Do yopu have regrets why you marry?
By janedell
@jndlponti (2402)
Philippines
October 23, 2009 2:08am CST
Hi myLotters... I have been married for a year and a half now. I felt so happy that I am. I never have any regrets of getting into this situation.I spent most of my time with my husband and our child. we even go malling together or going to the beach or just walking around. But my friend does. She said that it would be much better if she did not marry for she could do more things that she wanted to do before she got married. She is a girl who really loves to go out and always have a night life. Now that she is married she could not anymore for her husband do not allow her. And I do not think myself that it is still right to do night out that she is already married. How about you? Are you of the same situation to her? or like mine?
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5 responses
@SACHIN2708 (1634)
• India
17 Nov 09
I am not married so there is no regret but see people who regret in that situation when they choose wrong life partner because now when people talk each other so they say I am in love and they are in very fast to get married ,they dont understand nature of each other and when they live together then reality comes
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
18 Nov 09
That is true. Just because they thought they are in love with each other the decided right away that they wanted to get married. later when they would know the person better they tend not to like the person anymore and regrets a lot of thing specially why they married. So hope that one day when you decide to get married you should know the person better first before committing into a serious relationship.
@wunderful (55)
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5 Nov 09
I loved being married initially, but if your spouse is at all jealous or controlling, or underachieving themselves, then you start to loose your own self and become a different creature, therein I think lies the problem. You must be true to who you are, and your spouse should be a good foil for this in order for the marriage to suceed.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
8 Nov 09
I agree with that. But my freind situation is that her husband doesn't wanted her to still be involve on activities what she did before when she was not yet married. Her husband wanted her to stop going to clubs and bars since she was already married and have a children. She still longs to have her night life.
@larish (2213)
• Philippines
27 Oct 09
I am happy that I got married. I always look forward on what's gonna happen next. This is another stage of my love and I love to savor every second of it. I have njoy my life as single and I know I got married at the right time. Maybe your friend is not yet ready to marry that is why she is like that. Maybe she married for the wrong reasons. I hope your friend and her husband would be able to talk about their marriage.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
28 Oct 09
Thank you for responding to this discussion. Good for you that you have enjoyed your married life and glad that you did not regret anything about it.
Yes I hope so that both of them could talk so they could work out their marriage.
@buping (952)
• China
1 Nov 09
hi friend, i am happy for your marriage life, feel sorry for your friend. actually i am not married, but i am so self-confident about my life after marriage, i think everyone seem to know about her husband well if they consider their relationship to marriage, i know my fiancee would not interfere my life even i am married as i take good care of our baby.
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
3 Nov 09
Yah.. If you both respect each other and you know your responsibilities, limitations and obligations there would not be any problem at all.
I hope too that you could have a happy marriage soon... God bless... And thank you for responding to this discussion.
@wuxiang0704 (20)
• China
23 Oct 09
I do not regret why I marry.Maybe my husband regrets. He has the same thingking with your freind. Many things he could not to do now. Sometimes he was limited by some other thongs from family or by me. As his wafe,I don't know how to do? Because he was not happy when he couldn't do something what he wanted!
@jndlponti (2402)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
Is that so? Maybe you should have a talk with your husband about that. For me if my husband isn't happy I would not be happy either. Maybe you could talk of what are the things he need to avoid and stop already since he already have a family. And there are still other things he could do, as long as the family will not be put into an unecessary situation. I hope you could both get happy. And enjoy your time together. If he wanted to go out somewhere then tell him he could but with you and your baby.
