Do you feel that women are selfish by nature?
By think_twice
@think_twice (553)
India
October 23, 2009 5:22am CST
Some days ago a friend of me has visited my home. During our conversations I talked him about her girlfriend and he violently outbursts against that girl. She deceived him after taking a hugh number of favours, for some of which I am the witness and now after taking all the advantages for years from him she got relationship with another boy because of his richness. My friend is deeply frustrated because he is cheated for the 3rd time. I know my friend very much and he is sincere and faithfully but I don't understand why every time this is happening with him.
I still remember his shout "All women's are cheaters, selfish. They can do everything for money".
I tried to cool him down as I know his mental condition but at the same time a feelings come to me "Is his all words wrong ?". What do you say?
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9 responses
@sridharsahu (544)
• India
23 Oct 09
I do not believe this statement because some maybe.Most women are very giving.I have never come across such type of woman.
@think_twice (553)
• India
25 Oct 09
I congratulate you because you are one of the rarest person in this world who haven't got through such traumatizing experiences. Ask Several of your friends do all of them have the same experience like you or not? Nowadays I have seen that these type of experiences become so common. I have only discussed a single experience of me.
@soucalgirl (6)
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23 Oct 09
I do not believe that all women are selfish. I do not believe that all men are selfish either. In my opinion, it depends on the person. There are so many people in the world that are looking out for number 1 (themself), however there are so many people who would give everything they had for another person. Think of mothers for example, the majority of mothers are very very giving and selfless. They put their own lives in danger to bring children into the world. Then,they continue to care for their children; puting their children first. Anyone could be selfish or selfless, but it is too broad of a statement to say that women (in general) are selfish by nature.
@sblossom (2168)
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23 Oct 09
what are you talking?
I think by nature man and woman are both selfish. without doubt we should accept the nature.
you mentioned an example, but other people, especially women also can list the selfish behaviours men did to them.
As a member of women world I can say the selfishness maybe differently appear in men and women, but there is no difference in them by nature.
Also there is no right or wrong for this question. We just can give the answer base on our own special life experience.@think_twice (553)
• India
23 Oct 09
I don't deny you and nor do I support you. I have shared only one recent experience of me in myLot. I have lot of such experiences. Another one I am sharing. One of my student is studying in a private engineering college in India and 2 days ago he visited my home & shared his experiences in the college. He studied in the electrical Department where all the boys get low marks inspite of their hard work whereas all the female students scores 99 to 100% marks in their internal examination not because of hard work but by oiling the teachers,mostly gents. So don't they are taking untoward privileges ? What do you say? From the very beginning of their life these students are learning to take undue advantages. After all these things do you still say women don't take advantages?
After all I am not biased to any of the gender and I like to say men are not all the time free from guilt and good. These are only experiences and I am not supporting the men and nor the women.
@killersss (638)
• India
23 Oct 09
i don't think woman's are selfish at all, but i will have to say that woman's are selfish on some things like you said about her boy friend. i think all woman's are selfish on that part and they need to know that its not selfishness that takes a man's heart.
@think_twice (553)
• India
24 Oct 09
My friend's experience tells me that he was never being loved for any time, but only utilized to take advantages by his three sweethearts at different times of his life and ruined him mentally and emotionally. I have also seen these common incidents many times in my life in such an amount that it now turns as a fact to me.
@KMaroon (266)
• India
24 Oct 09
Hi think_twice,
I very sorry for whatever happened to your friend, I would say it is his bad luck that he loved such women. But it is true that all the women are like that, women are the other name of love. What ever he tell is not wrong because there are women who are really selfish, for such women love is not important. I would suggest your friend that let him not love any one for some time because one fine day God will definitely send a woman who love him but only him whole heartedly and let him wait for her and let him not get disheartened. Once this happen his life will be changed and there is only happiness in his life. So, it takes time for him to forget all those bad moments that happened in his life, let him take his own time and do believe in God. Have a nice day.
@riverblue (183)
• India
23 Oct 09
hi,I think there is no truth in saying either women are selfish or men are selfish.It all depends on the particular situations,and the way the other person
views his or her actions.I agree with ravenladyj's opinion.
@think_twice (553)
• India
24 Oct 09
I support you depending on the fact that situations sometimes forces a person to follow such actions. But I have explained previously the whole situation that how and why the boy is cheated for several times. It will be definitely foolish to say all are selfish. But I have so many experiences and seen such incidents so commonly that now it never effects me but hurts when it happens to a close one having good moral character and feelings. I have discussed only a single incidence in my discussion.
@msedge (4011)
• United States
23 Oct 09
I think it depends what kind of woman she is.Some women really are selfish but some are not.So we can't generalized that all women are.It also depends on the situation where a woman should be selfish for a good reason.
@Bianca_mergillano (1067)
• Philippines
24 Oct 09
No. I disagree. It depends on the person because not all women are selfish. Me, I'm a women and I've been cheated two times. I also have a girl friend who has been cheated too for a lot of times. it depends on the women because there are some women who abuses others because they're a women and they feel that the weakness of a man is a woman and that what I think the reason why some are selfish but I noticed that are doing those cheating for a purpose. Sometimes they do cheat but its not the will of their heart. But still, its wrong.
