are soaring higher than them.

human nature is all i can say, rarely anyone see and remembers the good things or qualities in others.

hi cykera yeah u r right many ppl tend to remember the bad things we do because they have a longer impact on ppl( may be they may have lost something important to them) but this surely ios bad attitude towards ppl.. i think the tiem we spend on earth is too small to captivate only bad things in the world we must try to move on as fast as possible and make it a point that we cherish ppl only for their good deeds.. so even if u do something wrong try to expalin to yourself why you did it and make sure that u dont repeat it again..