How in love are you right now?
By joygracia
@joygracia (1325)
Philippines
October 22, 2009 8:38am CST
Are in the point that you want to give everything to that one you love the most right now? I kinda bit confused myself if I`m like this but I have this tendency to be this way. I can`t help it. Are you head over heels in love with somebody right now?
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@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
Hmmm.. We all go through that feeling when we're not the types who get a lot of relationships. I mean, most hold on to someone so much in fear that if they let loose, then someone might steal that person away. It's actually a manifestation of lack of confidence and even insecurity.
I know I may sound harsh, but I am like that as well.
But now that I'm a bit older and hopefully more mature, I come to realize that whatever you do for that someone, it's not a guarantee that they'll stay. It will only be tiring on your part if you become a slave to your own feelings.
My special someone once told me, 'never put your happiness at the hands of someone else'.
You can be happy without someone else. Only if you see your worth.
So when you're feeling oh so emotional and would like to die for the person, snap out of it by keeping yourself busy (believe me it does help) and you'll see that the lesser you focus on relationships, the better the relationship becomes.
@ElsaElsa (323)
• United States
22 Oct 09
This is good advice. Unfortunately, most of us learn the hard way despite seeing others and not learning from them. A friend of mine did just that. She did so much for her husband that in a way she became like a mother to him than a wife. It became so hard for her to get him to love her the same and treat her better than a maid or something to that extent. HOwever, he relied on her for absolutely everything that he himself could do such as put his socks on, make dinner, iron his clothes, wash them etc. I'm not saying that its all bad but Love should not be used to control others. I would say trust your love for this person enough that you could have a mature relationship and not a one-sided deal where at the end you are left hurt.
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@rhan04 (307)
• Philippines
22 Oct 09
I guess that's pretty normal when we're in love. I feel you there. Just be careful though. You wouldn't want to give everything and have nothing for yourself. I would also advice you not to let your world revolve around him too much.
As for me, I've felt that way before and it didn't do any good for me and in my previous relationship. Because when I love too much, I tend to be a little possessive and it's not really healthy. So now, I try to be average and not to get involve too much while staying seriously committed.
