Can Love Happen Online?
@gtargirl (5376)
United States
October 22, 2009 10:18pm CST
I asked this question from a different perspective last year and got wonderful and interesting responses. Though, I was probably more against online dating than for it, I might have to seriously look into it now. As of today, I have two friends who are engaged to a couple of amazing guys. They found each other on (or is that at) an online dating service. Of course, I don't have the funds to join a service like EHarmoney or others, but I am not against finding true love online. How 'bout you? Do you know someone with a success story?
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34 responses
@millertime (1394)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I don't know about love happening online but I definitely think that people can meet online. Whether it be through an online dating service, chat rooms, social networking site or whatever, people can discover compatible or like minded people through casual conversation. After that, probably emails and a little more intimate conversation. Feelings of friendship might grow into stronger feelings leading to phone calls and then the inevitable face to face meeting and if all goes well, mutual love.
While it may start online, I think the only way to know if it's real is to meet and carry out a normal relationship for a while, but I bet nowadays, more and more people are discovering their soul mate for the first time in cyberspace. In the end the only thing that matters is that two people find each other, where doesn't really matter so much. [;-)
@suisuideying (88)
• China
23 Oct 09
I want to say my side there are many successful examples,as long as you are destined to a pair of love occurs,everything is possible.
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@williamjisir (22819)
• China
23 Oct 09
Hello gtargirl. I used to have a colleague who began with their relationship online via chatting and then got married later on a few years ago. I think that it is quite possible that love can happen online.
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I'm hearing more and more success stories. I am pleasantly surprised. It seems love can happen online.
@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
23 Oct 09
I believe in online love, definitely. I think it's just like any other love out there; pure and simple. It's like boy meets girl, boy likes girl and boy marries girl. Of course, not as simple as when two meet outside because outside once you like someone, you are already accepting them in your eyes. Not in the physical sense, but knowing someone online takes time to accept certain truths. They might describe a certain personality about themselves, but once we get to know them on a deeper level, it's an entirely different thing. But for those whom make it work; congrats and I can only be happy for them. ..for true love exists anywhere at all.
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
23 Oct 09
It's true, someone can be very untruthful about themselves online. But it wouldn't be very advantageous to say the least. Because you'll have to meet face to face sooner or later and the other person will soon discover the half or non-truths. But I'm beginning to feel the same way as you, love can happen anywhere.
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@goldeneagle (6745)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I think it can. I used to chat with a woman back in 1999 that was from another country. I wanted to marry her, and she wanted to marry me, but I guess it wasn't meant to be. We just couldn't work it out. I have kicked myself plenty of times over the years for not hanging on a little longer. If I had only waited about 6 more months, things would have fallen into place, and we could have been together. Oh well...Live and learn I guess. I am married to another woman now, but I swear there are still times, probably more often than I should admit, that I still think about the one I lost...I still miss her sometimes...
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
or maybe you just miss the way it all made you feel back then. Like you said, it wasn't meant to be . . . that says a lot. It's just my take on things.
@ms_jean21 (4)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
yes love can be happen online. I'm one of it and it work we are now 3years just in online. because in our time now lot of people is more interested in dating online than in personal and they make it work
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
24 Oct 09
That's wonderful, Jean. It does seem to be easier these days to find someone online . . . sometimes we don't even try . It's good to hear it works.
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
23 Oct 09
i have heard stories about online dating. i was against it at first until there was a time that a friend of mine just search for someone online just for friendship sake. they have communicated for months now and i was that glad that things went smoothly. until such time that they met each other in person. now they are working the relationship offline and we as their friends are wishing them that sooner it will be for good.
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
That's so sweet. It's probably a good thing to start working on a relationship offline after meeting online. And good friends are always special.
@CoffeeAnyone (3210)
• Canada
23 Oct 09
Will I have a friend you met you mate on line. I think they have been married two or three years now. I had lunch with them the other day and they really seem like a great couple. Seems to be working for them. I also have a friends sister who is dating guys she has met on eharmony and another site called plenty of fish I think. From what my friend says she is deeply worried for her siste as so far the men who have come into her life have lied about their age and their life in general. Not only that but she brings them into her home which to my friend and I this is nuts. I mean she should get to know them first on line then the phone and maybe then in public places for a bit until she feels one hundred percent at peace that these are good and decent men. Crazy to us how fast she lets them come to her house. Nuts!
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
Yeah, I definitely would meet somewhere in public until I felt comfortable enough to know that the man is for reals. Hmm, does that make sense?
@SHAMRACK (8576)
• India
23 Oct 09
Dear friend,
I could see that love is some thing that could happen any where. It do not matter if that person is married or not. May be even that person age too. Love could happen anywhere at anytime provided they both feel it. Every one loves to get loved and to give love, only thing is that they need a lovable person for that.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Can't live without it, that's for sure. It definitely makes the world come alive.
