Did you ever felt loosing your identity?
By aceduave
@aceduave (61)
October 22, 2009 8:26pm CST
Did you ever felt loosing your identity, sacrificing and giving up everything like life and career for someone you love? Like forgetting who you really are because you dedicated your life for your family. Like giving more attention to the needs of your partner and kid before yourself?
I'm feeling like this. I used to be so in love with my career and my life before i got married. But after I did, I became a full time support to my partner and forgot what I really love doing, what I really feel is the best decision for my family. Then one day, I asked myself, is this who I really am? Is this what I am supposed to be Am I happy living like this Discuss this with please..Needs your opinion so badly..
1 response
@shajerrl (309)
• China
23 Oct 09
"Who am I and where can I find real me?" hard to response and also related to some philosophical issues,,,lol,,,just a joke...
but I think you can have a kindly communications with all you family member about your concerns and see if they can support you to find your real interesting career, hobby or even your decision...but maybe it's difficult for you to do, so please try to change your mind and couldn't you think it's very meaning for your life to support all your family? you are a man, it's your responsbility for family care...life is so tough for us, if we can't change them using our own efforts, why not try to adapt yourself to your life? if this, I believe you will find another road on the way, maybe you will enjoy that...thanks and good luck.
@aceduave (61)
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23 Oct 09
I am speaking in behalf of my wife..This is her delimma and I ma trying to understand her. WHy I do this is because I feel for her. And I want to understand her more by getting reactions from you guys.. Yes,she is adopted to the present life we are in. But my wife used to be an achiever and excels pretty well in all areas that she does. But now that she became so occupied with her role as wife and mother, she came to a point questioning where is her own self now? What other factors that made her think and feel this way..like loosing her identity..
@shajerrl (309)
• China
23 Oct 09
If you can't persude her accepting your points...if you can try to persude youself accepting your points that you make your efforts to support her life so that she can spend more time on her career and all things she is interested to do? you just behind her as a good husband for your house caring? if you all want to be best and be excellent at your career, that should be very hard for you and your wife to get a balance between your career and house life. why not try to step back for each other? thanks and good luck
