Who's fault is this?

Actually I think this is a case of "I gave you a privelege and you couldn't be trusted". The girl's parents should take her phone away or at least remove her ability to send photos. The boy's parents should determine if he was in any way involved in soliciting the picture and take his phone away if he did.

I have a feeling neither parent in the situation will be that responsible, otherwise they probably wouldn't be in this mess in the first place!

Probably a lot of truth in that. I like what one of the responders said about not allowing internet if you give your child a phone. That way, no pictures, end of that particular problem.

Why would you need to see if she's okay while she's in school? First of all you're interupting her studies if you're calling her doing school hours, not to mention if she stops in the middle of class to take your call, she's interrupting all her class mates as well! I would be furious if my child were in her class! Kids go to school to learn, not to talk to their parents on the phone. If you need to ensure her safety at all hours in such a way, home school her! Second of all, are you certain she follows your directions at all times, even when you're not there? I know most kids don't. As soon as their parents are not around they'll do what they want. 7 years olds don't know the first thing about responsibility, and at that age they should not have their own phones!! They should have TOYS!

Then like I said, home school her! My kids go off to school everyday without cell phones and there has never been a problem. If there's a problem on the bus, the bus driver will call. If there's a problem at school they have phones there and will call. Why the child needs to have a diversion like a cell phone is beyond me. Besides that, most schools take the cell phones away if they see kids playing with them, so it's really pointless for a child to have it during school hours anyways.

First and foremost I'm not interrupting her studies as well as her classmates. I make sure that I'm not calling her in the middle of her class because obviously I know her schedule and I know when to call. Why I need to call her if she is in school? the answer is, she go to school by herself without me riding the school bus so as a mother I always make sure if she arrived in school safe. A loving mother always makes worry when their children is out of sight. And as what I said parents had their own reason why they need to give their kids their own cellphone. For emergency purposes or whatever. And I know my daughter well and her limitation. I know that she is still in the track in obeying my rules.

How is a cell phone a need? Up until a few years ago we all lived without cell phones, and I don't see how we were any worse off for not having them! We had payphones, we knew how to call collect if need be. I think today's society has been spoiled a bit too much and we're no longer seeing the difference between convenience and necessity. No one in my house owns a cell phone, and very few of my friends have one. We use the old fashioned land line home phone. I don't NEED a cell phone and may never own one unless the land line companies stop providing home phones.

Yes, we were contented with having landlines before because that was the best we thought we could have. But eventually there was the need for something more useful and that lead to cellphones being invented. Cellphones are suppose to be there to make life easier that it's not even a luxury anymore. No need to spend time to look for pay phones when you need one. They are very useful in emergency situations. They can be used for tracking lost cars or people. no need to purchase and bring any camera if you need one. God knows how hard it was for my family alone to spend special holidays before with cameras+film. I still have a lot of undeveloped films of previous family occassions. when the digicam was introduced, we were glad because finally we dont need to buy films or scramble for battery then when the cellphone+cam was introduced we could even take pictures of special moments especially unexpected moments. people who cant afford having a landline and a digicam would just buy a cellphone+cam to save and it's even much more useful because they can use it when the situation calls for it. Parents who need to be away from their children need cellphones to check on their children all the time. I can actually go on forever about thin topic. Anyway, I really believe that these gadgets require proper use and people should learn it or be taught about it. i was also a minor when I started to own a cellphone with a camera and never did I think of doing such a thing the girl on your story did. Also, even people of legal age do such thing but it sure is not the cellphones which taught them to think of that. Children who are sexually advanced would find ways to show that even if you take away the friggin cellphone. I really believe that it's on the proper environment, upbringing and guidance that a child grows up decent. People, for me, love blaming external things because they are afraid to realize that they are the ones who had shortcomings and failed to do their jobs (for parents) or didn't learn what's right or what's wrong.

I do not know what cell company you have but ours has major parental control options, we can track them block numbers for both calls and text, set it up to only except calls from certain phones, to turn off if they hit a certain amount of minutes. Yes some of these options cost more money but they can be worth it. There is also something called setting up rules. If your kids do not follow the rules you lay down it is your fault because you do not have control over your own offspring. They break the rules take it away. This goes with your teaching of morals which are of coarse intertwined. So many people today would rather be their kids friends, or "give them what I didn't have" with out raising them to be responsible.

I also meant to add that I think the fault is split between the teenage girl, her parents. The son, unless he told the girl to send said picture, had no fault in this. Even so, my earlier statement is still what I believe.

Yes I agree it is mostly the girl, I mean come on she is 14 like I said probably already became a woman, an the boy is 12, it may be all her, we don't know would need further detais.

That's what I'm thinking too, for the most part.

It does seem like all kids of any age have cell phones. Mine have not asked for one yet, but I don't even have one and neither does my husband, and I think my kids know we don't have that kind of money. Even if I did, I would not allow it. My kids don't need a cell phone. They have a regular home phone they can use to call their friends.