@asweetie (1187)
• India
23 Oct 09
hi,
These days chatting and social networking has become very common and with chatting and networking people meet others from all over the world and no one knows when someone falls in love with someone else far away. A very good friend of mine who is very straight forward guy and a very sensitive one too fell in love with some american girl who though kept promising him everything , kept playing around behind his back and though he did come to know and she asked forgiveness and he did but still kept playing and asking him money too.. so she remained with him till he kept sending her money and then she went off..totally cut him off not even a bye.. so i would say dont or never fall in love online..for one sucessful story on net there are over 100 stories where ppl got screwed.
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@haiershen (1080)
• China
23 Oct 09
i also sure that love can be happend on line,nowadays,many people live in a very small circle and all of us are busy with working,no much time for us to making friends, chatting on line and then fall in love with each other after meeting in real life and make a good relationship,it is normal,we often meet it.good luck and have a nice day!
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@jugsjugs (12967)
•
23 Oct 09
I know that there are a few people that love has grown from the interenet,but dating someone from the internet would not be my thing as you never know the true things about a person as they can lie as well and sometimes the photo you see is not that person.
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
That's why it makes sense to meet offline. I guess it would be easy to lie, but then again . . . people lie--even those who meet offline.
@wazzupp (15)
• Malaysia
23 Oct 09
greeting...for me online love or dating can happen but its all depend with ourself also..because some of the guy or girl will lie about their personality or physical body...=)..but some of them are telling the thruth about their self...i got 1story for u..i got one friend that always love to chat n dating online...one day he know one girl from J.B (malaysia)..then he chat for 3month but never meet each other..but at the same time..they fall in love.after 3month chatting,they make decision and want to see each other.my fren bring me when he want to meet that girl because my friend a bit shy with a girl..hehe..when they meet each other,my friend told me that the girl is not lie to him...then he decide to propose that girl..and now they married already and have 2 cute child..thats the story that i can share with u..tq
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
24 Oct 09
I love that story, very sweet. You are right . . . it is up to us to tell the truth so by the time we meet, there's lots to talk about because (up to a point) you already know a little bit about each other. Thanks for stopping by, my friend.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
I'm watching the relationships of my friends blossom. Their online connections were a definite blessing. Like you said, it's possible.
@carolbee (16230)
• United States
28 Oct 09
One of our daughter's met a guy online over 2 years ago. They are still together but not married. Two of our daughter's friends met men online. They are married now and have kids. Everything is going well. So it can happen and be a good experience. I am not against online dating services but it wouldn't be for me if I was single. Because of my age I wouldn't have any interest and would be skeptical.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
30 Oct 09
Really, you would still be skeptical after seeing such success?? I understand though.
@grecychunny26 (9483)
• Philippines
26 Oct 09
There are many cases of that, that I learned eversince I learned to use internet. It started with simple chatting then developed into love. I am 100% believe that it can happen. that is the use of online chatting anyway, to find person you are very compatible and comfortable with. I have a co-worker that she just met her husband online , then his husband when to our country to meet her, dated with her and then the rest is history. Now they are engaged.
@daliaj (5674)
• India
23 Oct 09
Yes, love can happen online. I met my husband through an online matrimonial site. The important thing regarding online relationships is that both the people should be serious about a forever realationship. If one of you are finding somebody for fun, it won't work. My husband and I were serious about a forever relationship and we got married. We are having a wonderful life.
@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
24 Oct 09
Another success story. I love it. And you are right, both should be looking for a forever relationship (I like that term). Thanks for your input, Dalia.
@dorannmwin (36392)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I am a success story myself. I met my husband nearly eight years ago through love@aol. We chatted on the computer for a few weeks and then decided that it was time to meet in person. After we met in person, we knew that we were the perfect match for each other. We were engaged after six months and married after 2.5 years. We did also have a daughter in that time. We've now been married for over five years and we've added a son to our family. I couldn't imagine a better man than my husband and I think about aol fondly because of that even though I don't use it anymore.
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@gtargirl (5376)
• United States
23 Oct 09
Oh, totally awesome. I never knew aol had such a thing. Nice to know. Anyhow, congrats to you and your hubby, what a wonderful story. May you have many, many more amazing years.
@getbrowser (1708)
• China
23 Oct 09
When it comes to this question, different people may have diffeent ideas.
From where I stand, Although surfing on the Internet is a part of our dailiy life, it is not a real life. Perhaps the best way to do that is to meet up the pair of you. It's really nice to chat, but it only makes sense if the virtual can survive reality.
The Internet is a virtual world and we shouldn't believe it readily.
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@bluray (408)
• Singapore
23 Oct 09
Hi dear
Love can surely happen online..Its no great deal..I have myself see lots of examples in the real life.,where a couple met online through some social networking sites,or matrimonial sites and got engaged ..
Its just a matter of chance..so pray to God may be you too get your dream man online...